Behavior

Hi,

We are experiencing extreme behavior issues at home but also in the classroom. She is in Kindergarten (we home-schooled last year but wanted her to have more structure and make friends). She started off a little rough, but started doing really well recently. But lately she's gotten much worse - refuses to do her work, tearing up her paper, running around the room. She is so smart but won't cooperate.

The school is getting fed up and is blaming us for not supporting them. They think we spoil her and so we are sabotaging any discipline they try to use in the classroom. I don't think they fully get SPD and how difficult it is for all of us and we're all just barely holding it together. We have an IEP and a part-time aide. They don't want to do a full-time aide because they want her to gain independence. However we think it would be nice for her to be able to connect with someone from the time she comes in until when she leaves.

Any advice anyone has on how to make things better at school would be appreciated.

Does anyone have OT on-site at school as part of the school day/week? She has her regular OT, but we thought maybe that it might help her decompress to have it at school too when she's getting out of hand.

Also, we're thinking of having a behavioral specialist come and observe. Does anyone use a behavioral specialist?

We don't know what to do!! Thank you for your help.