My son is 5 years old and does not like to wear underwear, only wears jogging pants that are cut on both sides and won't wear socks. Help!!! We don't know what to do with him. Every morning is a battle getting him dressed.
Also, we have a mini and regular trampoline, these made a massive difference for her. We put a stretchy swing in the playroom too. We got a hammock hanger and got the swing off of ebay. IKEA also has indoor swings. I had sensory problems as a kid and also had a swing. Swimming helped me, but not all kids.
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help for those with spd by: Anonymous
My 7/0 daughter has spd and we have learned many things that work. Occupational therapy did wonders for her. We also have found that she likes satin(slippery) panties and will wear them w/ dresses. We found that practicing to wear things in the house for 5-10 and earning treats helps. She earns bigger if she can wear it out of the house. We know that we have to find things w/ a small waist band and thin light weight material. We love the socks from Softclothing.com We have also learned that clothes from consignment stores are good because they are less stiff. We found that sleep is a huge issue and sometimes wheat and dairy. We found that treating her "other" senses like smell, touch etc also help. So we use smelly markers, soft light tickles on her arms and gum is also another huge one. When she is getting dressed it always helps when she has a bunch of gum to chew. This is something we learning ealy on and something the Occupational T. told us to keep doing. I have found so many other things that work, but most by trial and error and lots of patience! I never thought we could get to where we are now! She LOVES Kohls light weight longjohns for under ski clothes. She wears the bottoms as leggings(they are slippery). I think that OT is supper important. We did it for a year. If your OT isn't making a difference then try a new one! I have met many people and they all loved OT. Good Luck and hang in there!
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My daughter is 9 and she won't wear anything with a seam.... by: Confused Mom
....I cannot believe that there are actually children out there that are like mine! We stopped putting socks on her because she would flip out every morning when I put them on her and scream and have a "melt down" as someone else said! She'd take them off over and over until I got them "right!" (we finally tried the "seam" on the outside and that worked, ohhh... a couple of days! I TOO had to CUT the ends of the seams off her socks on the sides and that worked maybe once!
She also will not wear anything but a regular t-shit with NOTHING on the front..i.e. no "seams" or "decorations" that go through or sewn on the inside! She was used to these "five" "baby doll shirts/outfits she had that were all different colors, but identical otherwise...for school with a regular t-shirt (baby doll style) and spandex pants and when we tried to get her a "new wardrobe" for a new school, she freaked and wouldn't wear the clothes! She'd scream and say, "OMG, I'm being SUFFOCATED!!" and hold the shirt in the front away from her chest BEGGING to take it off!
She also will freak out if there is even a DROP of water on her clothes too! She will run and throw them off and change!
Yes, it IS a relief to know my child isn't the only one who is "weird" about wearing clothes!!!
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Help by: Anonymous
I have a son and a daughter, both of them have this problem with undies. My son won't a wear anything, but basketball shorts. My daughter won't wear her undies either and she only like to wear loose clothing that can slip off. She also has this habit of stealing her brothers shorts. Both of my kids won't let me wash their shorts.
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This is what I deal with every day! by: Anonymous
I see my family is not alone. But what can I do about this? Nothing seems to help. I cant go on doing this EVERY morning!
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What is wrong? by: Anonymous
I am 16 and have had trouble with clothing since i was at least 4. Some clothing doesn't feel right and i will think about it all day like if it is itchy or certain seams. Sometimes when im being touched my family or friends i get antsy. I always thought it was just sensory issues but i dont know...
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Jumping? by: Anonymous
my 4 yr old def. has same issues it started when she was 2 - She starts OT next week-- what is this about the jumping? we have a mini trampoline what do we do? thanks
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advice needed for my daughter by: Anonymous
my daughter is 2 yrs old and lately ive noticed some habits of her,she has to have a blanket on her in a certain way or she goes mad sam wen shes playing with her dolls the blanket has to be perfectly straight
she dosent like wearing shoes,prefers trainers she wont wear tights or pajamas that are tight at the bottom of her ankles it really bothers her and she is extremely shy
i just wondering could it be a mild form of autism as my brother has aspergers any advice would be great thanks
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My 16 soon to be 17 year old. Its getting worse. by: Anonymous
Iv read some of these and seen most of them are in younger children, does anyone on here have this problem with a teenager?
My daughter is 16 now.
When she was younger she would never were socks or gloves, she would put the socks on her hands and they were "comfy-er". She wore summer clothes in winter, and thick winter clothes in summer. Lucky that bit has ended but its changed an gotten worse. The past 3ish years she its into a aggressive state if the clothes are to tight mainly around the arms, she has to wear the same 2 bras over and over, we got her more pairs like it but she says there different. With socks she has to have them inside out with the side sewing parts cut off. She still wears summer like clothes in winter, but she wears a big coat with it, if she wears winter clothes she over heat making her more aggressive.
When shes gone into the aggressive state she mainly breaks things, starts shouting or reorganize the rooms cleaning them up, she says its a project when she in a certain angry or sad mood.
Shes running out of "projects" around the house.
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tactile dysfunction by: Anonymous
Are the pants he likes to wear the satin type jogging pants. Maybe you could find some boxer style underwear made out of similar material. If you can't find them shorts are a simple sewing projects, just a couple of pieces of the pattern and the only hard part is putting an elastic in the waistband but if you make them or have someone make them you could make the waistband loose so it is to his liking. Just an idea - believe me I understand what you are going through
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My 11 YO daughter by: Anonymous
has had dressing issues from age 3. Underwear was the biggest problem until we tried leotards. My DD is super sensitive at her waist and can not wear any thing that is belted or has a small waist band. The leotards really helped her. We turn socks inside out and I only dry her clothes on hangers, cause the dryer will "shrink" them up a bit. We also stretch some of her things to make them feel more comfortable.
Since she is older, she tells me what feels "right" so we are making fewer and fewer clothing purchases mistakes. But we go through the same thing every season- the CHANGE from one type of clothing to another is very traumatic- especially shoes. She is down to 2 capri's and 4 tops that she can wear comfortably.
Jumping, brushing, and habitation helps, but not always. When the weather changes, lo pressure comes in, she often has a meltdown and seems to adjust after "getting it all out" and is able to make it to school.
If this helps any, it does get better as our kids get older.
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not alone by: Anonymous
Finally, I'm not alone. My daughter will be 6 in July. She will not wear jeans and absolutely nothing with a tag. It started when she was around 3 years old with her hair. She did not want anything in her hair or want anyone touching it. Now it is her clothes. Almost every morning she has a melt down. If it does not fit right or feel right she goes into a frenzy. If she gets even a drop of water on her clothes she has to change. We are looking into OT for her now. We thought it was just a phase. After some research I find out this is common among some children. Thank you for this site!!
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hates most clothes by: Anonymous
My daughter who is 4.5yrs has had a few sensory issues and is over some. We finally started OT and it has helped a lot. She will only wear panties that are very big and silky/satin and only with dresses. So no normal shorts for her. She is ok w/ swimsuit if she doesn't have to wear it in the car, so we get dressed at the pool. No socks either. Only flip flops or UGGs.
Everything has to be big big and then stretched. She only will use a old baby blanket. She likes silky things but not soft fuzzy. So sheets and blankets are an issue. She will not use a pillow either. I will say that getting good sleep makes an enormous difference. Also, I have learned to pick out stuff the night before and don't rush in the morning. Also, the trampoline has been so wonderful. In just 3 weeks we saw a difference. You can even use a small indoor one.
She does have a hard time with change and it sets her back. It is so stressful some days. She is always pulling on her pants and most people think she has to go to the bathroom. She gets tired of people asking her that. Next year she is supposed to go to a school with uniforms...this may be a nightmare or a help. I am hoping that they won't make her tuck in her shirt. Postive peerpressure has been good, but doesn't solve it.
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Help! by:
My daughter is 10 and I have beening dealing with this for about 6 years. She will not wear blue jeans,underwear,socks or anything "tight feeling". Today I had CPS at my house. School nurse wanting to know why she does not wear underwear.I have bought her cotton skirts with the shorts sewn in underneath. I guess that is not acceptable without underwear. I am lucky if I can get clothes on her everyday for school. Even her shoes need to be a 1/2 size bigger. Which she can hardly walk in. She sleeps on top of her blankets and sheets,with another blanket on top of her. She will not get under the blankets.I am so glad that I found this site and I will be sending this to CPS. I told the lady she should try to get her dressed every morning. I actually thought I was the only one. Thanks!
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Help !! by: Anonymous
My daughter is 7 yrs old and has had SPD for about 4 yrs now. She hasn't worn underwear in probably 2 yrs. She only wears one suit and one pair of shoes NO SOCKS either , And as soon as i wash that suit ( which is a velour sweatsuit ) She can not put it back on for hours sometimes days . I try to wash it every 3-5 days and she is devastated when I do.
She changes into something new every month or two when I have gotten so sick of looking at the ONE suit and I throw it out . She no longer wears a swimsuit since I threw out her last one away.( They just disappear !)I have tried EVERYTHING you can imagine. NOBODY understands AT ALL !! WHich makes me very sad for her .
She is in second grade and we have had to home school this year . We have had to skip bday parties that require changing clothes , like swimsuits or sneakers for rockwalls , ect. She misses out on alot ...She will miss a party with her friends to avoid the change of clothes , She has passed climbing in the big play place cause she needed socks ..Now you tell me this is for attention or a CONTROL thing ! Give me a break !
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no underwear by: Anonymous
My son is the same way too. No underwear, soft pants with no tags and elastic waistband. He wore sweatpants with a sweater and turtle neck for his school recital. In my opinion as a mom and a nurse, WHO CARES? No one else really notices and he is not hurting anyone. With every battle we fight everyday with shoes and socks and transitions and school and a principal that says he needs a good spanking, I am glad he is not depressed and that he is living a good life!
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glad we're not the only ones!! by: Anonymous
My son has a problem with underwear as well. he is 7 mow and this has been an ongoing issue for about 3 yrs. he will only wear them if they are briefs and he has to stretch them out so they are not tight. he will try and wear the same pair for days! I too have given up as it seems more important to just get him dressed. he also has a preference for "basketball shorts" and would wear them everyday. He says he likes the way they feel... I hide them now for he he saw them, it would be a battle and i just don't have the energy!!
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i hear you too by: Anonymous
My daughter aged 4 will only wear 2 undies (out of a drawer of about 30) plus only 3 long sleeve tops and 2 pairs of light leggins. We live in the tropics with daily temps over 90 degrees!! Still, I've given up fighting the dressing battle, a good result is to get dressed with NO meltdown!
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Underwear and tactile defense by: Tammy H.
I have two boys with the "underwear issue" and both have stopped wearing them. One is 11 and the other is 6, and only under dire emergencies do I bother with fighting that battle. There are so many other battles when dealing with sensory processing that underwear became the least important in the long list of issues. I was more concerned with wearing pants, sock and shoes to school than the underwear, and it's less to wash!
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not wearing underwear by: Anonymous
See if he will pick out his own underwear at the store. It could be a control issue.
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I hear you by: Anonymous
My son will only wear one pair of underwear too. I cannot get him to wear boxers or even same brand same style. It is so hard and no one understands.
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suggestions by: Char113
You could try to use boxers instead of regular boxer briefs or briefs this may make him feel more comfortable.
