listening issues

by mushroommama
(fort myers fl)

What do I do when my 3 1/2 yrs old just stops listening to everything you say? frustrated mom.

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Aug 16, 2009
by: mushroommama

Thanks to you both. i have done all those things and more, the "i quit" didnt go over to well lots of tears and convincing the i would never leave. Boy did i feel like dirt. He was just having one of those weeks and needed his space so he asked to watch a movie and sat on his bean bag for 45 minutes not a word until the show was over. alls well that ends well. thanks again.

Aug 14, 2009
tuned out.
by: Anonymous

First off I have learned to talk less. Use shorter "commands". I ask him to repeat what I've said and what it means. Once I have determined that it is not a processing issue and that he is indeed making the choice to not listen, then I stop listening to him and I let him get upset. Sometimes he gets REALLY upset, and once we finish our anger management session I remind him why he got so upset and let him know that when he is ready to listen to me then I will listen to him. By the way... just a little reminder; It's okay to let the housework go a little sometimes for the benefit of the children. NEVER the other way around.

Aug 13, 2009
Silent Treatment
by: Tammy

I started giving my son the silent treatment and I would just give him the look and point toward the direction I wanted him to go, or point at the food I wanted him to eat. Surprisingly that worked very well for a little while. I also announced that I "quit" being the mom and went to my room and laid down on the bed. Then, he came in crying and said, "I want you to be my mommy!" He's 4 now.
Good luck. It's really whatever works to get you thru the day. =-)

God Bless!

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