Daytime pant wetting at almost 8yr

My son is almost 8 years old. He is still having issue with day time pant wetting. This can range from damp with slight urine smell to a full out wetting of the pants. He is dry and always has been dry at night.


This has been an issue for about 4 years now. We have tested for diabeties and he has been to a urologist. For all intent purpose he is normal. The urologist felt this was a behavior issue. He is too focused on whatever he is doing to use the potty. My son is a bright intelligent kid and knows right from wrong. I have trouble thinking my son would choose to wet his pants and risk punishment just because he was playing. I'm confused, does he or not have control over wet pants? Is SPD a physical or an emotional issue?

I am at my wits end. The school is now involved. I'm not sure if his teacher is now hypersensitive to his issue(smell). Is she picking on him or is she is looking out for him. Regardless, he is very unhappy and for a sweet sensitive little boy he is becoming vocal and lashing out at school. I'm afraid he will get a reputation as a troubled child, I need help and advice from anyone who is or has been in my shoes.

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Nov 06, 2015
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wet pants
by: Anonymous

My 10 year old son wears diapers and plastic pants to school. He has learned that if he wets his pants he has to stay that way until he gets home.

Most of the time he comes home and has not wet his pants. He wears diapers and plastic pants 24/7, as he is also a bed wetter.

His mother has tried to potty train him with little success. He is an excellent student at school. He is teased by other kids at school for wearing diapers and plastic pants at his age, but he has learned to ignore their taunts. His mother says she will continue to try to potty train him until he doesn't need to year diapers any longer.

Sep 29, 2013
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Daytime wetting for 8 yr old
by: Kelly

My son, also 8, had the same issue last year. I spoke with a physiotherapist that specialized in incontinence issues. She explained that my sons bladder would only be able to hold urine for approx. 3-4 hours before it would spasm and release some urine or all depending on fluid intake that day. She suggested we put him on timed bathroom schedule of gong every 3 hours. This would ensure that a strong message would be relayed to his brain. If we sent him every two hours (as I had been doing) the message would not be as strong. It took the whole summer but, finally at the beginning of August he looked up and declared that he had to go to the bathroom because he felt a tingling sensation. And that is how it has been ever since and it does seem to be every three hours that he has to go! I hope this helps.

Jul 07, 2013
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by: Khat

i belong to an SPD support group; this is a common problem and not a psychological one. Of course he is acting out! There appears to be a developmental issues with some SPD children. They can't feel the same urgency that they will when they mature. My child was 7 before she was able to sense when she needed to urinate, all the time, and usually holds it in too long.

It isn't a "potty training issue: and certainly, the teacher needs to be sensitive to your son (not demeaning). Our OT helped with strategies for this problem which eventually, resolved. I hope your son is doing well.

Feb 17, 2013
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wetting
by: Anonymous

- SPD is a central nervous system disorder, i.e., physical. Sounds like you are at the place to have him evaluated by a psychologist. It's the combination of of pant wetting with anger/lashing out that is troublesome - i would want to rule out both emotional and physical trauma. Good luck.
your school counselor or RN should be able to give you a referral to an appropriate therapist

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