OT

by Rachelle
(CT)

My husband and I cannot agree on OT. My son's OT asked if my son (he is 7) could start coming 2 times a week because she wants to spend more time with him in order to really work on his sleep issues and food issues which are the biggest concerns right now. My husband said absolutely not. My husband thinks that going to OT will effect his psyche...make him feel like he is different..something is wrong with him....make him feel like he is not like his peers. Is this a concern? I thought I was doing what ever I could to help him, but my husband makes me feel like too much OT could do him harm. What are your feelings about this?

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Nov 18, 2011
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I am an OT
by: Anonymous

I child can never have enough OT. OT is made to be fun not work and not to harm. I would get you husband fully involved in the OT program. This will give your husband and child a way to bond and to assist your child in his needs. I suggest home and clinic base therapy. Your home is where he eats and sleeps so that is where you should begin. If you have a good therapist they will be able to use items and methods in your home to treat your childs sensory needs.

Mar 18, 2011
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a contrarian view
by: Anonymous

I think your husband's points are worth considering. My son at 4 knew that "astronaut training" was not what everyone did and sometimes knowing that you are different or being treated that way is worse than actually having the challenges. I think it impacted his self confidence and it didn't help that the OTs (the best in our large city) would get frustrated with him and try and force him to do things which made him uncomfortable (I tried two other groups and we had similar experiences). Tread lightly, sometimes the cure is worse than what ails you.

Mar 11, 2011
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better now than when he is in high school
by: Anonymous

suggest at home ot ... or say its a play-date...at 7 little boys don't know a gym from an OT center, that will help your son and your husband's issue of hurting your 'sons' psyche. and maybe you and your husband should really talk about your son's problem maybe the problem isn't that your husband is worried about his psyche but that he doesn't fully believe any of it in the first place. it's hard but you'll find something that works.

good luck.

and my daughter is living proof that OT does work. 16 wks. and we get out of the house in 15 mins some days ... with underwear and hair up!!!!!

Mar 02, 2011
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therapy.
by: Anonymous

I don't; think it will hurt his psyche, I think not doing anything will hurt him more in the long run. Go to the therapy with him. If your therapist thinks he needs it then do it.

Mar 02, 2011
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by: Steve Faherty

I agree with Masti. Attend his sessions with him. Ask the O.T. for a home program so that you can reinforce what the therapist is doing. Feedback from you can help the therapist help your son more.

Mar 02, 2011
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by: Anonymous

You and your husband will have to get past the social stigma or hurting the child's feelings by not getting enough help.

Both of you together, in full agreement in all you do, can help the child so much more. Discuss and come to amicable terms, without losing the peace and tranquility of the home. You already have your hands full. Let your focus be on helping your child. If your husband already feels like it could damage the child's morale or whatever, just imagine what it can actually do to the child by not getting enough help.

If your OT suggests two visits, you have to trust that she is doing her best. Of course you can get a second opinion. Children with any problem can benefit with a lot of love and patience.

Mar 01, 2011
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OT
by: Masti

Better to start early than late..its not just OT session with the therapist...u as parents should follow through on the recommendations that the OT give's then only this will work out....if your son receives 2 times OT u will notice some difference not all in 3 months....believe me I have been there done that....

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