Cannot sleep if I dont rub my feet on rough textured fabric

by ezel
(sydney )

Hi, i just want to share if anyone is experiencing the same. Since i was a kid i cannot sleep if i dont rub my feet on a rough texture fabric which i have my favorite cushion that i always have it with me wherever i go.




You know the feeling after shower dry and warm or hot but no sweat. It is very uncomfortable and the only thing that can relaxed me and give me relief is when i rub my feet to my cushion then my feet will sweat; not really sweat it just feel moist, not dry.



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Oct 20, 2021
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Finally!
by: Anonymous

So glad that I'm not the only one! T T ever since I was a kid, I would constantly rub my feet on anything that has the same texture as bed sheets.My mom had to make me sleep in a separate bed as I would always rub my feet on her night gowns lol! But I noticed that after running my feet and it being moist, my hands would be the same too, hence why I have sweaty hands now. wonder why this happens?

Aug 23, 2021
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Gone through a lot of links but this is OG
by: Anonymous

Hi I always tried to figure out why I have this habit. I need , NEED texture under my feet. Even if it is sitting to work at my desk. I need my feet to not have that dry, flaky sensation. I am so happy I am not the only one! I found this website after so many combinations and permutations on Google search. And the comments make me feel at home. I AM NOT THE ONLY ONE.

My mother has contributed this to dry skin, diabetes. While my psychologist has contributed this to normal comfort seeking mechanisms, due to anxiety. She didn’t name it or say anything else apart from those words. Comfort seeking mechanisms.

So the solution she gave me was to buy a fidget cube and use it every time I feel the urge as one says. It sounds really stupid. I know. But, really it’s so amazing to find more people like me. I hope to understand what this is much better through this page.

Aug 05, 2021
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Me too
by: Anonymous

I have the same habits also I have another habits similar i have to put a rough fabric between my nail i know it’s weird but i always do that and my teacher ask me why i do that but i don’t know what to answer

Aug 03, 2021
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Thank God, I am not alone
by: Anonymous

Since I was a child I remember having this issue where I had to rub my feet against a mosquito net in order to fall asleep. When I am sitting or walking or doing some activity I don't seem to have this problem. However whenever I am tried to sleep or lie down or do some relaxing thing, my feet tend to get warm and dry. And it's very uncomfortable.

If I don't wet my feet or rub it against any rough surface like a cushion or bedsheet, my feet tend to swell a little and I can't focus on anything else, it gets so uncomfortable. And not the entire part of the feet. It's more near the toes.

My mom used to scold me always, because running my feet against the mosquito net would cause it to eventually tear and make holes.

Strangely this does not happen in winters when I am wrapped in a blanket.

Sometimes the condition gets so worse, where I don't get a rough object or water nearby, I had to spit to get some relief.

But the problem started when I was very young, I have had this since I remember having senses.
Also yes my hands sweat a lot. I mean a lot. I constantly mis type when using my phone due to this.

From what it seems like these two issues are correlated.

Can some doctor or someone look into this issue?

Jul 04, 2021
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Interesting
by: Anonymous

This is really intriguing. I really wonder if this is caused by genes, a specific experience as a child or developed as you grow up.

I mean, as for me, as far as I can remember, even if I didn't start using mosquito nets as a child as I do now, I was sleeping in a hammock or a foldable bed (that thing used to lie down at the beach) which has rough texture as young as I can remember. So I cannot exactly pinpoint when did I start having this 'condition'. So far, the only effect it has on me is that if I don't rub my feet on a rough surface, I can't relax nor fall asleep. If I use lotion or petroleum jelly on my feet, I can fall asleep albeit for a short time then I wake up, feel that my feet is not moist anymore then reapply then try to fall asleep again. This happens a lot of times so if I forget my mosquito net and there is no substitute, I can't have a good sleep nor relax.

Surprisingly, if I am just sitting without my feet touching anything (hanging in the air, say I was lying down on a sofa and my feet are just in the air) or if my feet are wearing something I consider normal (socks, shoes, slippers), I can relax and I don't find it uncomfortable (like when walking outside, eating at restaurants, studying at school, etc). However, if I'm at the bed (or with the mindset to relax like reading a book while sitting) and my feet are bare and are touching the bed sheet or the floor which is smooth, I start to feel uncomfortable and seek for a rough surface. Another thing is when I have my mosquito net blanket (a blanket sewn using the fabric of a mosquito net, it's what I use instead of a normal blanket), even if sometimes my feet don't touch it, as long as I can feel it somewhere, at my arms, legs, as long as I feel its presence, I don't necessarily feel uncomfortable. So is this psychological?

Lastly, I just read someone's comment saying that he/she/they have excessive sweating in their hands and feet. I seem to have this symptom too. I actually didn't notice nor bother with it. I just think that I sweat too easily or something, just not really a 'condition' but seeing someone mention it, is it related to my needing to feel a rough surface?

Does it really need to be the feet or hands? Or as long as we could feel it, we're relaxed and calm? Do we just use our feet and hands because they are what we use normally to feel something?

I'm so curious right now. If this is psychological, I wonder if it means something. I can't say for sure for others but I can share that my family is broken and I have no siblings. Does that contribute to me having this condition? Is it related to feeling the presence of someone/something hugging/touching me? Is it a type of coping mechanism? A not so obvious result of a trauma? I can't say because I am not an expert.

So far, it didn't cause me any harm so I'm not too worried about this condition. I just want to know about this because I consider it my trait and a part of me. Don't be afraid thinking it's not normal. Nobody minds. When my class decided to have a slumber party and a watch and chill party, I just went and brought my mosquito blanket net and pillows there and enjoyed the party. Aside from being curious and asking me questions, they didn't tease or bully me. So don't be overly conscious. If you feel that it's normal and act like it's normal, they'll just ignore it and treat it as a normal thing too. In any case, we got your back here in this forum ^-^

To anyone who reads this, please take this as my ramblings. You can also share your experience. Maybe, we'll see a pattern with all our stories. Also, thank God for anonymous comments XD Don't take this comment too seriously that you get anxious about it. Again, there is no harm in is having this. In fact, I fall asleep fast and get a really good quality sleep as long as I have my mosquito net blanket. I hope we get our answers one day. To my fellow RSLs (Rough Surface Lover XD It randomly pop out of my mind), have great lives ahead of you and love yourself, always <3

Jun 17, 2021
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i thought i was the only one..
by: Anonymous

i thought i was the only one, i really thought this was normal were the same i cant sleep without any rough textured fabric, both my hands and feet, i want it to feel warm too but not sweaty, and when im at school i always rub my hands on my school uniform skirt bc the usual fabric they use in uniforms are rough textured, so i cant really stop, people keep telling me im so weird, and even in sleeping, i always take off the bed sheet because the bed sheets are usually uses smooth fabrics and i hate it so i rub my feet on the mattress bc its rough textured.

May 08, 2021
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Is this a disorder or something, there hardly any information on this.
by: Anonymous

I just started researching about this today and I came across this forms. I’m very happy to hear that there are other people like me. :)))

I always rubbing my legs on rough textures fabric when I go to sleep, it help me to feel relax and calm. I don’t know how to describe the feeling, you just have this feeling of relief. I love touching and rubbing my hands and legs on rough textures fabric when I’m not sleeping too.

I love rubbing my legs on rough textures but only on fabric like bed sheet, couch, chair, pillow, car seats, blanket and carpet.

I also have excessive sweating on my hands and feet, that I can’t control. (Hyperhidrosis Disorder)

I have Autism and I know people with Autism does stimming to help them feel relax and help with their anxiety. There is all form of stimming in Autism. Could rubbing my legs and hands on rough textures be a form of stimming?

Sensory sensitivities on texture or something?

I did some research and it says that some people with Autism like to stroke items with particular textures.

Does anyone else here have Autism like me too?

Apr 08, 2021
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You described it perfectly!
by: Anonymous

Yes!!! You described it perfectly!

I'm literally searching if this is a type of condition. I'm glad to know I'm not the only one.

Apr 05, 2021
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Me too!!
by: Anonymous

Ye me too, i feel uncomfortable when i dont rub my feet to rough fabric for like 1 hour, i want to stretch my body and still dont feel comfortable unless i rub my feet on rough fabric

Dec 20, 2020
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We're not alone here!
by: Anonymous

It's Nice to see some people have the same trait as me, as you can tell I also have this kind of habit or whatever you call it,when im a kid I used my feet rubbing in the curtains and I feel relaxed after rubbing it few times I start feeling sleepy,and my place is have many mosquito and my father buy us a mosquito-net when I rub my feet in the mosquito-net it's feel relaxed but much better now I'm already teenager I'm still doing it, I can't sleep without it but you know what the BDO Tagline "We Find Ways"
So find a way to sleep without it.

PS:I don't know if my English bad I hope you can understand it.

Dec 03, 2020
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Soooo relatable
by: Bruhmoment

When i was a kid, I thought i was weird then i found out it was pretty common here in Philippines, there was a product trend a few months ago, "kulambong medyas" or "mosquito net socks". The demand was pretty high and got featured on a certain show on national television.

Nov 22, 2020
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I do it to
by: Anonymous

omg i thought i was the only one who does it, mosf of my relative on my mother side does it too, i wonder if there is an specific name of habit for it?

Nov 08, 2020
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one of us
by: Anonymous

Are all Asians here? Is this a form of de-sentisation common in hands especially in feet, that somehow acts as a security blanket, protection and pacifier. How many amongst in the population are actually into this?

Oct 14, 2020
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You develop this at a young age
by: Anonymous

I think this is a trait you get at a young age. My earliest memories when I was a kid was sleeping inside a mosquito net and it's a habit I brought with me as I grew up. Now not only do I find comfort from mosquito nets but also rough textured bedsheets, pillows, mattresses, fabrics and carpets. I also feel the same when I rub my palms to these kinds of textures.

Now I'm 19 and it's a trait I'm not thinking too much of but I pretty much still do it everyday. I guess for me it's the warmth that the friction from rubbing it that puts me in a warm, safe and comfortable state

Jan 08, 2020
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Can definitely relate
by: Cmannino

My 3 year old daughter is an extreme sensory seeker. She has had some interesting foot quirks since birth. She used to test the temperature of her food with her feet till she was a little past 2(not very socially acceptable acceptable but I'm way past caring about what people who just don't know about SPD think).

At night during the small snippets of time she actually sleeps she has to rub and push her feet against something(usually me or her dad). I'm actually considering different ways like your cushion to help her soothe because we are about to attempt moving her into her own room because she is extremely strong even though she is tiny and getting kicked in the stomach and head as her feet seek out a place to rub has gone from mildly jarring to very painful and almost broken noses.

Hopefully we can find a solution like yours to help her reign it in. I think it's great that you found a way to get the sensory input you need to regulate your system so you can sleep.

Jan 07, 2020
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It's not a condition ! It's actually your security
by: Anonymous

I have exact the same situation! I grow up with mosquito-net so I did the same rubbing my feet. I was 17 when we moved to US...First night was horrible! I can't sleep, so end-up to thr carpeted floor and rubbed my feet then 😪 .

Every night is a struggle for me. One day, saw my aunt doing her laundry and I asked her. Why she needs to put all her bras on this net. Well of course she replied. I asked her if she can buy me one and I'll pay her later. So late afternoon I asked her again if we are going to the store and get one, she gave me a look and thinking...she asked, if I needed right away..and offered her laundry net instead. I told her my situation, my mannerism or we most call it here security net/security blanket or whatever....that's why I can't have hers...So, i got mine!🤗

I always carry my laundry net anywhere I go... going out for movie, travelling. I always have spare to each of my car just incase of emergency😁 Anyways, i have 8 nets 🤣 and I'm 40 now 😉

Nov 05, 2019
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Bah
by: Anonymous

Yeah, i would really like to know the name of this condition. I'm so into this since forever ago. I have a mosquito-net, cut to a meter length, with a few stashed at home. (Bros & Sis, I recommend this, BTW, rather than bringing the whole thing or a full rough blanket). The deed gives me focus while writing or reading, and i am compelled to squat on the chair or sofa--looking like a meditating jedi.

Nov 04, 2019
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im the same
by: le

all started when i was few years old, raining day i was playing around the concrete sewer pipe, sitting there and rub my feet on the concrete and its felt good i even fall asleep lol and its became a habit to this day, unable to sleep w/o my feet felt moist either rub my feet on mesh fabric until its sweaty or put lotion all over, now day i just sleep on a asian hammock its felt
good on feet lmao

Sep 15, 2019
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wtf hahaha
by: Anonymous

I do the same, I would like to find the name of this condition. Whenever I'm lying in my bed, I lie on my side and bend my leg. Then I start rubbing my foot against the sheet or a rough texture. This is affecting me, because I made a callus in my big toe. Whenever I rub my foot, my big toe is the one I rub very hard. It satisfies me and even turns me on and I can reach orgasm.

Jul 11, 2019
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Discovering my bizarre yet satisfying trait
by: tanya

Hi! I discovered having this kind of trait when I was four years old, when I tried rubbing my foot on my dad's newly-cut hair and I realized that it felt really satisfying and relaxing to me haha. Until they decided to buy me a rough textured foam or fabric because I could hardly sleep when rubbing my feet with just ordinary bedsheet or foam anymore.

Whenever I visited my grandparents before in the province, they always had a mosquito-net being that is the most satisfying thing to rub your feet on. And I also found out that most of my Aunts, on my dad's side, do the exact same thing, and that's when I concluded that this could be genetically-transmitted kind of a weird trait hahaha.

I'm already 21 and I'm still doing it, I guess it will never go away, and it's fine, because rubbing your feet with any rough textured fabric is the most satisfying thing in the world.

I could sleep in a cold hard floor anywhere, just provide me the roughest textured fabric or mosquito-net you can find.

May 31, 2019
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Omg
by: Anonymous

I got same every single night I need to rub my feet in a rough texture fabric. If I'm travelling abroad and staying in a hotel I need to get hotel's towel and leave it at the end of bed and start rubbing it till I fall as sleep. I'm thinking of buying a mosquito net to give it ago and see If I will feel more relax lol. It's weird but I'm looking for a very rough fabric to replace my old one. My mum kept old fabric cloth i've used when I was a child. I'm 34 now and still doing it. Sometimes petrolium jelly helps to relax me before sleeping.

Dec 05, 2018
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YES M8
by: Anonymous

BRUH YES. what i do is wrap my foot in my blanket, then i put my wraped foot in between my bed and wall and rub away. I found out that the muscle i like to rub ks called the abductor hallicus (something like that) my mother told me ive been rubbing my foot since i was in her womb, that i would go to the side of her womb and rub. And till this day "currently 20 i rub my foot heavily in my dorm room 😂😂😂 funny crap ya know.

Jun 30, 2018
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Welcome mat
by: Anonymous

I have a welcome mat of plastic grass that is very rough and I scuff my feet on it several times to get kill the sensitivity in my feet. Works great.

Jun 20, 2018
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OMG
by: Anonymous

OMG I am same as you. I am wondering what fabric you use?

Aug 12, 2017
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me too
by: Anonymous

I personally use mosquito nets, it's just the best. If those aren't available the second best would be rough socks or a rough unpainted concrete wall

Mar 12, 2017
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Omg
by: Anonymous

Omg i'm not the only one. I can't sleep without rubbing my feet on my bed. My family hates when i do it because of the noise but it's too satisfying.

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