What did I do wrong?

by Jamie

My son is 5 years old and has had early intervention for speech and Occupational Therapy for SPD. He has come a long long way, but one of the main issues we still deal with is his anger. The problem is nothing seems to work as a disciplinary measure.


Does anyone out there have a child that can't seem to remember why he was so mad or got in trouble? The threat of a toy being taken away, going to his room, etc. never seems to stick in his mind as a possible repercussion for bad behavior. So far he has not taken his anger out on his little sister or classmates, rather it is the screaming, throwing things, knocking things over, spitting, kicking, stripping off of his clothes that he does. He also does attempt to hit/kick my husband and me.

We worry so much about him eventually hurting another adult or child and of course being labeled a disciplinary problem when he starts kindergarten next year. I am just curious to know if anyone else experiences this with their child with SPD or if I need to investigate further into some kind of an anger disorder. His not remembering what he did, why he was so angry, not caring about what he did concerns us. Thanks!

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Mar 27, 2012
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with all due respect...
by: Anonymous

An OT is not really trained to deal with anger issues, especially if there is no sensory antecedent. A psychologist or behaviorist would be a better bet.

Mar 02, 2011
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anger issues...
by: Anonymous

i wanted to add my son had more issues with anger at age five and has gotten better at age 6, but he still has it some. So I think with age it probably gets better too. It's hard b/c you feel like you want to do everything to make them "better". Just do your best and let time take it's course too. And don't listen to all the negativity!!

Feb 28, 2011
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thank you
by: Jamie

Thank you for all the comments! I think I have several jumping-off points now. I have never heard of a behavior analyst and will look into it. It feels so great to be able to relate to people who go through the same thing!! Having a child seemingly unable to recognize or understand discipline is a scary thing, especially in situations where he could be in harm or danger. We all want the best for our children - thank you for helping!

Feb 27, 2011
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my son acts the same way
by: Anonymous

my son will have good weeks and then weeks where his behavior is so bad he wont even do therapy he is 3 and we have known for a while that he has problems my husband thinks that it our fault but i believe we try to do whats best for him and he is in ot , speech, and behavior therapy.

Feb 26, 2011
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anger issues.
by: Anonymous

No it is not your fault. MY son has SPD and has had similar issues. Is your son in OT?

It's really difficult to deal with, but since my son has been in OT, it has gotten better, but it still happens. I try to really watch situations and intervene when possible. I would let your child's kindergarten teacher know about this.

It;'s not your fault, but I know the guilt you feel!! I know it well. and others are not always so kind either.

Feb 26, 2011
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advice for you
by: Anonymous

Advice for you. Investigate Autism covers a broad spectrum of disorders, from mild to severe and discipline is a problem because they can not understand it. You have not done anything wrong.

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