How can I help my child when I am worse off than she is?
by C. Smith
My daughter is being assessed for SPD. Others pointed out that some of her responses to life were not quite right. As a first time mom I just do my best to deal with them. As I began reading on this site and was going through the lists of issues I saw that while my daughter does have a few areas of difficulty I saw myself in it more than anything else.
I have been diagnosed and treated for ADD but it hasn't resolved all of the issues that I struggle with. Could I also have SPD, or is it my thyroid, or one of a thousand other possibilities! I am left wondering what I should do. I see only two choices for myself.
1: Either I push forward with my limited energy and abilities and persist through confusion, and put my family through the financial and emotional hardships of seeking a proper diagnosis for myself (which may not exist), or
2: I accept that I am flawed and will never be capable of all that I imagine I could be, and instead focus myself entirely on organizing systems around me and coming up with better coping techniques just so I can get through the very basics of life.
It is hard to know what to do. I simply do not function normally and am not sure if I ever can.
So how can I help my daughter when I am worse off then she is? And what about the children we plan to have in the future? There is no simple answer I know, but any input is appreciated.