My son gets highly irritated with his siblings, making them cry all the time.

by Jonelle
(Washington)

I am constantly yelling at my son to be nice to his sisters. It is wearing me out. He is a really good kid, very loving and smart, but he is very controlling and frustrated. If his sisters cry or sing, he can't stand it. I feel really bad for them because we are a very musical family.


My son is only 7 and wows everybody when he plays the drums. My girls like to sing and are good, but to him it's like torture. He will beg me to make them stop and if we are in the car, the singing will actually bring him to tears and next thing I know he's turning around and hitting them making them cry. I try to be understanding, but it's just not fair to them.

If my son is playing a video game and anybody walks in front of him or if his sisters stop to watch, he will go into a full out fit and rage comes over him. He says it distracts him, but really it's not a big deal. At least to me. I feel so sorry for my girls, he is constantly making them cry because he is so frustrated with them or they are not doing something right. When he is out of the house it's like they are totally different children, it's almost a sigh of relief. I feel bad saying that, but the conflict between my son and his siblings is very tiring.

I try to be understanding because I know it's his SPD. For example, if they play the drums he cannot stand it, and alot people just think he is jealous, but I believe, because they don't know how to play them very well, it's like nails on chalkboard to him. Can anyone relate?

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Jul 16, 2012
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Same way
by: Anonymous

I feel the same way. except I am currently 16.

Jul 16, 2011
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irritated with siblings
by: Anonymous

Can you get earplugs or headphones for him? Explain that his sisters are not doing anything wrong - and it's ok for him to not like it.

Sep 29, 2009
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My daughter and son
by: Sandi

I can totally relate! My daughter is 11 and just cannot stand anything her 14 year old brother does. Its becoming unbearable! My son cannot talk in normal tones, bite his nails or even pass by her door. She has to rub the door when he passes by or pull on his fingers to counteract what annoys her. Whispering and/or light touch stresses my daughter out. She is cranky and yells. She acts like a 5 year old with her temper tantrums. It's insane at our house. I love her dearly. She is my world! My hope is I can get her the help she needs!


Sep 07, 2009
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Making siblings cry
by: Anonymous

My son is much the same way. He is 5 and his sisters are 16 and 12. He gets along ok with the 16 yr old but he can be so cruel to the 12 yr old. He picks on her, screams at her when she tries to help. She is very loving and affectionate most of the time he can't stand this. If she tries to read to him or help him with his homework he shuns her. Then at other times he is very loving and kind. He doesn't do this with the oldest as much but if she doesn't do things just the right way he goes into a rage. He doesn't like them to sing or even bother him when he is playing on the GameBoy or PS2. He is still a little too young to explain it except to say they bother him.

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