Low sexual drive

by Lyn
(MA)

I am newly curious about whether my extremely low sex drive could be related to a sensory integration issue. Any thoughts?



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Jan 12, 2015
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starstarstarstarstar 		Extreme High Sez Drive
by: Anonymous

My husband is in his mid fifties. I have always thought he was Autistic because of odd behaviors. I also thought Sensory over load was a symptom of Autism. Then I read site and I see it can be alone. Does anyone experience this problem or know anyone with it? My husband can not have intercourse. With NO foreplay at all, he can roll over on me or behind me and ejaculate before he even gets in me. He cannot touch me, caress me, or perform oral sex on me with out having to stop within a minute because he has already got off. This is so much more than premature ejaculation, it is complete sensory over load. And he wants it all the time. If he even lays up beside me, he's got an erection and ejaculating. My said it has been like this from the very first time. I went down the adult checklist and he has 75% of the symptoms all the time. He finally went to the doctor after me complaining, cause all I get out of our sex life is a mess on me to clean up. The doctor gave him Viagra... What a nightmare that was. Sex same as before except he stayed half erected after ejaculating and had the clear fluid just running out of him for a minute or so. He doesn't have a problem getting an erection, he has a problem keeping it and can not perform in any way. Any advise?
Jul 08, 2012
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starstarstarstarstar 		It's not low sex drive, it's spd
by: Anonymous

I just found out recently that I have spd and I'm relieved to finally have a reason for my complete abhorance to any kind of physical intimacy. My spd is pretty severe and my marriage has been suffering badly because of it. It is so bad that sex with my husband is pretty much nonexistent. Touch during sex is unbearable and I won't let my husband kiss me because the thought of saliva in my mouth disgusts me to the point of revulsion. My sense of smell is so hyper-sensitive that no amount of showers or teeth brushing by my husband makes a difference. Just the thought of sex gives me super high anxiety and I shut down completely. Our first year of marriage was fine and we had a normal sexual relationship. After I had my kids the spd went into overdrive. At first I thought I had low desire, but after years of various doctors visits, medications and therapy nothing improved. Finding out that it's spd finally gives my abnormal issues a name, but it doesn't help solve them.
Dec 17, 2010
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starstarstarstarstar 		I get
by: Anonymous

I get distracted very easily and can't focus on the task at hand. Its often frustrating.
May 16, 2009
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starstarstarstarstar 		Yes
by: Anonymous

I Think it does, my girlfriend has a low sex drive with the disorder ,but we still think its maybe a combined package (the pill, the syndrome, some passed experiences), she stopped the hormone contraceptive and changed it to the coil without hormones, but it will take 6 months to a year to flush the body out. So we will see, at the same time we are trying hypnotherapy seeing some results there but to early to tell, Hope this helps
May 15, 2009
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starstarstarstarstar 		Painful Sex
by: Anonymous

I am wondering if I have SPD and if it can cause severe pain during sex? Sometimes, I feel like my husband is ripping me apart...even kissing is painful at times. I want to have sex and have a drive, but the pain causes me to react on the drive....
Apr 21, 2009
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starstarstarstarstar 		Me also
by: Anonymous

Are there any males like me that also have a low sex drive with SPD or am I all alone
Apr 01, 2009
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starstarstarstarstar 		hypno
by: Anonymous

Hi,

I was just wondering if anybody knows hypnotherapy would help for this,

Thanks
Mar 19, 2009
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starstarstarstarstar 		same
by: Anonymous

I am glad someone else wrote this.I also wondered about this. I would be curious to see if there was some kind of study done.
Mar 16, 2009
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starstarstarstarstar 		my sensory
by: Anonymous

My first marriage felt like rape , everytime he touched me I would cringe,it was not him ,it was me and we divorced before I knew it was my issues not our issues
Mar 15, 2009
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by: Anonymous

I have also felt that my low sex drive has something to do with my sensory issues. I have trouble with tactile issues in a big way. I also have with smells. It makes it extremely hard to get close to someone, especially when my stress level is high, which is all the time considering I work full time (self-employed) and have 3 kids who fight all the time, and a husband who yells a lot and is often very demanding.

I have found that doing some relaxation techniques often helps. I have also discovered that glass of wine helps when the relaxation techniques don't work. It is also very romantic. :) My husband tries to be helpful by using mouthwash and shaving, but sometimes there is just not enough time for that (life is sometimes unpredictable when you have kids).

Find something that makes it easier to deal with the sensory issues you deal with. You could try a massage, candles, a warm bath or shower... Use your imagination and good luck!

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