My 28month old daughter has just started early intervention services for speech language delays expressive and receptive, and what my husband and I believe is SPD, however this exact terminology has not been used by our service coordinator. Our concerns are that the service coordinator who sees our daughter is a licensed social worker, not a speech pathologist or occupational therapist.
Whenever we bring up concerns with her i.e. our daughter refusing to eat certain textures of food and actually eating her younger brother's baby food out of absolute hunger or the intense tantrums she has out of frustration with difficulty communicating, she seems to dismiss these concerns as our daughter wanting to be the baby, or something other than the real issue. I think that she means well and does offer some great suggestions at times, but I am concerned that my daughter is going to be transitioned out of EI in a few months and will not get the services that we feel she is going to need throughout her life especially in the school setting. I am a nurse so I do have medical knowledge, however I am not an OT/PT/SLP. I guess my question is two-fold.
1. Is it wrong that we took it upon ourselves to have our pediatrician refer our daughter for an OT/SLP eval without using our service coordinator via EI? (She has said that she doesn't think our daughter needs these services as far as she can see)
2. How do we get our EI coordinator to take this more seriously without creating a tense relationship since this is in effect the person who will be responsible for our daughters transition into IEP at age 3?