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My daughter has issues with tags, socks her shoes need to be a certain way, etc. Now for 6 months after she goes to the bathroom she claims she cannot get dry enough. She had been tested numerous times for urinary and bladder infection, there is none.

She can be in the bathroom for 10 minutes wiping and trust me she is dry but says she still feels wet. The urologist sees nothing urological wrong with her and I am at my wits end!! Does anyone else deal with this?

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Nov 20, 2009
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original poster here a year later
by: Anonymous

Hi, I am the original poster of this thread. Last Thanksgiving was my breaking point with my 7 year old daughter as she was out of her mind uncomfortable when we were away for Thanksgiving, In April I had her evaluated for Sensory Processing Disorder by an OT. Make sure to get with an Ocupational Therapist that specializes in Sensory disorders. They did a test on her (a long test) and determined she had a mild case of SPD and could benefit from therapy. We have been going every week. I live in VA and drive to MD each week for this as there were none around me. We are nearing the end of her treatment and I must say, I have a different child. Now I will preface this with she is not free of all of her symptoms. But... she gets dressed BY HERSELF in the morning and still has some toileting issues, but not the severity she had and I am not involved in it at all. (I used to have to be in teh bathroom with her and it broke my heart to see her wiping so much) She still wipes hard, but not as much. She can tie her shoes without me helping her get them so tight that circulation was cut off. We still have tag and sock issues, but they are so minor than what we were dealing with. I just get seamless socks and cut tags. The pediatrician tried to make me think this was OCD and that she needed a pshycologist. I went with my gut and I feel good about it. My ped did not even have an OT to refer me to because I do not think she believed in SPD. You will run into that. I am fearful as we stop treatment in December, but I feel that we are in a better place this year. Good luck to everyone, I am curious to see your outcomes. It is nice to know we are not alone. I will check this post more often, I did not know there were other posts.

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Nov 20, 2009
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Hi, I am the original poster of this thread. Last Thanksgiving was my breaking point with my 7 year old daughter as she was out of her mind uncomfortable when we were away for Thanksgiving, In April I had her evaluated for Sensory Processing Disorder by an OT. Make sure to get with an Ocupational Therapist that specializes in Sensory disorders. They did a test on her (a long test) and determined she had a mild case of SPD and could benefit from therapy. We have been going every week. I live in VA and drive to MD each week for this as there were none around me. We are nearing the end of her treatment and I must say, I have a different child. Now I will preface this with she is not free of all of her symptoms. But... she gets dressed BY HERSELF in the morning and still has some toileting issues, but not the severity she had and I am not involved in it at all. (I used to have to be in teh bathroom with her and it broke my heart to see her wiping so much) She still wipes hard, but not as much. She can tie her shoes without me helping her get them so tight that circulation was cut off. We still have tag and sock issues, but they are so minor than what we were dealing with. I just get seamless socks and cut tags. The pediatrician tried to make me think this was OCD and that she needed a pshycologist. I went with my gut and I feel good about it. My ped did not even have an OT to refer me to because I do not think she believed in SPD. You will run into that. I am fearful as we stop treatment in December, but I feel that we are in a better place this year. Good luck to everyone, I am curious to see your outcomes. It is nice to know we are not alone. I will check this post more often, I did not know there were other posts.

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Nov 19, 2009
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happy to see im not the only worried mom out here!
by: Jamie

Omg... I seriously started crying reading these comments! My daughter will be 5 Dec.7. She just started excessive wiping and dribbling in her panties problem a month ago! It is terrible. She wipes SO hard over and over. She's also been wetting her panties often. She tested negative for a uti.she has also been so grouchy and mean lately! It also takes 15 mins of fighting on a outfit for her to wear to school, every morning. She's also started being scared of dark. Its been very strange seeing my 4 yr old little girl change in the last month.ps I would NEVER think a 4 year old can have OCD?! Please email me if u have any answers! Branin2@comcast.net (Jamie)

Jul 08, 2009
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PANDAS
by: Anonymous

My 5 yr old started the excessive wiping after urinating a few months ago (along with clothing and eating issues). She was diagnosed with pandas. Pediatric autoimmune neuropsychiatric disorder associated with strep. If your child had a sudden onset of OCD like behavoirs- please consider pandas. Have your ped do a strep test. Although there are no easy answers for pandas, it is helpful to have a diagnosis. check out www.Latitudes.org for a great forum...

Jul 01, 2009
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My daughter did this
by: Anonymous

My four year old daughter has done this, also. About six months ago she started doing it, getting up from the toilet, pull her panties up and then go back and re-wipe over and over saying she was still wet. I took her to the doctor and was told she was severely constipated and this can cause the bladder not to empty fully, and then to leak. She stopped for a while, but still does the same thing occasionally. Today, she was diagnosed with SPD due to other issues she is having. Now I am beginning to wonder whether it was indeed part of the SPD. I don't know if this will be of any help, but just wanted to share what (kind of) worked for us.

May 08, 2009
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ongoing
by: Brenna

It seems that my daughter started this after many prescriptions for antibiotics which caused a yeast infection. Then the meds given for the yeast infection made her very dry and uncomfortable. Ever since then (about 6 months ago) she has been wiping excessively and complaining that she is wet. I am wondering if this has happened with anyone else? I can't figure out what started it and why.

May 07, 2009
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many thanks
by: Anonymous

I came across this page thru tears of frustration, feeling like a failure as a mom. My daughter is 12 years old and I have had the hardest time understanding the excessive wiping,often using a whole roll of toilet paper, tag cutting on clothes, extreme germ phobia. Thank you for showing me that we are not alone. I read someone's post that said they can "hop around" and one thing that bothers them one month may not bother them the next. With that in mind, is there any suggestions other than professional help? I have concerns about "forcing" my daughter to speak to a doctor about it and I am very leary of her being prescribed medications. (I've seen kids turn into zombies on some of the meds they prescribe these days.)

I don't want to make her feel like she is doing something wrong or in trouble. I have tried to explain/reason with her why she does these things and why they are unnecessary, but for some reason I can't get through to her. It's frustrating because she is a good girl. She listens and does what she is told, but when it comes to this, she thinks she knows better than me. Any suggestions? It's not that I am unwilling to take her to a doctor, I just was hoping that isn't our only option. Again, thanks for any suggestions.

May 01, 2009
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Thank you
by: Anonymous

We are taking her to a behavioral psychologist because it is looking like OCD. Thank you.

May 01, 2009
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Same thing here
by: Anonymous

Our 3 year old daughter first started pulling her pants up at the waist NONSTOP a few weeks ago and constantly complaining that her clothes didn't fit right. But she has NEVER shown OCD tendencies before that. Now, she has developed this wiping habit - never feeling dry, needed to wipe again after we've exited the bathroom and have her redressed. I tried the powder tip one mom left and we're seeing if that will help with the dryness issue - I'm hoping that summer dresses will ease her clothing anxiety for the summer so that she'll stop thinking about it. It's hard to think that the OCD develops so quickly with no prior tendencies.

Apr 20, 2009
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Sounds familiar!
by: Anonymous

My daughter is 9 years old. She went through the "my underwear feel wet, do I have to go potty, did I go potty, am I going to go potty?!?!" stage when she was about 4 and it returned when she was 8. She also had problems with clothes not feeling "right" and goes into huge fits of rage when she cant' get things just the way she wants them.

For the first 6 years of her life we were totally perplexed. I got so much advice from other parents about spoiled children and how their kids went through stages like that too. She went to numerous dr. appts. for phantom illnesses. And then...we finally got some answers about a year ago when my daughter refused to go to school because she had seen a boy throw up all the way across the lunchroom and she was afraid it was in her hair and clothes. I immediately called her school counselor and he referred me to a nearby psychologist who works with kids who have OCD. She has been in therapy for a while now, and things are finally starting to get a little easier.

I would STRONGLY suggest speaking to your daughters counselor or taking her in to your MD for a psychiatric eval. Kids often try to hide how bad OCD is for them and it can present differently from adult OCD. For example, it jumps around from obsession to obsession and one thing can drive them crazy for months, and suddenly not bother them anymore.

Good luck and if you ever feel like something is wrong, don't let anyone persuade you that it is a stage. I did and I will regret that for a long time. Trust your maternal instincts!

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Apr 20, 2009
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My daughter is 9 years old. She went through the "my underwear feel wet, do I have to go potty, did I go potty, am I going to go potty?!?!" stage when she was about 4 and it returned when she was 8. She also had problems with clothes not feeling "right" and goes into huge fits of rage when she cant' get things just the way she wants them. For the first 6 years of her life we were totally perplexed. I got so much advice from other parents about spoiled children and how their kids went through stages like that too. She went to numerous dr. appts. for phantom illnesses. And then...we finally got some answers about a year ago when my daughter refused to go to school because she had seen a boy throw up all the way across the lunchroom and she was afraid it was in her hair and clothes. I immediately called her school counselor and he referred me to a nearby psychologist who works with kids who have OCD. She has been in therapy for a while now, and things are finally starting to get a little easier. I would STRONGLY suggest speaking to your daughters counselor or taking her in to your MD for a psychiatric eval. Kids often try to hide how bad OCD is for them and it can present differently from adult OCD. For example, it jumps around from obsession to obsession and one thing can drive them crazy for months, and suddenly not bother them anymore. Good luck and if you ever feel like something is wrong, don't let anyone persuade you that it is a stage. I did and I will regret that for a long time. Trust your maternal instincts!

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Apr 13, 2009
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me too!
by: Anonymous

OMG! Thank goodness she is not the only one, not that I would wish this on anyone. Has anyone has luck with therapy? My daughter is going to go next week. We are having her tested for allergies and candida also. I am beside myself with guilt. Please if anyone has suggestions, please post!

Mar 30, 2009
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baby powder?
by: Anonymous

Hi, I was wondering if she might feel better applying a little baby powder to her undies it might also distract her from the wiping habit. I can imagine with all of that wiping she'd have a bit of irritation that might exaggerate that feeling. Maybe an oatmeal bath and some powder would help.

Mar 30, 2009
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I'm going nuts, too!
by: Anonymous

I am a bit late on these posts but I am dealing with the same issues with my 5 year old daughter. Your posts are like taking the words out of my mouth; noting is comfortable on her, still feels wet, shoe are not right, socks are uncomfortable, too tight, too loose! OMG!!! exactly the same issues! Have you found a solution? DO I have an OCD child?

Oct 11, 2008
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Dealing with similar situation!
by: Anonymous

Hi, first I must say that I was totally blown away reading your post. My daughter does the SAME thing! She has been known to go through an entire roll of toilet paper trying to get "dry." I have even caught her stuffing toilet paper in her underwear, or even a washcloth, b/c she still feels like she is wet. She has also been tested to rule out any type of infection, and nothing appears to be physically wrong.

She has always had issues with clothing, tags, socks, etc. and things have become very difficult dealing with getting her ready for school everyday. Nothing feels good on her. She only wants to wear dresses, which doesn't work in the winter considering she won't wear tights either. She also stretches out her underwear until they nearly fall off her and has a terrible time riding in the car b/c of the feeling of the seat belt between her legs.

The tantrums are unbearable at times and we feel so helpless. I've never posted on here before, and I don't know if it's ok to give out an email address, but I would love to talk to you some more. I am just so amazed to hear of someone else dealing with the exact same thing! If you would like to chat, please email me at: abmommy09@yahoo.com

Good luck to you and your family!

Sep 27, 2008
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She Loves Her Mom
by: Stephanie Whitt

I think she loves her mom very much. First things first. It seems to be a case of Good Attention & Bad attention, from what I gather. Ask your self how often does she go to the bathroom with you & do you wipe a lot. If wet ones are used STOP.

Back too Attention. I had to work on that one myself. Children love any attention even the bad so make notes. If she is in the bathroom do not let her see you, & don't give in when she calls your name, unless she is so upset that it lasts more than 10 min. Also take lot of notes & watch her and find out if she is the same when she is getting out of the bath.

Start now as there will be hard work ahead dealing with SENSORY DISORDER/O.C.D. Talk with her DR. & ASK for O.T if you do not get the answer. Plan a day of phone calls or weeks as it is by far not easy.

Stephanie Whitt

Jesus LOVES YOU' KEEP up the GOOD WORK...

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