From birth my son (now 4) was difficult. He had acute colic at 5 days old, he needed to be held tightly in order to fall asleep. He cried much of the day unless he was in his pram. He refused to eat anything other than pureed foods until 18/20 months. He was unable to feed himself until he was about 26 months. He never crawled, preferring to bum shuffle. He never pulled himself up on furniture but took his first steps around 18 months. He was an early talker (11 months), with a varied vocabulary by 14 months.
He hated loud noises and still dislikes large parties/gatherings, school concerts, hand dryers. He does need a constant hum of noise in the background. I first noticed he was a bit different when he was about 20 months. Everybody disagreed. He refused to join in music time, singing and dancing, imitating actions, preferring his own company he would wander away from groups and explore his surroundings. He had to touch, smell and taste everything. I couldn't understand why he was so different.
By 3 his behaviour became very challenging. His nursery teachers complained about his behaviour, being constantly on the go, knocking things over, bumping into other children and just that he was "different". So he was seen by a pediatrician who made a psychiatric referral as she thought he may have Asperger's Syndrome. He was seen by a renowned psychiatrist who discounted AS but diagnosed a conduct disorder.
We attended Parent - Child training sessions, we were also given an OT referral as he was described as having "floppy arm syndrome". We went to see an OT who diagnosed SPD. The NHS will only give us 7 sessions. After that its up to us.
Where do we go from here? I still don't fully appreciate how I can help him, consequently we all have short fuses, challenging behaviour and lots of tears (from everyone!). I really don't know what I can now, we have no support. At least I've find this site so I know we are not alone.