I need your help with my 7yr grandson

My grandson has been diagnosed with SPD at the age of 5 he is now 7. Last year I spent many hours at his school to help the teacher with my grandson’s behavior problems. He has a OT he see’s 2x a month. We thought he was doing better, but recently he started lying and trying to HURT himself. He walks into the wall and asks you to punch him in the stomach! His lying is so bad and ignoring you! I can see him knock something over and he will say, “I didn’t do that!”…..HELP is this SPD or is he just out of control?

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Aug 01, 2010
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SPD makes children feel out of control
by: Rachel

SPD is really a tricky disorder to figure out. And at times its very hard to know if the child is misbehaving or just having a sensory overload. My daughter has frequent fits and it is still hard for me to tell sometimes. But I am realizing more and more how much her self esteem has been affected by this. She is almost six now and before I knew better I would punish her for things that really weren't her fault. She is very hard on herself and hits herself at times saying things like "Im stupid and a loser". It breaks my heart. I know that because of the SPD she has a hard time doing what is expected of her. I mean sometimes simple tasks like washing her hands HURTS her! Teachers and relatives don't understand that and think she is being defiant when she really is trying her best! And when she cant do what is expected of her she gets angry at HERSELF and has a fit, which of course is also seen as bad behaviour.
As parents and family we really have to be careful. No we do not want to spoil them by letting them get away with misbehaving, but we dont want to make them feel like they are bad kids either! Nine times out of ten the child really wants to "behave" but the disorder gets in their way.

Jul 30, 2010
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3 yr old with spd
by: Anonymous

AHHHHHHH! I am so lucky to have found this web site. I could just cry. I am the mother of a child with SPD and at first I new my son was a little hard to deal with and out of control. Nothing calmed him spankings yelling, which I do understand that are all bad things and under better conditions i wouldn't have considered them but nothing worked. My son last summer would run out into the street while we where out anywhere parks anywhere, I finally last year got a diagnosis of SPD after being kicked out of 2 daycares for "violent fits". I finally seen one it was scary I truly thought they were only just fits from being too spoiled until then. I seen a 3 yr old that at the time I didn't associate with being mine he was enraged screaming and throwing things around the daycare and running uncontrollably.

My fiance told me that after he took my son from the daycare he never calmed down after putting on his seatbelt he screamed and flipped over the seats in his suburban back and forth until he got too tired and feel asleep. I got a great therapist that diagnosed him right away and I also had a great daycare after the last one that was willing to try to take care of him like he was there own thank GOD for them. I gave them a sensory development book and because my son we had another child tested and he has sensory issues but the complete opposite end of the spectrum than my son. My son is sensory seeking and the other child is not. Although I have a diagnosis with my insurance I have no treatment options with the government insurance. I feel stuck and I can slowly feel my sons doors of opportunity closing on us to get treatment before it is too hard to change his behavior. I am glad I have other people to talk to that have been through this and can understand what I feel.

SPD mom.

Jul 30, 2010
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Response to "My son"
by: Anonymous

"Thank-you!" I too will post if I find anything on the topic! Since finding this website I do feel better in one hand and the other I feel so bad for him. His parents divorced when he was 3 and at first we all thought that it was the divorced that was caused this behavior problem.

Jul 29, 2010
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my son
by: Anonymous

My son is 6 yrs old and has SPD. Recently he has been showing lots of anger and saying he wants to kill people when he gets upset. This is very upsetting to my husband and I! He is so sweet and mild tempered most of the time, but when he gets upset its a different story. We are planning to see the pediatrician soon about this. With school starting in a few weeks we really want to help him get past this. We have discussed that its NEVER acceptable to say that and he apologizes and says he won't do it any more, yet when he gets upset its like he can't help it. I guess I'm saying your not alone! If I find any helpful info I'll be sure to pass it on.

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