Son Likes to Touch Necks and "soft" arms

by Heather Beckmann
(Suquamish, WA, UAA)

Since my son was probably two, he started to squeeze peoples cheeks. This "cute" habit has stuck with him and now he is 5. He has to touch soft things and its almost involuntary. He has a younger sister (1) and he constantly touches under her chin, her neck and says he does it because she is so "squishy". He also likes to touch the nanny (65) on her soft and squishy arms, face etc. Does anyone else have a child that does this?

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Oct 16, 2012
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Mine too
by: Anonymous

Yes, my son has an impulse to squeeze a lot. He has a small white pillow that he runs to and squeezes when he needs to, but when he is especially hyper or excited he squeezes our arms or faces (or other fatty body parts, lol) really hard. When he was 5 he got into trouble for "pinching", but it was actually his excitement and affection for another child that caused him to squeeze them. It is a little better now; he knows to keep his hands to himself in public and I think he senses that it is inappropriate behavior, but he still does it a lot at home (he is 9).

Mar 27, 2012
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Impulse control
by: Anonymous

Maybe you could offer him some sort of reward for going a certain amount of time without inappropriately touching someone. Try to reinforce any effort he makes to control his impulses. Many parents of SPD kids believe their child has a "need" to touch certain things, but I think we have to accept the idea that OTHER people (especially other children) have an equal right NOT to be touched against their will.

Mar 19, 2012
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Son Says He Likes To Touch "Soft" Things
by: Anonymous

My 9yo son likes to sleep with his underwear under his pillow because he says he likes to touch soft things when he sleeps. I am concerned because he is 9yo and he likes to sleep with these underwear whether they are clean or used. I gave him a blanket that was soft but yet he continues to use the the underwear instead. He is currently on Vyanse to control his ADHD. Should I be concerned about his behavior?

Mar 08, 2012
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Squishy seeker too.
by: Anonymous

I have one son that likes to touch bottoms, it has gotten to the point that he cannot shower in the change rooms after swimming lessons or use the toilets with his fellow class mates. He knows it is wrong, but completely lacks impulse control. He is only 5 still, but I am worried it is going to continue into his late teens, even adulthood. Come to think of it he likes to touch sqwishy bellys too. I never thought of it as needing to touch something squishy. Just a thought, if you are worried about your son's need for squishy sensations maybe you could find some kind of squishy squeeze toy for him to carry around.

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