8 year old with SPD has trouble with DAYTIME wetting...........any suggestions?

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8 year old with SPD has trouble with DAYTIME wetting...........any suggestions?

by Susie
(Israel)

My 8 year old son was diagnosed with SPD about a year ago. Among other things, he is still not able to keep his pants dry during the day. He says he doesn't feel it. We have had many visits to a variety of different health care professionals (both conventional and alternative). We have tried everything from sticker charts to beeping watches, acupuncture to bio-feedback, OT and more!

He is going into 3rd grade and STILL WETS HIS PANTS.

Does anyone out there have a similar problem? We feel so alone with this. It is common for kids to wet their bed some still at this age, but he is actually DRY at night..........it's just that when he is busy doing something (anything), he does not get the message from his body to stop and pee.

HELP PLEASE...

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Nov 19, 2009
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Bed Wetting
by: GrantD

Hi, my daughter is 7 yrs. She has not had a problem with bed wetting or daytime wetting but approx 5 months ago she stared wetting at night then during the day. It was not due to stress or infections. If you haven't had your doctor check for infections get that done first. This is what we did and so far it seems to be improving;

We are getting her to drink more during the day to increase her bladder size

We remind her to go to the bathroom more regularly and get her to go at the start of each break at school and end of lunch break.

We get her to do her wee then wait 20sec and try again - this helps girls as some can stay inside and leak later, maybe it will work with boys too?

She doesn't have SPD's but struggles to keep focused on drinking and regular breaks. We just had a weeks holiday and were able to 'enforce' her drinking and bathroom breaks and this has helped. Obviously at school there are a lot more distractions and difficulties keeping youngsters on track. If you can get the teacher sending him off to the bathroom that would help but they generally have other priorities.

Good luck.

Nov 18, 2009
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Like Mother like son
by: Victoria G

I am not sure if this will be of any help. As a child I know that when I got busy I did not like stopping what I was doing to go to the bathroom and so I wet my underwear (how frequently I am unsure) until sometime between 8 and 9 years old. It drove my father crazy which didn't help. My son has had a similar issue but with bm's. Especially at school and especially in Kindergarten and Grade 1 he would come home almost daily with heavily soiled underwear. Yet over the summers the problem seemed to dissipate. He would swear up and down that he couldn't feel anything, or that it would come too quickly.

This year is much better but a number of things have changed. Firstly, for the past year and a bit I have been treating this as a time management issue and not a potty-training issue. I have told him at school to go to the bathroom at all available breaks and before and after lunch/recreation break-time.

Secondly, I have removed my emotional attachments and issues over the problem -- i.e. I never get upset over what has happened, I only help him get changed when he needs it and offer love and I try to provide a lot of encouragement when things go well. I am sure that many things have contributed to the improvement, but I certainly know that once I stopped having an emotional reaction to his soiling his pants, things got slowly but surely better.

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Nov 18, 2009
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I am not sure if this will be of any help. As a child I know that when I got busy I did not like stopping what I was doing to go to the bathroom and so I wet my underwear (how frequently I am unsure) until sometime between 8 and 9 years old. It drove my father crazy which didn't help. My son has had a similar issue but with bm's. Especially at school and especially in Kindergarten and Grade 1 he would come home almost daily with heavily soiled underwear. Yet over the summers the problem seemed to dissipate. He would swear up and down that he couldn't feel anything, or that it would come too quickly. This year is much better but a number of things have changed. Firstly, for the past year and a bit I have been treating this as a time management issue and not a potty-training issue. I have told him at school to go to the bathroom at all available breaks and before and after lunch/recreation break-time. Secondly, I have removed my emotional attachments and issues over the problem -- i.e. I never get upset over what has happened, I only help him get changed when he needs it and offer love and I try to provide a lot of encouragement when things go well. I am sure that many things have contributed to the improvement, but I certainly know that once I stopped having an emotional reaction to his soiling his pants, things got slowly but surely better.

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Jul 27, 2009
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yes I feel your pain
by: Anonymous

my son is going into the 2nd grade and we send clothes with him to make sure if he has a accident he will have a change of clothes . the doctor told us it was anxiety and the anxiety cause a over reactive bladder sorry nothing you can do about it, but encourage to use the bathroom even if they don't have to go. but that didn't work for use at least once a week he was having accident in school seems to be fine most of the time at home but it still does happen once in a while.

Jul 25, 2009
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My son has the same problem
by: Anonymous

He will be 8 in September. It took him what seemed like forever to control his bowels during the day, and still wets his pants a little every day. We just started OT and the therapist said she has had some success with another boy using some reflex exercises: spinal galant and perez (?) The theory is that these children have not overcome, if that is the right word, these reflexes in infancy and so are not able to advance. We do the exercises with our son 3x a week, plus he sees the OT once a week. You said you did OT, I don't know if they tried this. Good luck, I know how you feel.

Jul 24, 2009
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Similar Problem
by: Anonymous

I have a five year old grandson with SPD. We've made progress with him using the toilet to do his BM's but it was a struggle. He can't seem to tell us also that he has to urinate. We put him on the potty approximately every 1 and 1/2 to 2 hours and I can keep him dry that way. I've tried his big boy underwear, but he's had a few accidents. He will start kindergarten in the fall and I am concerned that he is not toilet trained. I really don't know what to advise in this situation. It seems as though you've tried every outlet. I make him go potty before bed and first thing when he gets up. Most of the time he is dry. I pray every night that these children with SPD will grow into adult hood being able to function and be independent. My grandson is close to "normal" but he has issues that he appears odd to other children and adults. Good luck and God Bless!

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