Help and advice needed please

My daughter is 6 years old .. She has days where she is a happy peaceful de-stressed little girl and then she has days where she hates me , doesnt love me , doesnt want to be in the world !! She cries over any little thing, loves her only friend and boyfriend to the point of obsession, cries at school and isolates herself if she thinks her friend does not love her. She hates clothes, says they hurt her skin, she has to put lids , rubbers ect in her shoes and down her skirt to make her more comfortable.




She hates the letter p being said it makes her feel funny, she says having hair brushed and put up in a pony tail hurts(to the point of screaming on the floor repeatedly taking it out). Water irritates her feet , she has to blow dry her hands and feet every time she gets out of the bath. She hates the sound of eating!! When she is at school no one has noticed anything but my daughter says she can just about hide her discomfort at school for eg pinching herself to stop her screaming???????? I think my daughter feels like she can release her emotions and take them out on me.

My daughter is very distressed at times and repeatedly says she doesnt mean it , that she cant help !! once she even said she wished she was dead!! this is my little girl saying this!! I have been so worried and so confused to the point of near break down ... Does this sound like anyone else's child ???



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Jan 22, 2012
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by: Anonymous

you have a gifted, intense child. :) welcome to a blog that has many traveling the same path you are, looking for answers. this is a great resource.

many of the things you have described sound like spd. as previously posted, i would suggest looking for a qualified OT and having an evaluation done.

many children with spd exhibit difficulties regulating emotions/behaviors and also have challenges with anxiety. there are some great books and reading materials you ought to look into if you haven't already.

The Out-of-Sync Child
Raising a Sensory Smart Child
The Sensory-Sensitive Child
Sensational Kids

these are all books i have read, many great ideas and other resources. good luck.
Jan 18, 2012
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by: Anonymous

Thank you so much ..i will most definately look into this also. x
Jan 18, 2012
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by: Anonymous

Dear Mom, I have a similar experience with some difference in less or more than another, but there is similarity with your child. What can I say? I can testify to my experience. my daughter has been diagnosed with autism spectrum disorders. ask advice to child psychiatrists. courage and hope. a hug.
Jan 18, 2012
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by: Anonymous

Thank you for your advice ..i have already got in touch with my gp hopefully for a referral to an occupational therapist !! But i will definitely keep an eye on what she eats from now on. My daughter was born without fingers on her right hand just a thumb so i was wondering maybe her nerve endings could of been affected as i hear spd is part of the nervous system. something I will also look into. The way my daughter acts and the things she does is so strange , i have never come across this before, it affects our whole life !! very hard at times but fingers crossed i can learn more and help her now. Its nice to speak with parents in the same situation. thank you x
Jan 18, 2012
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by: Anonymous

Yes, these are all ways that SPD manifests itself. Your daughter's challenges sound very similar to my daughter.

I would recommend getting some books about SPD, talking with an occupational therapist, and making dietary changes. Removing gluten (as well as anything artificial) from her diet has significantly helped the tactile and auditory component of her SPD.

We are still working on finding solutions to the socio-emotional issues, though we've realized that sleep plays a major role. Our bad days (or weeks) can often be traced back to interruptions in her sleep (because of staying up too late, having a stuffy nose, etc.).

I hope you are able to find some strategies that are helpful!

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