My child has been excluded from school

My 9 year old son has been excluded from school, he has SPD . He can become verbally and physically aggressive at times and has very high anxiety, the school head mistress told me it was in her professional opinion that his behaviour is not linked to his condition, i strongly disagree, What should i do next ?



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Oct 05, 2015
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by: Anonymous

My son can't cope with emotions finds it very hard to keep control of his temper his headmistress put him in a class with a teacher he hates because he's very bright pushes him to add more to his work then he loses it his headmistress called the police last week and they manhandled him because she wanted him removed from the school I ask if he could move classes but her policy is they stay in the class they have been put in but it's funny she's moved three other children so why not my son he was in a volience environment all his little life been I got out of it four years ago I'm not making excuses for my son but it's affected him real bad I have done a lot of restesch on kids in volience realionship it can bring on ADHD She's not very understanding
May 14, 2011
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by: Anonymous

You are not alone. Those of us who are able to sink countless amounts into legal fees are working hard to put the spotlight on the school's responsibility to accommodate these children. Teachers and school professionals are not qualified to offer medical diagnostic opinions. They are responsible for following recommendations made by diagnosticians and incorporate the trained school specialists to implement strategies within the educational settings. Without a doubt, teachers have a highly demanding job, however this does not mean cut them slack and short change students. If the work load for teachers is unmanageable then those issues should be addressed within the school administration so that they can fulfill their responsibility to the children they serve.
Feb 06, 2011
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by: Anonymous

I have lost a lot of respect for the schools and teachers. I know they are tired, overworked. I work in healthcare and we must bend over backward to accommodate people, it's time these people did too. My son has ended up in a classroom with kids with behavioral/emotional issues, but it's better than the other options. you always have to stay on top of the schools. I have been thru hell/back with the schools.
Jan 09, 2011
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starstarstarstarstar 		A statement at last !
by: Anonymous

well after 5years of fighting untold stress and upset to both my son and me , my son finally has his statement ! now we can get him into a school especially for children like him with teachers who understand his needs , so many children and their families are put through hell, mainstream schools don't want them and have little or no sympathy and see them as 'trouble' and a burden . I won my case for disability discrimination and unfair exclusion , but sadly the system within mainstream schools will still not change. All we parents can do is fight, fight and fight some more for the rights of our children. stay strong xx
Jan 08, 2011
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by: Anonymous

To parents who cannot afford legal help for their children with SPD and other disorders....there are education advocates who work for non-profit agencies. You pay nothing to them but they can come to your CSE meetings and intercede with the school. Most often , they are parents who have been through what you are gong through and have come out the other side . Try COPAA.com for a state by state listing of advocates in your area. Some listings are for lawyers and some are for non=profit agencies
Oct 03, 2010
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by: Anonymous

Schools are so backwards. They stress all the young children and those with any deviation from the quiet, bored child, they want out.

I don't understand it.

I am taking my two children with SPD out...am trying a Montessori school if their demeanors will tolerate it....will homeschool if they don't.

Many districts have classes for children with "varying exceptionalities". This includes behavioral challenges.

Children need support. The teachers are overwhelmed and then the children are disciplined (excluded) instead of helped. It's absurd that they think a young child behaves "badly" because they want to!

A quiet environment with a small classroom can help so much. My district won't provide that so... I am trying to see if Montessori is better.
Good luck. Find a pro bono child's lawyer... there has to be help.
Sep 15, 2010
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starstarstarstarstar 		keep strong
by: Anonymous

hi,sorry I do not know how the private schools,but i do know what you mean about it consuming your life, i have been fighting now for 5 years,and today i had my independent appeal hearing regarding his permanent exclusion, i will hear the decision tomorrow, but its a nightmare and parents views are not listened too, no department will take responsibility, i am paying for an educational psychology report and have paid for a child psychiatrists report all which i can't afford .Talk to ipsea or ACE or childrens legal services who are brilliant and you can get free legal advice from them as well as general advice and they are all clued up as to how private schools function. I wish you all the best and keep strong x
Sep 15, 2010
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by: Nicole

My 7 year old son has also been diagnosed with SPD. We have been receiving OT for a little over a year and now have started group therapy sessions. He is still encountering problems at school. He attends public school. The administrators at the school refuse to acknowledge his disorder and the tolerance for his behavior is minimal. I am completely frustrated and do not know where to turn with the school. If anyone can explain to me how to get my son assistance in the public school system I would greatly appreciate it. I am a single mother and do not have the additional funds to retain an attorney. All of my additional funds are now going to the hospital for his therapy. Any and all resources regarding this topic are greatly appreciated. It is so frustrating as a parent and this whole thing seems to just completely consume your life. I am tired of fighting the school on this issue.
Jul 15, 2010
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by: andrea

hi and thanks, and yes my son does have very high anxiety and i know this is a cause of alot of his outburst, although it has been a struggle to get this across to teachers, as they just see him as controlling and defiant. Im still appealing his exclusion and there refusal to statement him, but the statementing could take another year ! we have also arranged for him to be assessed privately waiting for the LEA to get anything done has been a nightmare. He is going to a branch class for 2 hours aday and i have to start looking for a new school for him come september, its been a very long hard journey as im sure you are all too aware of .thanks again for your comments x
Jul 08, 2010
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by: Anonymous

Your child deserves an education. He should not be excluded from school because of these problems. Granted my 12 y/o goes to public school but the same rules applies to children in private schools. You need to get him placed in special Ed. Then you can have a para professional be assigned to him. If the school does not allow this maybe the best thing would be to have him go to a charter or public school that will. My son now has alot of friends and has even had parts in school plays and concerts. This is all due to the fact that the school system here has had to deal with his problems and has been made to make accommodations for him. They have to put him in the least restrictive environment for him.
Jun 26, 2010
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by: rinzelle

Sometimes I also feel tired of explaining to other regarding my son differences from the other but still in my heart I know I should be very strong for my son.

Believe me, there are people who can still understand without any explanation, but still there are some that despite of explaining , they could hardly understand...Leave it that way...what matters most is your child. Children with SPD needs to receive our utmost love and understanding.
Jun 21, 2010
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by: andrea

thank you for the replies, my sons anxiety can be fueled by many things, if hes asked to do tasks at school, noise, touch , he even had a complete meltdown when a child at school tried to kill a bee in the classroom, this happened twice, he hit the boy and was excluded for a day, he has such a love of insects that he cant bare any harm coming to them, i know this may seem a trivial thing to alot of parents but not if he has SPD , as my son is extremely sensitive emotionally and his nature is very loving and caring, I have an appeal hearing tomorrow to put my views across but i fear i wont be heard .The school told me he is too much of a distraction and a health and safety risk to other pupils , has anyone else experienced this ?
Jun 20, 2010
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by: Betty, Vancouver BC

Hi There

I first noticed our daughter's SPD characteristics when she was just over two years old. I kept thinking that she would mature and her meltdowns were age typical. When she was five her tantrums were escalating and I had her assessed by an Occupational Therapist. She was diagnosed as having SPD for sure. I started Wilbarger Brushing Protocol and this helped immediately but she still had serious clothing issues.

It has taken me 18 months to finally track our six year old's SPD flare ups. After months of carefully observing her, I noticed the pattern of clothing sensitivity and anxiety provoking situations. When keeping a record of the situations occurring before and after her meltdowns or inability to get her clothes on, or shoes on, I began to realise that my outwardly confident and strong willed child experienced anxiety with transition and because of her SPD way of reacting, I had missed it!!

All this time her SPD has been driven by anxiety and I didn't know it. I have been working on her anxiety levels and the change in her has been phenomenal. She has been able to wear any clothes that she chooses for the first time in her short life. I have never had this much laundry to do, and I am thrilled about it!

NEVER discount the possibility that SPD may be fueled by anxiety.

All the best,
Betty
Jun 20, 2010
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by: Anonymous

Your child needs help, ask a visiting child psychiatrist expose its problems. The school must not refuse to give support.

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