11-year old son getting worse

by Yasmin Farria
(Frankfurt, Germany)

My son is now 11 years old and just started middle school. Even though my son was always a little behind in milestones when he was a baby ( crawling and walking delayed), he never raised any flags with the doctors. I always had a feeling that something was just different with my little boy, I had no idea, what exactly it was, I just knew, he is a sensitive guy and behind in fine and gross motor skills. The teachers didn't seem to have an answer either as of why his handwriting wasn't as neat or why he didn't perform well in PE.


I finally found an answer, when my son was 9 years old and I kinda came across a webpage in the internet and I immediately recognized my son and I knew, that he has SPD. We started OT right away and he made great progress in gross motor skills ( he finally learned to ride his bike with 10). We also started Hippo therapy about a year ago and overall he made progress.

However, over the last few months I noticed, that he is impacted emotionally more than ever and he has anxiety. If something small goes wrong, he will totally lose it and explode in anger and rage and he will be down for the rest of the day. I'm surprised by his behaviour because I have never seen this side on him before. Even though he always got frustrated very quickly, I was always able to get him out of it and help him get a positive attitude again. Now no matter what I say, it don't seem to help and any coping strategies are not successful.

Has anybody experienced this too and if so, what helped? I would appreciate any feedback.Thank you

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Brain Balance
by: Anonymous

My son is 11 and we experienced the same things around age 9. He has been in vision therapy, OT, and tutors. Same issues with fine motor etc which causes many issues at school and socially. This year I discovered Brain Balance Centers. In short, the theory is that the left & right sides of the brain do not process at the same speed. This is thought to be the cause of so much ADHD, asthma, autism and Aspergers. In 8 weeks his medication was cut in half, we had no medication during the summer, and for this school year his dose is close to that when he was in 1st grade. (He's in 5th.). The test indicated the right side of his brain was weaker that his left. I wasn't sure when I started but knew I would do anything to help him find success. It has changed our lives. Best of luck to you.

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Puberty/pre-puberty?
by: Anonymous

I have a daughter now 9 and we are going through the same thing. I also think it is linked to puberty. She said to me the other day "Mum, sometimes I feel so angry" and I liken her outbursts to when my son (now 7) went through the 4yr old testosterone burst. We were just starting to come to terms with SPD an manage to keep her on track and now we get waves of anger and at the same time increased sensitivities (SPD is worse). We are just coping with the 2nd wave at the moment and I'm sure it must be linked with surging hormones because last time she had a HUGE growth spurt as well. Is there any research on SPD and hormonal development?

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same anxiety but not giving up
by: paulette etcheberry

Dear friend:
breathe and take charge, go to a child neurologist so he can rule out any other central nervous system issues; does he has Hyperactivity attention deficit disorder?? Mine does. is he on medication? try to talk with him about his rage, the book Sensational Kids is quite good in giving us techniques on how to manage our sensory "crazy" kiddos but since mine really goes ballistic if somebody has changed his WII or told him to do stuff he does not want to do, my second choice will be a child psychologist who specializes in behavior. My son, acts out when he wants to punish me, yes, you heard it manipulation is the best tool to get your attention!! he is a control freak manipulative and I thought I was being his victim! Boundaries are a must get help from specialists not random opinions, pediatricians are good but not experts so take him to be evaluated and learn to be a witch. This has been more than emotional roller coaster since my husband and I have lots of fights about it but our kids need us know! best of luck

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11-year old son getting worse
by: Anonymous

Had same problem ....we think it may related to puberty.....also

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Spd
by: Katie

My 4 year old was had plenty signs of the sensory processing disorder and find it get worse as they age she had since 1year old and now receiving help with section 65 and she has made Gaines but will always have slot rage issues and have problems relating and close on the mr broader

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