My 7 year old grandson

by Betty
(Indiana)


I have a beautiful grandson who just turned 7.

He developed a problem with his shoes being put on and tied just right, or he would complain and get frustrated if they were to tight. My son , his father said he does that just to get attention. Within the past year he does not like tags in his clothes, any thing that is tight, pants ,hat, shirts, or he looses control if they do not fit just right. He likes his pants loose and will unbutton them until they are almost falling off.

It it to the point where is obsessive about the way his clothes fit.

I raised three children and know this is not normal behavior. My son and daughter in law do not want to think my grandson has a problem. So I decided to do some research and found your site.

I also see some other characteristics he has. If you kiss him he will immediately wipe it off, he is easily frustrated, and throws temper tantrums. My son said it is because I spoil him.
But I knew there was something else going on.

I am going to show this site to them and hope they look at it and realize there is an issue.I know my daughter in law is afraid he will be prescribed drugs and she does not want her child on medication, which I can understand.

Thank you very much for this website.

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Dec 27, 2010
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by: Anonymous

my advice is the same anonymous. you are right the child has symptoms of SPD. and I have encountered misunderstandings in the family. my daughter has the same problems. with a diagnosis of autism spectrum disorder and SPD is the consequence.

Dec 27, 2010
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by: Anonymous

I totally agree with what he wrote anonymous: the my case is similar, in my case is within the SPD diagnosis of PDD-NOS.

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by: Anonymous

Your grandson does NOT need medication, he needs well educated parents, grandparents, teachers & friends concerning SPD. Our daughter has exactly the same problem with clothing, shoes, being touched, kissed, rubbed, etc., she is 11 1/2 now. She cannot stand certain sounds, smells or textures either.

We didn't even look for what was wrong until she was 7, we just constantly yelled, made excuses, and we had a frustrated, angry, confused little girl. UNTIL right before 2nd grade started, I went to speak with her second grade teacher & explained exactly what accommodations seemed to help in making our daughter more comfortable in a learning environment & that we didn't know what was wrong with her, but please help us accommodate.

The teacher smiled & said, there's nothing wrong with your child, she just has sensory issues! We were blown away, FINALLY, someone who understood. Many parents don't want a LABEL placed on their child, but with this knowledge you can seek help, you can educate yourself & others, you can do this for your child.

Your son & daughter-in-law have to be on board together, treatment may seem like he's being babied or some people may see it as "giving in" to a willful child, but that isn't it at all. It takes a lot of time & patience, as with anything that we have to learn, but keep plugging for him.

Our daughter has either outgrown or learned to accommodate certain things. We do make her wear things occasionally that are uncomfortable because it's just like anything else, we've learned that introducing something that is uncomfortable (just like you would to a baby who doesn't like peas, etc.) over & over throughout a long period of time, they learn to adapt & the sensory overload, though not gone, is lessened, because she has had to train herself that it's ok to be uncomfortable once in a while & things aren't always going to be her way in this world. There will be many people that will not believe her, make fun of her, or just plain not want to be around, but that's ok too, she is a beautiful, wonderful little girl.

We still have MANY issues with clothing, touch, etc., but it's so nice to know there are others out there who understand. We wish you well with your family.

God Bless.

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