Question about 3 year old daughter
my daughter is 3 years old (turned 3 in the end of march) and she just started preschool. While she has always been energetic and precocious, we've never had any concerns about her developmental progress (said a few words by 10 months, speaking few word sentences by 18 months, etc--also was crawling by 9.5 months, walking at 13 months, loves to climb, run, etc.). She is very creative and LOVES to pretend, makes up stories, always saying "mommy--you be the grandmother, i'll be the little girl" etc.
She is not great with fine motor--she can undress herself and is capable of putting on her shirt or pants but has no interest in it so i have to make her stop and focus to do it (she would much prefer that i do it for her). she can draw a circle, straight lines, paints at at school, etc. but is definitely not drawing as the same level as some four year olds in her class. she started school on september 7 and we had her parent/teacher meeting last friday. Her teacher said she is friends with everybody, leads pretend play and the kids love to play with her because she is so imaginative and fun. she is a "really good friend" and adjusts what she is playing based on feedback from other kids (i.e. she wanted everyone to play "scary old ladies" and one kid said "that scares me" so my daughter said--"ok, let's play nice old ladies instead"....no concerns from a social standpoint. But then the teacher said she is concerned about her hand/eye coordination and attention since she doesn't do a great job pulling up her own underpants and then pants (it is usually a jumbled mess) and she
wiggles in her chair during lunch.
She also said yesterday that my daughter was repeating a question that she knew the answer to a bunch of times (not all the time, she did it once). She thinks this is "atypical" behavior and suggested an OT evaluation. I asked the teacher for other examples or concerns, if she felt any of these things were affecting her day to day behavior or ability to learn and she said no. But now i feel like she is looking for things to point on so she can tell me its atypical. My daughter has a lot of energy and likes to do what she likes to do. But they said she is doing well with transitions, listens to the teachers, etc. I am frustrated by the OT evaluation suggestion but feel like if i don't do it, the teacher is going to continue to find things that she thinks aren't normal and point them out. I want my daughter to be able to be herself and i don't think she should have to act a certain way ("cookie cutter") as long as she is learning and making progress.
My mother in law does early intervention and is with my daughter every Monday since she was born--she feels there are no issues and that the teacher must not know what a sensory issue truly looks like. I want to do what is best for my daughter and am wondering if i should just do the evaluation. On the flip side, everything I read says the parent would be seeing strange or difficult behavior and we just don't see that. I should also mention that this is a private all girls school. Any thoughts would be appreciated.