Anger out of control - for how long?

by Joanne
(Spokane, WA, USA)

I have a 7 year old son, who's finally learning how to manage his anger. He has trouble putting his thoughts together. His mind runs so fast, but the words won't come out right and he becomes very frustrated.

The best thing I found as a Mom who has unlimited love for my son who has SPD is to go for a walk with him when the tantrum goes on too long. All I could think of when he's having a meltdown is, if I'm exhausted, imagine how he must feel. Even though he would be mad, putting the shoes on and getting some fresh air really helps. I don't talk to him unless he wants me to. If he wants to talk, I will listen.

It's a great exercise for him to try to get his thoughts in order, and just calm down and know I'm here. If he's still angry while we are walking, we return to the house and I gently explain to him that he needs to have a time-out in his room - with an open door. It seemed strange to give a 5/6 year old a time out, but it really worked. He would find something to do in his room and end up writing me a note. They find their way somehow. Just be patient. He hasn't had a meltdown in about a year now. I think he has found his way.