12 year old SPD Girl out of Control

by Tammy
(Indiana)

I have a 12 year old girl out of control will not bathe, wash hair, listen, or do anything. Hates to get up in the morning. Wants to watch TV and play on her phone. Won't go to church anymore. Is strong enough to take her mother on. Acts fine out of the house but in the car or in our home is terrible. Won't go to doctor or therapy or take medication any more. Totally out of control. Doctors disagreed it was SPD for years even had all the signs now they think I was right but we have even bigger problems with no help.

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Feb 22, 2013
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Squish box help with aggression.
by: Anonymous

I have a 9 year old girl that has melt downs that can become very aggressive. She was only recently diagnosed with SPD. One thing that has worked really well for her, at the recommendation of her occupational therapist, is a squish box. Give the child a small place to go that is packed tightly with pillows and/or stuffed animals. This place should be in an area with low light and silence or with some soft music if they like it. They may need to stay in there for a period of time and you will need to let them come out on their own. This aggression happens because they go into fight or flight mode when the brain becomes too overwhelmed. Please remember they are not doing this by choice. Allowing the brain time to reset will bring your child back. If they are not already getting treatment with an occupational therapist you may want to seek one out. SPD can also cause anxiety disorder. My daughter also sees a counselor for that. I hope you and your child find this helpful.

Feb 12, 2013
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by: Anonymous

Does anyone know of an in patient center for teens who have not been diagnosed with SPD who has such anger issues that they are out of control?

Feb 12, 2013
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8 year old with same issues
by: Janice

Thank you for your post. It is discouraging, as no one wants to discuss the aggressive side of SPD. My 8 year is very aggressive, so we are using Intunive to calm him down so that he can absorb school work and instruction. That is working, but when he comes home from school is starts wearing off and he is in time out most of the time for cursing or throwing things. It seems like he is too old for time out, and your seem to be taking away priveleges too. But those tools don't seem to curb the bad behavior and mean spirit. I once thought he was aggressive as a way to push me away because he was getting too much stimulation from my voice or my questions, but now I think he is just hurtful as a way to control his situation. It is a very fine line between SPD causing their agressive reactions, and the child misbehaving because they are angry. If you find out anything, please post. All the best.

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