Tucking Shirt In

by Monica Ball
(Red Oak, TX)

My daughter has a meltdown 4 out of 5 days a week because she has to tuck her shirt in to go to school - dress code requirement. I don't know how to make it better for her, but don't think the school will give her an exception. What can I do to help her overcome this frustration every day?

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Mar 01, 2011
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o no
by: Anonymous

i dont like tucking my shirt no one tucks their shirt in

Sep 06, 2010
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fold and pin!
by: Anonymous

ok, this is a very old post...and this might be a weird response...but why don't you take the shirt and fold it under to appear tucked in..and then pin it with 3ish safety pins. not overly stylish or easy (when it comes to bathrooms) but you could try to get creative in that way!

Mar 18, 2010
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Tucking in shirt
by: Anonymous

I feel for you! My son has SPD and if there was a dress code at his school I would move!!

It might be that when the shirt is tucked in the creases in the tucked in part really hurt her skin. You should insist on talking to the administration at her school and insisting on an IEP!! They may be willing to help, it should be their job to always be helpful to their students and understanding to them.

Dec 14, 2009
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Thanks for the good news
by: Monica Ball

Thanks Donna. I have been considering that but wasn't sure if it was even an option. I will make an appointment and see what I can do.

Dec 14, 2009
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Good news
by: donna

My son had a similar problem. He was wearing his belt so tight that he was scabbing himself. I went to the principal of his school, spoke to her about my son's SPD and it was permanently put in his records. Long story short, he doesn't have to wear a belt ever again!!! His file goes with him throughout his school years.

Oct 04, 2009
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Jumpers?
by: Anonymous

Does the dress code allow one piece outfits? Jumpers? There would be nothing to tuck in, and nothing to pull out.

Oct 02, 2009
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tucking shirt in
by: Whitney

I am sorry to say that I don't have any ideas to help but wanted to let you know that I am thinking of you and your situation. My daughter is tactile defensive and I don't know what I would do if she had to tuck her shirt in. We struggle just getting dressed some days and if she had to go through that then I know she would have even a harder time staying focused on her school work. I am praying that the teacher and priincipal will be understanding and help come up with a way to help. An IEP is an individual education plan and is developed when a child receives special services.

Oct 02, 2009
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by: Monica Ball

The material of the shirt is soft cotton, so I'm not sure it's the material itself so much as it is the fact that when she lifts her arms and moves around the shirt comes untucked. She hasn't pinpointed for me the exact issue, it's just frustrating. I actually have a meeting with the school next week to review her occupational therapy and have a learning assessment done at school because her test anxiety is a problem. What is an IEP? I will do whatever I need to do, I just know the school is not flexible when it comes to the dress code.

Oct 02, 2009
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by: Heather, Calif

I wonder if there is a material she could tolerate. I wonder if you could cut off the bottoms of her shirts and sew a softer/lighter fabric that she would tolerate to be tucked? If her shirts are such a distraction that she can't focus you have to get the teacher and principals attention. Bring in as much info. as you can about the specifics of your childs SPD. Have a meeting as a group and brain storm on how you ALL can help your daughter be successful. I've found that most teachers/principals are compassionate and will help. Also making "Face time" with the teacher/principal makes things more personal, and they know you are invested in your childs success.

Oct 02, 2009
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by: Anonymous

Does she have an IEP? You could have it put in there.

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