Child dislikes water

by Michelle
(Calif)

My child almost 8 can not stand getting his hands wet. Even when it is hot out you can see he is not liking the idea of getting in the pool. He says he doesn't like his fingers to get wrinkly and clinches his hands into fist so nothing can touch them. It seems to be getting worse. I have not found anyone who has dealt with this. Please help with advise if you have. Thank you.

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Nov 25, 2016
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I feel your pain!
by: Anonymous

Ugh, Ugh ugh ugh! At least i'm not alone. I HATE getting my hands all pruney. And I also hate how my family doesn't take it into consideration that I feel this way. A couple days ago, I finally found the courage to ask for gloves, and my mom got mad at me. Thank the lord that i'm not alone with this problem, and others have it, but, I need to shower in a couple of minutes, and I don't want to. I know showering is vital, and I like it, but I only rush out of it because of my hands. Wish me luck :(

Sep 18, 2016
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Wow incredible!!!
by: Coralee

My daughter is 8, and everyday is a struggle to get her in the shower and dressed. She refuses to wash her own hair and to use body wash because "my hands get soft" she says, I used to think she was playing me, until Tonight she was in tears over her "soft hands" I literally had to dress her.

She won't hold my hand if she has had a shower or swim or bath that day cause she can't stand the way I feel. Lol... She even holds her hands super tight so her nails dig into her palms. Should I be worried? I have to pry her hands open with her screaming at me to stop cause I thought she was making it up... So now that I know it is a problem, and it does exist, what can I do to help her..

I see alot of the same story's but no reason why this is happening to our children. Super frustrating cause I see how this affects her, what can I do? And what is causing this? Does she have a sensory overload issue? Autism? Will it go away? She hates loud noises too... However we are both very boisterous. It hurts me to see her struggle in school cause she won't touch a paper or pencil with "soft hands" please help us.

Sep 03, 2016
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is there any cure ?
by: Anonymous

I know how your poor son feels because i have the same problem . i dont know if there is any cure for this or i have to suffer from this for the rest of my life

Jul 18, 2016
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This page has helped me understand my son's reaction to water.
by: Anonymous

Hi,so glad I found these comments to know my son isn't alone. Like the person who last commented, my son refuses showers and bushing his teeth due to how water makes him feel. He screams when we force the shower. And he also has the same reaction to the feel and sound of paper. My son has immune deficiency and metal toxicity that is causing these sensory issues. Good luck to everyone with this sensory issue. I can't imagine how you all must feel!

Jun 22, 2016
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Sensory issues to water, paper, textile
by: Anonymous

Hi, my 12yo refuses to shower or brush his teeth due to the painful type sensation he gets when his body is wet, I can see the physical response he has (goose bumps etc). He also has the same response with paper...the touch and sound of it, many textiles (he has one set of sheets he will sleep on), and textures of every day objects. It has got to the stage where it really impacts on his every day life (and mine). He will not use lotion as this also gives him the unpleasant feelings, I'd love to hear anymore suggestions anyone may have. Thanks

Jun 11, 2016
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Painful hands after water exposure
by: Anonymous

My daughter, now 12 years old, has had this since she was 4. We tried everything and her solution was, and still is, wearing socks and gloves (the small cotton/poly pair you can find at Walmart, the dollar store, drug stores) temporarily after exposure to water. It stops the pain right away.

Jun 08, 2016
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I'm not alone in this world!!
by: Lori Salsbury

I have, up until now, NEVER met or heard of anyone with this condition. Everyone I have asked has no clue.

I hate showers because it is upwards of an hour after before my hands and feet feel normal again, and that is after 3-5 applications of lotion.

I hate public restrooms because I know everyone (except me) washes their hands after...but I don't. I get talked about at work when I don't wash my hands before eating, but what they don't understand is that I CAN'T.

But y'all understand!!

Add me on FB if you want.

May 03, 2016
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Omg I'm so happy I've found yall!!
by: Brittanh

I am almost in tears!! I really thought I was not normal or something was wrong with me!!! For as long as I can remember I have to have lotion on my hands and feet multiple times after getting them wet. I just cringe if im not around my lotion and they get wet. Getting out of the pool I have to clinch my fists or hold them against my skin. I dread my showers because my recovery time is a few hours!!! Especially with my feet! Again same with me the ocean doesn't affect me hardly at all! Jergens lotion has been my best friend for about 15 years!!

Feb 10, 2016
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Weinkly hands
by: Anonymous

I am a final year student nurse and we have to wash our hands every 5 minutes nearly and it is agony for me because i cannot stand the way it feels to have wet hands touvhing things or getting wrinkly iv had this since i was a baby and dint want to have a shower/bath beacause my hands would get wrinkly :(:(:( its horrible esp if i touch my other hand or someone elses hand tips mine when they are wrinkly or cardboard can anyone help . Labels also cause me irritation to my skin and it goes all red and itchy so its not in my head

Jan 09, 2016
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What a relief
by: Anonymous

I'm nearly 30. I have been a water baby all my life. The only secret I've ever kept at bay is my sensitivity on my hands and feet after a shower or swim. After a shower, I cannot touch a thing-I usually have to squeeze my fists together and lurch for my jug of lotion-I like toe diabetic kind, as it is thick and coats my skin best. No one has ever known except for my partner. I am good at keeping it a secret even in the summer, I always have sun block and people see me opening it but I don't think they see me slathering it on my hands and feet so much. This has been rough all my life. I can't explain the sensitivity. It just gives me the heebeejeebies to think about it. I've waited up to 2 hour for my hands to 'cure' before touching anything. Either holding my hands in a fist or sitting on them on a flat surface like sealed wood. The most desperate scenario I have been in is putting lipgloss on my hands i na desperate attempt to resolve the sensitivity when I didn't have lotion. Glad to see there are others out there. What is the name for this?

Jan 03, 2016
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I'm the same!
by: Anonymous

I'm 15 and I have had this for as long as I can remember, I thought I was the only one! I use a cream and it is called neutrogena and that's the best cream I have had hope that helps

Dec 20, 2015
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Me too!!!
by: Anonymous

I'm only 12 and it had this problem for as long as I can remember! The only thing that kind of works is a lot of lotion and even that dose t to the job. Almost everyone thinks I'm just messing around and doesn't get it. I wish there was a cure!

Nov 07, 2015
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another piece of the puzzle
by: trying to help 20yr old son with this

My 20 yr old son CANNOT touch anything after he gets out of the shower. He has found that moisturizer helps a lot. Interestingly, he always enjoyed doing all sorts of messy art projects as a child, maybe because we always had so much fun doing it together. We are looking at other aspects of SPD that might be affecting him as well. He has also been oversensitive to smells. Because he has plenty of younger, louder siblings he has learned to deal with a LOT of his sensitivities. What was very annoying has served to help him greatly.

Oct 23, 2015
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Same problem
by: Anonymous

I am 15, and ever since I remember I hate my fingers after the shower or pool because it gets wrinkly. I can't touch my own fingers, other people's hands and the same thing with toes, I usually put socks on right after the shower. I even have swim gym at school and it is hard for me to hold the pencil for the next class, I was thinking it could be a sign on OCD but I'm not sure. Anybody have any advice?

Sep 17, 2015
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i hate when my hands get wet
by: zoe

im 13 and when i was 4 i went swimming with my dad and brothers and i loved it but when i turned 12 i got a pool and i got out and my hands went dry and i never liked it and i had no lotion so i put gloves on my hands and it were ok so when my mum got some lotion everytime i have a shower or bath or go swimming i always bring lotion and it works :) and about 5 mins ago cos its 16:28 17/9/2015 i had a shower and got my hands wet and my mum told me to put on some lotion and i had to go to get it so i got my gloves and got it and now i can type and touch my hands lol i also had to put it on my feet

Aug 22, 2015
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oh my!
by: Crystal

i have it so bad I've used BJ fish bait when fishing after getting my hands wet because I didn't have lotion

Jun 30, 2015
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i think I understand
by: Anonymous

i have had this for as long as i can remember and i believe that this is some sort of reaction to what we put in water in order to clean it, such as chlorine. I think this is the cause because when i go in the ocean my hands feel fine after and when i go in a pool the feeling is intensified majorly compared to if i just took a shower since pools have more chlorine than tap water. Also, a week ago i went to mexico and i was warned not to drink the water because they dont do much to clean the water compared to the united states... and oddly enough, after showering there my hands and feet felt fine....

May 15, 2015
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Dryness after wet hands
by: Anonymous

I have had this problems since I was kid. Washing my hands, showers swimming etc I have to put lotion on for hours to get it to feel "normal". As a kid my parents told me I had this disgusting habbit (I agree) of spitting on my hands to try and make the dryness go away. This effects my feet as well. Is there anything I can do to help with this? I want to live a life where this isn't an issue. Any help would be great.

Feb 05, 2015
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I've suffered from this for years!
by: Anonymous

The only thing that's ever is lots and lots of moisturizing cream. A few years ago, I started taking showers right before bed so most of the recovery process took place while I was asleep. Even now, showering isn't something I look forward too. Strangely enough, seawater doesn't have the same effect. I can submerge my hands in the ocean and have no difficulty touching dry surfaces afterwards.

Nov 11, 2014
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Thought I was the only one!
by: Anonymous

Keri Lotion is the only thing that has ever worked for me. It is very thick and makes the feeling go away fairly quickly. I don't know what I would do if they ever went out of business!!


Oct 13, 2014
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try Lotion
by: Anonymous

Oh wow FINALLY! I thought I was the only person with this problem. I am addicted to lotion because of this reason. If my hands get wet at all I have to put on lotion immediately before I can touch anything. Before lotion I'd cringe and freak out. Lotion is the only thing I've found that has helped me deal with this problem.

Sep 11, 2014
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Am I the Only One??
by: Anonymous

I have the same problem. My mom thinks I'm weird, i just can stand it but really gets me is that if my hands do get wet i can't touch my hands together or touch anyone else's hand I physically can't if I do i get chills and feel like I'm going to throw up. Am i the only one? Just typing this paragraph gave me chills.

Sep 05, 2014
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Im not the only one!
by: Anonymous

Its an indescribable discomfort! Its so frustrating becasue nothing will cure it!

Aug 21, 2014
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Me too!
by: Claire

I have that too! I'm actually a hopeful Olympic athlete, so I just have to deal with it, but we've made it so I don't have to touch paper, cardboard, or anything like that until my hands dry because I can't stand it.

Jul 17, 2014
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Wow
by: Anonymous

I really thought that I was the only one, I'm 15 years old and I just gave up touching water, I just can't stand it. I take a bath once a month, but I wash my hair every week with gloves. And if I touch water I must put lotion on.

May 13, 2014
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Wow! Me too!
by: Amy

I'm almost 30 and I have always wondered what is wrong with me. Ever since I was little, after taking a bath, swimming or washing my hands, I would have this undescribable feeling in my hands and had to either lick them, sit on a smooth wood chair and have my hands under me or clench my fists. Once I was to the age that I knew about lotion, I always immediately have to apply lotion to my hands. I avoid washing them in the bathroom or if I have to, I keep lotion in my purse. The feeling of cloth especially freaks me out if I don't apply lotion fast enough. At home, I get out of the shower and immediately apply lotion, a lot of times repeating it until the feeling goes away. When I went swimming, I had to have lotion right when I got out of the pool because hands touching a towel after so long without lotion, makes me squeamish! The only lotion that really works for me is Suave. I have always used that and it's not because it's cheap. I have found that it is the only lotion that really takes that feeling away. Wow!! Glad to know that I'm not alone but what is this called? Is there a diagnosis??

May 10, 2014
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This helps me and my girl.
by: Anonymous

Me and my youngest daughter has this problem. We found that using a light lotion followed up with a heavier lotion speeds up the time to when we can touch irritating items. Its painful to touch almost anything after our hands get wet. It does get less sensetive as i get older but i still need lotion. I have attributed this issue with my ability to find pain in others by a touch and many times healing pain in others with my hands. Its very amazing how this awful curse of sensitive hands has been a blessing to those in pain. My daughter hands are the same.I wouldnt trade it.

Apr 21, 2014
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hard time washing hands and showering
by: Anonymous

my son has this same issue. Showers are difficult. I have to put latex gloves on him. And he washes with hand wipes.if he does wash with water..it takes a day for his hands feel normal.

Apr 11, 2014
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NOT ALONE!
by: Anonymous

I've had the same problem all my life. Ever since I was a kid I was very confused because I could not write anything in class if I had just washed my hands. Just thinking about the feeling sends shivers down my spine. I feel it mostly in my hands and feet. I can't touch paper or cardboard or certain types of wood or any type of clothing or cloths.

The only way I can deal with it is using the buttery sort of lotions that stay on the skin to act as a barrier between my hands and whatever I'm touching.

I don't understand the cause and wondering if it is genetic because my mother has the same thing although she got it when she was older.

I wish I knew what to call "it".

I am glad I decided to finally google this today to know that I am not crazy.

Mar 06, 2014
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sensory problems hands and feet
by: Anonymous

Wow my son is 11 and he has always had this problem
Were after a shower, swimming. Etc he can not touch anything with his hands or feet for hours he licks his hands and says everything his feet touch,tiles carpet. His feet hurt,his hands hurt he goes off yelling. About the feel of his hands and feet ever night l am going to get it properly seen to as he has learning problems and sleeping. Problem he falls asleep o.k but wakes and gets out if his bed every night about 12:00am and refuses to go to sleep in his own bed as he says he's scared and pulls out a spare mattress and sleeps on it in the lounge outside my bedroom door,he hasent sleep the whole night in his bed for 3 years he always has had a sleeping issue ever since he was born, his sensory problems have got worse lately and moisturizer is no longer helping

Jan 06, 2013
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I'm glad to learn about it
by: Anonymous

My son is two and a half, and I was wondering why he hates water on his hands , he will cry until get dry. He is ok with a bath but no showers or water falling into his hands. Is there any specialist that treat this, besides the gloves and lotions?please help!!!

Nov 13, 2011
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SENSORY DISORDER
by: GRANT

hi i have had this all my life,it won`t get better....they aint feeling pain there confusing the feeling....imagine running your fingers down a chalk board it isnt nice well with this disorder thats the feeling and it takes hrs sometimes upto 2 days for it too go....i avoid contact with water as much as possible.....theres loads of people out there with it the only slight help is eczema cream but it takes a while too work....sometimes the greasiness of creams is just as bad...it`ll be be just a case of putting up with the clenched hands and loads of other symptoms

http://ehealthforum.com/health/can-t-touch-cloth-with-wet-hands-t143541.html theres a few people here

Aug 27, 2011
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Chlorine Sensitivity
by: Anonymous

Hi Charlotte - I just read your comment and know exactly what you are going through. We did go to a pediatric neurologist who suggested Occupational Therapy to "retrain" his hands to tolerate water -- this is kind of like cognitive behavioral therapy. We haven't done this yet because just the thought of "therapy" to Chris seemed to be worse than the sensitivity of his hands. What I have discovered on my own is that a lot of people have a chlorine sensitivity or allergy. I believe that is the cause of our situation. Chris doesn't have the same reaction to water when he swims in the river -- only with baths and washing his hands. This may be the same situation with your child although that wouldn't explain the hand sanitizer. There is a product called, "DermaSwim" that swimmers use for chlorine sensitivity. It seems to help a little but it does wash off quickly Just google it and you will see the website. There is also a product called, "Wonder Glove" that hospital professional use on their hands because they wash them so much. It apparently doesn't wash off until after 3 -4 four washes so it may provide a better barrier. We haven't tried that one yet. Good luck.

Aug 23, 2011
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Same symptoms
by: Charlotte

My daughter is 8 and has had these same symptoms since she was 3 or 4. She hates a shower because then her hands and feet "hurt" as she says and she can't touch ANYTHING after she has had one. She just got out of the shower in which I made her wash her whole body and use her hands. She let me know "now you have to feed me my snack, because I can't touch anything with my hands." She even needs help getting dressed. She refuses to wash her hands ever and as well uses hand sanitizer. She loves to go swimming but for hours after clenches her hands and toes up and wont do anything. Its very frustrating! My mom says we need to work on desensitizing them by brushing them with a hair brush. She says I was like it when I was really young and that is what they told her to do with me, of course she wont let us do it.

Apr 03, 2011
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Exact Same Symptoms
by: Charis

I am in shock to have just read about your child. My son is 12 and started having the EXACT same reaction to water on his hands about 18 months ago. He has had to quit the swim team because it has gotten so bad. He won't wash his hands (uses hand sanitizer) and after his shower at night, he clinches his hands and goes crazy if he touches any kind of paper. His pediatrician just made an appointment for him with a pediatric neurologist to test for sensory problems. I will post the results and what kind of treatment we pursue. Thank you for posting this - it is good to know there are others who understand exactly what you are experiencing. Good luck to you and your child!

Feb 20, 2011
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Hypersensitivity
by: Letha Marchetti OTR/L

Since the hands are specialized for sensation - lots more nerve endings than most other places on the body, they are often an area of issue when a child is hypersensitive.

Occupational therapists deal with this sort of thing. It's not uncommon with SPD children. Call around and find an OT who is a match. You'll both be happier for it.

Jan 19, 2011
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possible idea?
by: Anonymous

Is there any kind of waterproof glove that will seal around his wrist to keep water out? Is that the only part of his body that is sensitive to water? These are the first ideas that come to mind. I will keep thinking about this and post again if I come up with any other suggestions.

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