Adult Boyfriend help plz
Hello I realise most comments on here are children but I really need advice. I've recently met a man who I realised was quite different straight away but he is lovely. In the short time I've known him he has displayed most of the things described here.
He is bright/ dyslexic/ honest caring yet has real trouble giving me eye contact and when he does it's more of a glare/ he repeats sentences continually and becomes very different out of doors (as if the whole worlds a big threat ( behaves aggressively pulling faces at strangers) snarling and seems totally unaware of spacial requirements.
He states things like (ladies first ) then barges through/ he continually blocks me off the pavement) he seems unable to talk quietly and blares every sentence (yet if I whisper in his ears to calm him down he receives my words with a smile and tries to lower his voice but then just states ( I'll shut up / I must stop repeating myself)... Continually.
Firstly I was shocked but realised he felt threatened so I just calm him down before we go out and hold his hand to reassure him (it has worked a bit) He has strict routines that he adheres to and is rigid in most things he does (no lea way )
He's amazingly hyperactive and cannot sit down for more than a few minutes and seems amazed when I state things that most people would of heard in chit chat (yet he is obviously very bright and can fix most things and will not give in until he has worked it out
has to do something continually
He totally flipped out over a menial thing that it shocked me (but is totally relaxed on things that others would not be happy about ) we nearly split as I was frightened by his reaction but I googled his behaviour and this is where it lead me.
I've tried talking to him about it but it's like he just shuts down again.
He's such a precious person to me already I want us to try (I have been diagnosed with a disorder myself ). He is unaware of his strength ie leaning on me (where most would recognise and would lean yet still hold their own weight a bit)
Playing music is a comfort for me and seems one for him too. Plz note I'm not trying to be a Dr I just feel I need advice. The last thing I want to do is cause more upset to him or distress behaving in a way inappropriate
I cannot believe the medical profession haven't noticed his behaviour and he obviously doesn't want to or can't listen to it. He was in a terrible road accident years ago and was born very premature at the time he was born and I know these can be factors towards his behaviour.
I have nobody I can ask and feel I'm betraying him by posting this but as it's annon and I've kept personal details out
I hope that none of my assumptions/observations offends anyone This is all new to me and I don't want to miss the chance of a happy relationship with someone I feel we can both flourish Tyvm