My 8 year old had a bad day at school ,my friend still doesn't understand..im all alone!
by Dawn fillinger
My son had a bad day at school! He was tired and was allowed to lie down,but then after he did told he owed work! He has SPD and should've been told this first! Anyway I want home when he got off the bus,my brother was who thinks I just coddle him too much. Then my son told my brother im ripping up my homework and the note from the teacher, instead of taking it away my brother who has no kids let alone one like mine a told him go ahead your mom will be mad at you and you'll get grounded!
So of course my son did just that! When I arrived home I heard all about it,but knew before I got out of the car he had a bad day as he was not at the door. I went to my sons room which is also his safe place always has been to hear how he was doing and and he said "you're mad at me right?' "you hate me right?' Im just a bad kid!" I said "No i don't like the choice you made but I'm not mad, I know you were very upset, and everyone gets upset! I love you very much and that will never change! and you are most certainly not a bad boy or kid, you just had a bad day, and the choices that were made can be made differently tomorrow. He crawled under his bed "yeah but Uncle said you were gonna ground me and be mad" "Yeah well Uncle doesn't know everything now does he?" lol.. come on out I didn't get a hug and you can tell me in
your words what happened..Well the tears started and that's how I found out the teacher didn't tell him until after that he had to make up the work.*sigh*
My child goes to a school with children who have behavioral problems all 80 of them, 10 per class plus one teacher and two aides and guess what not a one has read even the "The Out-of-Sync Child
" but we have a sensory room, she (the teacher) tells me and he didn't want to do any of them just kick us..Really Im gonna go through this again? Where I do all the work and write papers so my child gets the right OT and they understand him at his special school?
Anyway my friend bought my son monster jam tickets so he could go with his cub scouts (it fits his structure and moral compass well) he calls me after I write about the homework ripping and says 'Should I tell him im disappointed in him especially after I bought these tickets?" He's just MANIPULATING things by ripping his homework and then saying he's worried about you loving him and being a bad kid, and that is being a bad kid" I said listen read the book, he couldn't help it, and I dont want to talk to you right now goodbye!
I am so sick of people saying they understand and then making such ignorant statements!!!! ok this just happened and im still seeing red, but how many times can i explain to people that my son feels bad about himself no matter how many times i prop him up or tell him i love him or show him because of this disorder?????