OT Comment bothersome

by Colleen
(NH)

Hi my 4 year old nephew has recently started OT and today was his second appointment afterwards he was running around and jumping on furniture and not listening to a word me or his mother said, and I took him out as soon as I could catch him but his therapist told his mother that she felt the behavior we were seeing was behavioral and not sensory and I'm a little confused because I got the impression that sensory issues causes behavioral issues. He doesn't stay at one or the other side of the spectrum which they don't see in therapy cause he's always so hyper but about five minutes after leaving he's almost asleep or is a sleep. Sometimes he seems to be craving constant touch and just as suddenly he won't want to be touched at all and will have a melt down.


He hates most clothes if the seams on his socks hit his feet wrong he will scream and kick till you just want to give up on shoes and socks. When he gets to a certain level of hyper it seems like he can not hear you all.

My sister is feeling very frustrated by the OT'S comment because we have been hearing how it's our fault since he was a baby who wouldn't go to sleep. People would tell us to put him in his crib and let him cry, we tried it he cried till he was gagging, so we just did what worked best walking him up and down the hall for hours until he went to sleep. We have tried just letting him throw his fit when he is having a tantrum he will just become more and more hysterical.

We have tried everything as far as discipline nothing works not talking not timeouts not corners not even redirection because several hours later he will remember and get mad all over again. Sorry about the really long letter just kinda frustrated.

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Jul 12, 2009
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Thank you all
by: Colleen

Thank you all for your help. As I said it was only his second appointment besides his testing so we figure we should give it a little more time and get to know the OT a little better.

Jul 11, 2009
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my experiance
by: Anonymous

90% of the time, my sons behavioral issues stem from one of two things. Not enough input or too much. We have been asked to "control" him better. At which time I spout off with my well practiced... I understand that you dont appreciate my sons behavior and honestly, I find it a bit embarrassing however he is his own person and capable of making his own choice as to whether or not he will misbehave and have to deal with the consequences. Most important to me is that my son know that it is his behavior that embarrasses, angers, frustrated etc. me... not him.












Jul 10, 2009
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Maybe there is a behavior problem too
by: Kim Sullivan

All kids misbehave and need to develop self control. Mine has sensory problems and it has taken a great deal to learn how to help him develop self control and good behavior. Maybe the OT's comment wasn't meant exactly like you thought and she could have been pointing out an opinion of the particular situation. You may want to just ask her what she means and if she has suggestions on behavior control for your child because it is different and difficult when they have sensory issues as you pointed out. You may have a great OT who was insightful or you may have a terrible OT that was just plain wrong. I think I would speak to the OT to clarify, the answer you get will tell you what kind of OT you have. Good luck! It's not easy!

Jul 09, 2009
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SPD/behavior
by: Anonymous

You are correct that sensory processing problems can be the cause of "behavior" problems. I do not believe all behaviors are a result of SPD, but from what you are describing it sure sounds like these behaviors are. Even if he did have behaviors that are not a result of SPD, as an OT, she should be aiding you in strategies that can help this child function in his environment. Talk to her about updating his treatment plan, and if you do not get the help you want, then she may not be the best fit for you and the child.

Jul 09, 2009
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OT comment
by: Anonymous

If it was me i would try a different OT.

My son sounds a lot like what you described and he has been diagnosed as 'hypersensitive' a couple years back. He is almost 4 now.

Sensory children can go back and forth on things. They seem confused sometimes and don't really know how they want things. My son is going through a phase now where he can't make a decision on anything, and then just has a total meltdown.

Sock seams, picking the right shoes, .... on and on ... where we are at our wits end with getting him dressed somedays. Somedays we just take him out in his slippers or whatever he is happy with that day.

To me it sounds like it may be sensory issues. I'd get a few more opinions. Kids don't just have behavioral problems for no reason.

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