Is this my fault?

I think my daughter has SPD.... we're in the middle of the evaluation... but it seems that she has that disorder. Did I do something wrong to cause this to happen to her?

The SPD Help Line Answers...

The simple answer is NO... you did not cause this. SPD is a neurological disorder. it has many potential causes, none of which were directly caused by you.

That said, of the many possible causes, there are very few that we have some influence over. One that IS in our control is to expose our children to as much sensory stimulation as possible from infancy on. It is important to remember all the senses and provide opportunities within their comfort level to stimulate each one. This can certainly be a challenge when the underlying SPD exists. Normal interacting, playing, and learning activities may be difficult and disrupted. Another way we may negatively influence the development of our child's nervous system is through the use of drugs or alcohol in pregnancy. If this was not the case for you, rest assured, you have not contributed to the development of your daughter's SPD.

it is when we see difficulties in our children that it is THEN our job to both recognize the symptoms and struggles and get them the evaluations and therapy necessary to overcome these issues. So, in fact... you not only didn't cause it, but you are helping her overcome it by starting the evaluation and treatment process! Be proud of yourself for identifying this and getting her the help she needs!

As for the "causes" of SPD? You can find some information about this within the following article and resources:

What Causes SPD Help Line Submission

The Mislabeled Child

Sensational Kids

The Out-Of-Sync Child (revised)

Raising A Sensory Smart Child

Sensory Integration And The Child

Your daughter will need you to thoroughly understand this disorder to help her best. So, I hope you can take the time to read some of these books... they will help tremendously! Happy reading.

Know that you are doing the right things for her and you did NOT cause this, ok?

Take good care.
Michele Mitchell