My daughter has SPD and can't "feel" when she needs to poop.

by Julie
(Bixby, OK)

Come laugh with me!!

Come laugh with me!!

My daughter is 3 1/2 years old. She has SPD and whenever she has to poop, she goes in her panties. She can't "feel" when she has to go. I don't know what to do (aside from scream on the inside). She doesn't understand that it's wrong (or gross!). On the random event that I can get her to the toilet in time I have done rewards and lots of praise.


The other thing about this is that she only poops once or twice a week. That can't be healthy can it? I've talked with her pediatrician and I've done the home remedies that he has recommended (i.e. prune juice, caro syrup, peaches...) Has anyone else gone through this? How can I get her pooping regularly and in the toilet everytime??

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Aug 26, 2016
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My 7 year old cant feel when he has to poop
by: Susan

If your child is having this issue and You feel defeated and at the point that you don't know what else to do. I strongly recommend reading the book, "It's No Accident", it has helped me and my family understand and address this issue. We are still battling with this, my son is 7 now and have been dealing with this for 2 years at least. But Now I am armed with a ton of information thanks to this book.

I only say read the book bc it explains what is mostly the issue and how to address it much better than I can explain it to you.

My son was potty trained and doing fine and then these accidents started happening everyday. Start with bed wetting, then wetting the pants to soiling them everyday. At first I thought he was doing to be lazy, for attention and/or bc of the new baby. I blamed him then myself. It was crazy. I had no answers, the doctors where telling me he will grow out of it, but it was getting worse and he was fully potty trained prior to this happening. Needless to say I was defeated.

I thank god for this book and I had no Idea there was a whole community out there going through the same thing and supporting each other.

I know this was posted a while back but I am all about passing on information to other mom's that can benefit from it. I saw someone else responded with very good information regarding encopresis. Please read this book, I know this frustration all too well. We have been battling this with my son for over 2 years. I have cried, yelled, screamed and god knows everything.

May 03, 2016
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Need anwers too
by: Anonymous

My daughter who is turning 7 in the next couple of weeks has SPD. She poops everyday in the toilet, but the problem is, most of the time she doesn't feel that she has to go poop or pee until she has already soiled her panties a little. I go through so many underwear in one day because of this. I don't know if there is anything I can do to remedy this. It happens so much, that everywhere she goes, she's making sure I bring a few pairs of panties. Is there anything I can do to make her Feel or be aware of when she has to go Before she actually goes?

Jan 27, 2016
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What is SPD and I wonder if my son might have this.
by: Anonymous

I have a 8 year old boy and taken him to several doctors and they don't know what it could be. I was once told that he was just being lazy. But I know that is not true cause I send him every 1hour. I need help so I can help him.

Jan 01, 2016
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y does my daughter poop in her panties
by: Anonymous

My daughter is almost 6 years old and she will pee in toilet but she soils her panties 4 or 5 times a day what is wrong

Dec 05, 2015
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Encopresis
by: Anonymous

Check out this article. http://www.kevinmd.com/blog/2013/06/child-feel-poops.html

Dec 21, 2014
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Reply to Anonymous
by: Julie

I feel your frustration. I have been their with my daughter for a long time. I originally wrote this posting about my little girl Ellie.
She is now 10. She FINALLY This year began to poop on her own- by her own will- in the toilet- not her pants.
It has been such a gift.
However---she will only poop once a week. 😣
The doctor says her body has acclimated to this routine.
My hope is as she matures she relaxes and allows nature to take its course.
My advice: just let your son develope on his own. It's more work for you to watch and encourage pooping. But keep the entire experience positive. I wish you the best.
😃julie.

Dec 20, 2014
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6 yr old boy wont poop
by: Anonymous

I have the same problem with my 6 yr old. He will,poop on the potty if I make him. He will not poop on his own. He doesnt seem to know when he has to poop. He does know when his underwear is messy because he doesnt want me to check. Rewards, punishments..nothing has worked to self initiate. I make him try at bedtime every night. Or when ever I can tell his poop is ready. But no matter what I do he wont go poop on his own. It is like his butt and his brain cant communicate.

Sep 06, 2014
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son can't feel when he has to poop
by: Karen

I am about to cry (once again). My daughter is 15 and going to be evaluated next month for SPD. She was diagnosed with ADHD when she was 2 1/2 yes old. As I looked at this page I found the problems people are having with their kids not feeling the urge to poop. My 7 year old son has been having bowel issues since he was 10 months old!!! Not that I want my kids to have SPD, but it would be great to have a diagnosis after all this time and get OT that they need and I don't have to feel like I about to lose it all the time!!! Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Mar 24, 2014
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Poop
by: Anonymous

What I did is just put them back in diapers no remedees that worked only thing that can be done it has worked and the ONLY thing that can be done

Jul 14, 2010
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help
by: Anonymous

i have the same problem with my son he is 6 and has had bowel problems for years and noone knows what is wrong with him he is on laxatives and tons of miralax and still only goes 1 a week or 1 every 2 weeks he hasn't been officially diagnosed with spd but im working on it he has 110 characteristics off of the spd checklist if you find out anything on how to fix this let me know please my email is rosebud5975@yahoo.com

Aug 31, 2008
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Can't poop
by: Anonymous

I have a 4 yr old daughter who isn't potty trained. The only way we can keep her regular is go to the park everyday. Sounds crazy, but it works. She goes down the slide a couple of times and she poops. Never fails! The days we don't go to the park, she doesn't poop. I'm not trying to be funny! I am serious!

Aug 18, 2008
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Thank you
by: julie

I have read your responses to my question/situation and THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU. I have seriously considered what you wrote to me and we are on a better toileting system now. My daughters success and gone up and she and I are both happier because of it.

Thank you for your support and well wishes. It's nice to know others are out there with my same situation and we can help each other.

God bless these little ones and the parents that are doing everything they can to make their world seem "normal".
Julie : )

Aug 14, 2008
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My Daughter has SPD and can't feel when she needs to poop
by: Annette

I, too, have a daughter who is 6 and soils her pants periodically. She started off constipated after the potty training (age 3 1/2). After going to several doctors, they all agreed that she had encopresis (where her colon is stretched from the large stool and normal sized stool falls right out) and they put her on Miralax (a stool softener/laxative). Now she has regular bowel movements, however, some of them she can make it to the toilet and other times she soils her pants and doesn't even realize it. She doesn't do anything about it even when she's sitting in it. She says she can't smell it either. If I take her off the Miralax, she's immediately plugged up again. It's very frustrating.

She did start going to an OT recently and she's on listening therapy and I have to brush her skin every day to help stimulate the touch. They hope that will help her, although the therapist wasn't that sure in the beginning about the relationship between SPD and toileting. I'm willing to give ANYTHING a try. I know your frustration and am living it all the time. Try not to get mad at your child and try to be supportive. It's so hard but we just don't know how their little bodies differ from ours. Hang in there. There's bound to be a light at the end of the tunnel. Keep praying and good luck finding help through a sensory diet.

Aug 06, 2008
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My daughter has SPD and can't
by: Deirdre

Hi, i have a six year old son (soon to be seven)who also has SPD. One day, I noticed he hadn't pooped in three or four days, and when he did, he would go in his pants and would be surprised that he did (it was like he wasn't feeling it come out). When I took him to the doctor they said he was impacted, and was diagnosed with Encopresis. I know my son is impacted, because of his diet due to his sensory isssues. His favorite food is dairy. He's was given a prescription for MiraLAX which he's been taking for the past year. Maybe you could mention this to your doctor to see if this is what your daughter could be dealing with. Good Luck

GERBIL


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