My Husband won't accept that something is wrong with our son.

by veronica
(Greenville, Mississippi)

I noticed that our son had some little quirks when he was about 2yrs old. He would touch all of his food and was a very picky eater. If it was some type of texture that he did not like then he would not even pick it up. He has always walked on his tiptoes. He has always been a very loving and polite child. His vocabulary is very large for a 5yr old. He uses words that my older children in college and high school use.

Alex never went to daycare he had only one caregiver until he started school. When we did put him in school I had to remind him to put his feet down so that he would not be on his tiptoes. He does not like to ride very far in a car. He does not like to wear pants, socks, or shoes.

During the summer months he would only wear shirt and underwear. Certain clothing he does not like to wear. He says that it itches, or hurts him and he will pull and try to stretch it or take it off. We hardly ever get to go to a restaurant as a family because he has always be so difficult to handle. Alex has been in OT and also has had an IEP from school. I have had to worked very hard to get his teacher and school to understand that I am not sure what is wrong with my son but that I want him to have the same chance that everyone else has. He has a sensory evaluation done at OT and he has an upcoming appointment at a child developmental center.

Now to my husband. He thinks that there is nothing wrong with our son. He is just that way and that everyone else has something wrong with them. He says that doctors make diagnosis that are wrong and that I should not believe them. He says that I am the one that is saying something is wrong with Alex. He is right I am the one that is saying that and I am also the one that is here with him one on one most of the time. I am there after work and on the weekends and my husband is not. My husband is from another country and seems to think that the teachers and educators in the USA do not know how to teach. I am at a lose as what to do. I have been accused of keeping things from him and doing things without his knowledge but when I try to discuss anything with him and he turns it around and starts an argument and then we go at each other like kids.

How do I get him to understand and to help me reach this child and to teach him ?