Not Picky... Selective

by Janet
(Texas)

I have a limited palate, and am not burdened by excessive choices. Why not just leave your kid alone and relax?



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Dec 27, 2010
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starstarstarstarstar 		Selective.......not ok when it affects health
by: Anonymous

As a parent of a child with ASD who is about to have a PEG feeding tube placed in his stomach because he will not let more than a few food types pass his lips and even then these are in such small amounts that he has a BMI of just 11 (a person with a diagnosed Eating Disorder would be considered extremely severe if allowed to get that low.) I can't stand back and not try all I can to encourage any morsel of food to pass his lips. If my son was maintaining an adequate growth curve I may find it easier to stand back and let it go but it is my son's life. A parent does all they can for their child, whether or not others may agree or disagree. My thoughts are with all parents who having issues regarding their children and their eating issues.
Feb 17, 2010
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starstarstarstarstar 		thank you
by: Anonymous

Like so many other parents reading articles on the website, I wish I could just leave him alone to eat what he wants but at a certain point we have to intervene. I am very worried about my son and do not want to hurt him mentally as an adult by trying to get him to eat but I am stuck because he does not gain any weight and looses it very easily, so what am I to do? I want him to eat healthy and find out why he does not eat so I am going to push him. If you have some ideas you think would help or you would have liked as a child please post besides just leaving the child be.
Nov 28, 2009
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starstarstarstarstar 		wheres the beef?
by: uncle scam

Im 40 yrs old and have never eaten any veggie, only meat. Im as healthy as anyone my age.

to anon.comment sept. 22 '08 have you entertained the idea that the source of your sons anxiety is possibly knowing that as sure as the sun rises, he will be expected to eat something that disgusts him? cockroaches aren't poisonous and are chock full of tasty protein! would you be happy to set to a plate of them?

Dont misunderstand my intention, if any of you weren't good parents you wouldn't be educating yourselves at this site. My point is the emotional problems and anxiety of being forced to eat something that offends you two or three times every day may outweigh the health risks of carrot deprivation.

One Christmas i got a can of carrots. I don't even remember if I actually got a real gift, but can recall the feelings and anger i digested that day. love your kids and always stand in their corner.
Mar 26, 2009
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starstarstarstarstar 		I totally agree!
by: Anonymous

I'm in the same position. As the person with the issues, I have a very different viewpoint than a parent or expert who is trying to "treat" a child. I am what I am. I wish someone would have helped me learn what I liked and didn't like rather than labeling me or trying to force me to eat what I didn't like!
Sep 22, 2008
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starstarstarstarstar 		RE: Not Picky.....Selective
by: Anonymous

There's a difference between having a "selective palate" and becoming anxious and stressed when food is placed in front of you, as my son does. Your comments are insensitive and ignorant.
Sep 15, 2008
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starstarstarstarstar 		If you haven't been there, you don't understand
by: Jessi

My son has at times in his life been in the 75-90th percentile for height and the 5th for weight. You start to get concerned when you're in that position. He caught up eventually and now is eating better, but it took a year of OT to get there. He used to gag on vegetables and had really limited what he would eat. Fortunately for me, peanut butter sandwiches was one of the things he liked most and there's generally been at least one fruit he liked. I've read about kids that were much worse though. Please don't judge our parenting - most of us have cried ourselves to sleep more times than we like to think about. Fortunately for me and my son, we found out what was wrong when he was still very young (3 1/2) and have been getting therapy ever since. He's doing so much better now, and I believe that the quality of the rest of his life will be improved.

If I'd just left him alone, I wouldn't be watching him eat a well balanced meal EVERY night now, would I?
Sep 14, 2008
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starstarstarstarstar 		Missed the point
by: Anonymous

Because it is more than just being selective. As concerned parents, we are worried about poor health as it relates to the lack of eating or lack of eating a variety of healthy foods. We're talking about kids who won't eat, but then can't function at school later because they are starving, but may not recognize it.

You've definitely missed the point.

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