Does my husband have Aspergers or SPD?

by Jenna
(Findlay, Ohio)

Hi I married my husband about a year and a half ago, and shortly after we found out we were blessed with a baby. Our son is now 6 months old already! After we were married, we moved in together and I noticed my husband making odd sounds in the bathroom. He was starring down into space and making sounds "ppppshhht" snapping his fingers and hand flapping. When I asked him what he was doing he said he sometimes "day dreams". I notice he always does this when he is excited by sports and video games. He now does this more often, in the car or when he thinks no one is paying attention. He says that he just does it and doesnt know why.. .sometimes he doesnt realize hes doing it. I never saw him do this when we were dating-but of course he was on his best behavior!He is very affectionate and loves to touch me.

When he does not get his way or disagrees about something he overreacts or begins a temper tantrum and locks himself in the bedroom and pouts. He is extremely high functioning. He has an amazing job and just completed his Masters degree. I asked his friend about my husband hand flapping and he said he had done that since they met in preschool. I am a teacher at a school for Autism but Im noticing many of his quirks now. I love him unconditionally and I can accept this but its hard when he gets to be bullheaded. Do we need counseling or should I just accept this and forget?