My 7 years old son has an ears fetish

by Debbie
(Suffolk, NY )

My son has been touching his ears for sometime now. It's becoming a problem now. He been touching kids ears in school. I tell him all the time that he can't touch anyone and that he needs to respect people's personal space.

I don't think he realize he's doing it. Not sure how to get it under control because we have sat him down multiple times to discuss.

Would you happened to have any suggestions? I don't want this to become a bigger issue.

Worried Mother

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Oct 21, 2022
Touching cold ears
by: Anonymous

I have had the same habit since I was a young child, and still do it at the age of 44. It's calming. I find myself pinching my cold ears in between my fingers when I'm sleepy or when I'm just bored and daydreaming. It never caused me any problems. I only touched my cold ears,my sisters, or my parents. As I got older it was just mine or my husband's, or my children's.
Now, my Grandson does the same (he's 3) and has done it since he was a baby. Not sure if he learned to do it because I did, like a learned behaviour or genetic. Nobody else in my family does this except for me, and now my Grandson.

Jul 09, 2020

My granddaughter has the need to touch ears or arms so long as the skin is cold, she does this to fall asleep. It is a comfort thing but has become difficult because she cant seem to fall asleep unless she is touching, ears mainly.

We got her a weighted blanket which has helped her to fall asleep quicker but when she wakes, sometimes several times a night, she wants the touching ears, she doesn't touch her own ears like your son, but her mummy and mine. It is difficult for my daughter who is a single mum and has to get up in the night many times to settle her.

I believe they will grow out of it in time and we just accept that this is something she needs for comfort at this time. There doesn't seem to be much help with this problem although we are now seeing a family support worker to see if they can offer any help or advice.

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