Can't Wear Clothes

by Becca

Since I was young I've always had a very difficult time wearing certain clothing items. Socks and underwear were my biggest struggle as a child. I could only wear a certain brand of underwear, and even then sometimes I would stretch and stretch the waist band until I popped all the stitching or tore the elastic.

Putting on shoes was a task. It could take 20 minutes to find a pair of socks I could tolerate, then mess with them or turn them inside out and back 50 times before being able to tolerate the way they were laying on my feet. I could only wear one pair of stretchy comfortable pink pants, and basketball shorts with waste bands that were too big.

Seat belts in cars bothered me, wrinkles in bed sheets, the way the carpet felt under neath my feet, the list goes on.

In Junior High and High School it got a lot better, clothes became easier to wear. Things still bothered me but it was tolerable and I wish I knew what caused that change.

Now I'm 21 and I am to the point where most things make every cell in my body feel like it's about to explode. I want to cry all the time. Seams, tags, the way a material feels or lays on me. I can't handle waist bands, or jeans. I can wear only leggings that are the same feeling

of tight all the way up. I haven't worn padded bras in years and a couple years ago I cut bras out completely. I have one brand of seamless underwear that I can tolerate and socks are still the daily struggle.

I have so many sweaters, shirts, and tanks and depending on the day maybe one will feel okay. In the winter I can't wear coats or layers, so I put on my warmest sweatshirt that i can tolerate and try to keep warm.

Jewelry bothers me, the way hair pins or elastics pull on my hair bothers me, and I can even feel nail polish if I paint my nails.

I'm to the point where I really don't know what to do anymore. I don't know what causes it and it's making me very depressed. Did I mention that I'm extremely into fashion? So not only do my clothes cause me to reach an explainable discomfort that takes over all of my thoughts and feelings. I then am so upset at myself at that point for not being able to wear the new extremely cute sweater that I spiral down a path of self loathing.

If anyone has taken the time to read this, Thank you. I'd love to know if anyone experiences anything similar and if anyone has any advice. I don't know how I can handle this any longer.

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Jan 16, 2019
Tactile defensiveness and textures
by: Anonymous

From an OT perspective, it sounds like you have tactile defensiveness. A professional OT might be able to help you desensitize or at least tolerate more. Hope you can get the help you need. I understand your frustration. Wear clothes for most isn't noticeable but with tactile aversion, clothes can feel painful. Good luck.

Dec 01, 2018
You describe my 5yo
by: Mom of 4

I found this page while searching for seamless socks & undies for my 5 year old. We’ve had daily battles for a couple years now, only getting worse, while trying to dress her. Now that she’s in school I’m determined to help her find things she’s comfortable in. Socks & undies seem to be the worst but lately pants/leggings have even bothered her to the point of tantrums.

We’ve resorted to loose fitting dresses & her play shorts for under the dresses are a silky material & loose in the waist. I’ve realized she loves those shorts & will wear them for days & even just have those on while around the house with nothing else.

Nov 30, 2018
I had the same problem
by: Taylor

I also have had this problem, especially in elementary school. I would always wear baggy shirts, baggy Capri pants, and most of the time no socks at all. socks were my biggest struggle and also pants.

I could never wear jeans because they wouldn't feel right on my legs. my mom bought me a pair of jeans for the first time and she made me wear them. I would get anxiety and then sweat, which made things way worse. the jeans were then super tight on my legs and I felt like I couldn't move at all. I would cry all the time.

I'm now a freshman in high school and I can wear almost anything. I wear tight skinny jeans, normal shirts, I can wear shoes comfortably, and I can also wear and put on socks without have to stretch, and put them inside out and back all the time.

I really hope you can grow out of it like I did.

Sep 14, 2018
by: Anonymous

i’m 13 and i’ve been dealing with this for as long as i can remember. when i was around 5 i remember i couldn’t wear jeans and barely leggings. i wore leggings and a t-shirt and sweatshirts bothered me as well as longn sleeve shirts.

around the age of 9 i ended up having extreme difficulty with my socks and underwear too. i’ve found some cheats to use with these. i wear boy short underwear because the seams aren’t as bad, and i turn my socks inside out (but they still drive me insane) so i usually wear crocs with no socks.

now my problem is bras so i j wear sport bras. it helps if u experiment and find little cheats to get through things. :):)

Sep 14, 2018
Me Too
by: Bill

I have always had trouble getting dressed and staying dressed--even as a child.

I am 67 now and have spent a lifetime hating the textile world. Thankfully I live in the country and can be naked much of the time. I get caught once in a while but don't let it bother me.

It seems like I can tolerate clothes as long as I get my naked time with plenty of sunshine.

I have never believed that nudity is wrong.

Aug 17, 2017
by: Anonymous

I have the same problems. I am only 14 and i have to wear socks that have no seam. I cannot wear jeans. I cant wear tight shirts. I pretty much only wear a baggy t-shirt and leggings. I have dealt with this my whole life. I only ever wore leggings.

I get picked in because of it. I was trying to figure out what this is called. So i can tell people what i "have." I know that im am not the only one now. Haha💕

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