My mom won't believe me.

by Sami

Okay, so I'm 14 and my therapist just a few months ago told me to look this up, because she thought I have SPD. Well it turns out that I do, and she's been trying to help me out with it because it's effected my every day life. Aside from all the problems that come with SPD, my biggest problem is with my mother. She doesn't believe I have SPD. She won't listen to me. She thinks I'm just being overdramatic, like I "usually am". She thinks I completely overreact at everything. Like when I fall or get poked or hurt it seems to hurt me more than others and she just thinks i'm overreacting.


She also thinks I'm just being a drama queen when I have to turn my socks inside out because I can't stand the seams. The same thing with whenever I hear a loud noise or am unexpectedly touched, or show my dislike for hugs. Apparently I'm a "complete drama queen" because of all these things. So when I brought up SPD after my therapist suggested it, of course she just thinks i'm 'overreacting again'. I truly don't know what to do. It's like a loop that just never ends. I overreact because of the SPD and when I tell her about the SPD she just thinks that's me overreacting and just... I'm completely lost! Does anyone have any suggestions on what I should do? It's really hard without your own mother backing you up with a problem that effects you every day of your life. Help? :/

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Mar 08, 2011
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My beautiful 19 year old daughter...
by: Anonymous

My beautiful daughter struggles with processing information, feeling overloaded with work, headaches, depression, tiredness and anger. She has experienced this for the past three years. Both she and I understand that she has SPD; however, her fiance doesn't get it. Can you please suggest any resources made for the a typical 20 year old 'normal' male, to gain understanding. They're to be married soon but there are constant understanding issues. My daughter feels worse around this 'normal' bloke, who just wants her to 'return to normal' when she has a 'melt-down'.

Feb 18, 2011
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i know how you feel
by: Anonymous

i'm in my twenties and still struggle with the way my family members act about my various mental health issues. my mom still refuses to believe i'm affected by anything but depression and this it after being institutionalized several times and being on medication for half my life. she was only able to recognize my depression after she experienced it herself, like mental health and neurological conditions don't exist if she hasn't gone through them herself. i look back on how much she said i was lazy or selfish or a hypochondriac and it still hurts that she would blame me instead of try to help me.

working with a therapist as an adult of come to terms with the fact that it has nothing to do with me and is her issue. she can't admit that i have any sort of disorder without feeling responsibility as my parent so she chooses denial not realizing it deprive me of help. i know you're struggling now but you need to realize that you're very lucky to have access to a therapist and you need to implement that resource as much as possible. remember that they are only obligated to say something to your mom if they think you re a danger to yourself or others (in which case they'd just be trying to help), so you should be able to get completely honest with them, which is so important because they can't help with only partial information. if you are open with them and follow their advice you can get through whether or not you have your moms support.

Nov 27, 2010
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Get help from your
by: Anonymous

therapist. Have her educate your mother on SPD- Try to get some books from the library- see the left side bar for books like "the out of sync child" and you read them- show your mom the book but do it very low key.

I know that SPD is real. The disorder is very frustrating to others around you, cause it isn't something that they can "see" immediately. You look and act normal (most of the time any way) and others can't believe there is a medical problem- just a behavioral one. Also, your mom might be in denial about having a child with a disorder. So many factors come into play about others accepting SPD. The most important thing however, is YOU... You now have a starting point to educate yourself and then your family and friends. and improve your reactions and behaviors.

To be officially diagnosed with SPD, you need a prescription from your doctor to do an evaluation. This evaluation is done by occupational Therapist, or OT. Then with the diagnosis you must educate your entire family.

OK, as a mom of a 11 yo daughter (almost 12) with SPD I really do not tolerate very well, when she has extreme behavior and inappropriate actions But I do understand what is causing it. My DD has tactile defensiveness, that means she is very sensitive to clothes. She wears socks inside out like, you and has to desensitize herself to wear clothes.



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