Adult Tactile Defensiveness
I am nearly 40, happily married for 15 years with 3 children. I have never been great with hugs and kisses, but recently I have found it increasingly difficult to tolerate intimate touch from my husband. It has nothing to do with the quality of our relationship, as I love, cherish and respect him completely. But I find his affectionate advances, and foreplay in particular, highly irritating. I have to grit my teeth and force myself not to pull away or curl up to protect myself. The sensation of touch is totally over-stimulating in a highly unpleasant way. I have asked him not to touch me lightly, but he really doesn't get it. I fear that it will soon become a significant problem. Our oldest son, 9, is currently having OT for mild SPD, and I use the brushing protocol on him. Would this help me?
Can I do it without having to see an OT myself?