Behavior problems

by Connie
(Farmington hills, MI)

My 8 year old son was recently diagnosed with SPD and we are having serious behavior problems with him. (which is nothing new).. He fights us on everything. Everything is a challenge and an argument. He also has ADHD which we are treating with medication but it doesnt seem to be helping with the stubbornness and ease of getting him to do what we ask. This s all new to us, and we are researching therapy for him. We are so overwhelmed right now. Could this oppositional behavior be a part of SPD or are we dealing with a whole separate issue?




We need help and understanding. We can't get him to get dressed, do homework, brush his teeth, eat dinner, clean up his toys, go to bed, etc...everything is a huge argument and fight. We are emotionally and physically exhausted..Will any of this get better with therapy?? We have tried every kind of reward system we can think of.. It helps for about a day, then he doesn't care anymore...



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Oct 12, 2012
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by: Connie

Jen, I took your advice and called the Kaufman center.. They did give me a lot of info over the phone and I scheduled an eval for the end of this month. Thank you for the recommendation...
Oct 12, 2012
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by: Connie

Jen,
Thank you so much for the input. I have yet to meet someone in this area who is dealing with a child with SPD. From what I am understanding, this is not covered by insurance, right? (thats what every facility is telling me)- Do you mind me asking the approximate cost I am going to be facing? I cant get a straight answer from anyone... What am I up against? And, how many days a week did your child do the OT? Did your son/daughter have any behavioral issues with the SPD?? Thank you for the info!
Oct 12, 2012
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by: Jen B

Hello,
Our 7 year old son has SPD and we received amazing help at the Kaufman Children's Center. I see you are in Farmington Hills so this is in your neighborhood. I cannot say enough good things about this place! Here is their info...

Kaufman Children's Center
for speech, language, sensory-motor & social connections inc.
6625 Daly Road
West Bloomfield MI 48322
248.737.3430
www.kidspeech.com
Oct 03, 2012
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by: Connie

Thank you so much for the feedback. Because we are fairly new to this, we are so overwhelmed and just want to feel that we are not alone, and that we can get him through this properly. It seems like you have gone through the same frustrations we have as far as getting this diagnosed for your daughter. We also went through pediatrician after pediatrician. Everybody misdiagnosed him (which is why we are just NOW getting the proper dx at 8 years old). We are proactive parents who are willing to do whatever it takes to help our son, which includes parent training. (We need it!) We get frustrated because of all the challenges, and just want to make sure that this is a part of the condition, and that we arent headed for serious trouble later. We are working on finding an OT as well - Thank you for the message. To know that someone else truly understands our situation makes me feel so much more at ease. - Good luck to you and your daughter. Connie
Oct 03, 2012
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by: Vicky (UK)

Hi Connie , just wanted to say I can totally relate to your situation . Our eldest daughter is 8 and has meltdowns over the same things your son does ! We are still waiting to get referred to an OT after much battling to get any medical person to take this condition seriously in England .

A few things we've tried to lessen the arguments is when getting dressed we try and get her clothes laid out the night before so there's no surprise to what she's wearing. Try getting your son to help with preparing / cooking his meal as he may be more inclined to eat it ! Doing homework is a constant battle but finding a quiet time in the mornings is better than evenings when concentration is worse. Bedtimes is tricky too so getting her changed / ready for bed early on in the evening helps abit and try and do a story or have some calm music on to help relax does help . Tidying up .... well we're still working on that one !

I wish there was a quick fix to SPD but just hearing other people's stories is a comfort in that we're not going through this alone . Good luck

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