I need help

by marsha
(wilmington, nc)

My son is 2 years old and was recently diagnosed with severe spd. he gets very anxious when around even a small group of people. He receives ot once a week. he recently started biting his tongue to the point of making it turn blue. The therapist says that his body just yurns for the sensations that comes from inflicting pain on himself. He screams at just about everything you can think of, but when he gets hurt or hurts himself he doesn't shed a single tear. My therapist says that i shouldn't be worried about it, but as an over-caring mother i can't help but worry about him hurting himself.

At church he will go in and be fine if there are only 2-3 kids in the nursery but no sooner it gets to be 5-6 kids he goes into a complete and utter breakdown. I do the weight training and deep hugs with him, but it doesn't seem to help. He cant calm himself, and no matter how hard i try to help he pushes me away. It breaks my heart to know that i cant help my son especially when he needs it the most. He cant say many words or express to me how he feels which makes the whole thing harder on me and him. Ive gotten to the point where i don't take him in public due to all the stares and whispering. I cant stand how people just stare and tell me that all he needs is a little bit of discipline. My son gets disciplined when he needs it, but i refuse to discipline him for something he cant control.

To top of the spd he has adhd as well. Any thoughts or comments as to what else i can do to help my son and myself through these hard times? I really appreciate the fact that im not alone in this. it brings me great comfort knowing that there are other moms going through the same things as me. Thanks for your time to let me vent and get a few answers. marsha