My Cash and his struggles :(
Im a disabled stay at home mother of 3 boys...1,5,&7. My husband and I are at wits end with our 5 year old, Cash! We have honestly tried EVERYTHING...only things we haven tried are special schooling/class... bc he just finished preschool. We also haven't done meds or this!
I LOVE MY SON! But i dont know what to do! Here's his story...
For the last 2 1/2 years he has wanted and acts like a girl, everything and anything is turned into a girly thing...EVERYTHING! We have approached it at evry angel...now we just let him be girly at home/safe place (recommended by his therapist) for his birthday couple months ago, he asked for Repunzel, so we got that for him. Now thats just one struggle/ mystery of ours with him. (scared i might steer him wrong way) Now Cash has always been clingy to me but with me being disabled physically i cant have him hanging on me. He also is LOUD always no matter how many times we remind him! He runs always...all day we say Cash STOP running! We use 1 2 3 timeout and chores for punishment. Rough housing with older brother 24/7 hes not aloud to do much with our 1 year old bc he makes him cry all the time! Which breaks my heart to tell him that he cant touch or play with his little brother.
He loses interest in many activities, quickly and complains about them. He has to know whats going on 24/7. Any tasks have to be repeated over n over! He doesn't pay attention ever unless its the tv. We make him repeat what we say to him to make sure he is aware. He will ask questions from the moment he wakes up n the morning! He has no filter! he will ask or tell strangers things they dont need to know. He interrupts and talks randomly.He also is very clumsy...falls
and trips alot, cant run alot when asked too lol and when asked to do something..."I cant" "its too hard" "WILL you do it for me" He struggles with dressing himself...always mismatched or needing help with buttons or his clothes all bunched up! All of this happens daily! EVERYDAY!!!! When i try and groom him... "ow it hurts" "noooo" "stop" im just doing his ears, checking teeth, cutting nails etc. Startled easily...complains about noise. He has spurts of peeing his pants! He cant organize anything. Cant recall things that happen daily..ugh just writing this is making my anxiety go up!!! And im probably missing things that are important but this is a start! haha.Oh and making friends is hard for him bc of these things and that hes so hands on! (breaks my heart)
He will laugh about anything almost ex: He dug a hole somewhere he shouldn't have and my husband said well im gona clean up your mess Cash. Cash says thats good and laughs about.
This type of thing happens alot. He wont respond when hes in trouble, he wont tell us why he did what he did! Its soooo frustrating! Also my husband struggles more with Cash bc its not his son (but Cash only knows him as Dad) so Cash tends to be more rude and defiant with him. Cash says rude things to him and they but heads bc my husband thinks he is just playing us or wanting attention. He tries and talks to Cash always about his behavior bc he thinks hes very smart and just being defiant! He pretty much as thrown the towel in and just avoids Cash bc he cant handle it! We neeeeed HELP!
Trying and praying for solution for his sake and our sanity!!! Is he A.D.H.D and something else?? What she would do so he can enjoy childhood w/out being punished always???!!!
Please respond back, hope i didnt scare ya away!