Opinion 4 year old being labeled the "bad kid"
Oh man, where do I start. I came across this Web site after multiple "complaints" about my son who will be 4 very soon. He started preschool this year, and for the first two months I got complaints from his teacher "that he is is always touching other kids in circle time" "He doesn't know how to stand in a line" "he constantly is pushing or grabbing other kids hands." I was even told that he was "unsocilized" and "so disruptive it is effecting the way other children learn.
Then the complaints stopped.
Well, starting in January, the teacher told me that he is doing the same things again. Telling me I need to work on these things at home. In despair I took out every parenting, child physc book known to man. It lead me to "when to worry and when not to Worry." There was a chapter on SPD, which I almost skipped, but came across a check list that made me gasp.
From 18 months on, my son was the hitter. He would hit happy, sad, angry, excited. He was the one who would melt down over everything and anything. And of course, I was told in all directions that I have NO control of my child. Through MEGA behavior mod charts, I was able to curve most of this behavior. He is now the most loving, helpful almost 4 year old I could ever hope for. However, he now does other things that puzzle me and my husband.
For instance, when he is excited, he will run and "crash" or bear hug and do a dance. I don't know how many times I tell him to stop, or explain to him that it is inappropriate to do this, he does this anyway. He also is constantly touching others faces. I try to explain to him personal space, but it is as if he "forgets" or doesn't get it. How can my child read and not comprehend this?
My heart bleeds when he comes home and tell me his teacher says "he has a problem." What can I do for him- is this really SPD or immaturity. Will he always be labeled the annoying bad kid? I am at a loss, because he is very well behaved, just out of context or when excited, I can't explain why he does what he does. How many times, behavior mod charts, discipline, it just doesn't seem to sink in. Please advice, anyone been there?