Tactile defensiveness in adults

by Jo
(USA)

For years I have had an extreme sensitivity to certain carpets, upholstered furniture, and certain cloth material. I become, for lack of a better description, grossed out or repulsed when my bare or stockinged feet or sometimes hands come into contact with someone's carpet or upholstery.




It is not every type of material. Berber carpet or flat carpet does not seem to bother me as much. If we are at someone's house, I am very picky about which chair I will sit on, preferring leather or a smooth fabric. The thing that makes this so weird is that if my hands or feet are sweaty it doesn't bother me nearly as much.

In the summer, I don't have nearly the problems I do in the winter. For example, at Christmas, I had to leave my shoes on at a family member's house because I couldn't bear the thought of my socks touching their carpet. We have a chair in our living room that I will only sit on if my feet and hands are sweaty. The good thing is that I often have sweaty hands and feet. But, never it seems, when I want them to be.

Is this totally crazy? I don't ever tell anyone about this because it is seems so strange. Does anyone know what I am talking about?



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Aug 01, 2018
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Is this the same?
by: Anonymous

For the past 3 weeks or so, I have developed weird "quirks" as I call them. Such as, I can't walk on our kitchen laminate floor in my socks because it just feels extremely unbearable to me. My anxiety rises and I feel really tense.

I go out of my way to put my tennis shoes on to cook supper, do dishes, etc... I can't sleep with socks on anymore because I feel like my feet rub against them weird and it send chills down my spine. But it is similar if I take my socks off because then my feet rub on the sheets...

I can no longer wear certain tights that I used to wear a lot because if my hand brushes down them my anxiety rises and my teeth hurt. My sons nighttime lotion makes my hands feel too odd and I have to scrub it off my hands as soon as I apply it to him because it makes me feel anxious and tense...

Some of my sons pajamas do the same. Along with plush blankets that I used to love to snuggle up in because they are so soft. It all makes me really anxious and I just can't stand it. I'm trying to find ways to avoid this stuff but it seems like more and more things keep making me feel this way. I don't know how much more I can take!

Jul 16, 2018
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A page I can relate to!
by: Anonymous

Thank goodness I found this page and now know the term for this issue I have. The bottoms of my feet are the worst... They can’t touch any sort of fabric. Bed sheets, wool, satin fibers, carpets. If they slide against any fabric, I get an instantaneous heat wave, accompanied by anxiety, sweating, and chills.

I’ve started keeping socks in my car, in case I’m driving barefoot because my floorboard irritates me too. My hands are also the same way, but also with denim fabric. Worst feeling ever, and nobody I’ve mentioned it to understands.

Jun 24, 2018
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Wow
by: Anonymous

I've been getting these weird shivers and goosebumps every time I hear paper, like if someone is holding tissue and it makes a noise it physically hurts my teeth, I can't touch cardboard, velvet or cotton wool it goes through me so bad. It's good to know there are others out there and I'm not the only one o feel like a weirdo when I try to explain it to people.

Jun 15, 2018
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Microfiber cloth, me too
by: Anonymous

Yes, microfiber clothes catch on your nails/skin and I can't stand touching them also! I have a hard time folding them after washing. I just put my dishes on them to dry.

Jun 14, 2018
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Fabric troubles
by: Anonymous

I'm also glad I'm not alone. I do ok with lots of fabrics but sometimes I never know until I touch it. I can't touch velvet, I get goosebumps and feel chilly, it's awful. The worst is microfiber cloths. I bought a package for use on my car (hadn't really handled them before) and the first one I touched I dropped on the floor and had to grab something to pick it up with. I ended up throwing them away. Anyone else get goosebumps?

Jun 14, 2018
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Shoulda looked up earlier
by: Iggy

Just now I was doin the dishes and when I wanted to grab the tea towel I just couldn't dry them off. Horrible.

It's like a very intense cringe and that was when I decided to look this up.

Especially when my hands have been wet, this feeling gets to me. Rubbing my hands over jeans... I shudder at even the thought. I notice to be more sensitive to this when my hands are wet, at which point even seeing someone else rubbing their hands over jeans or another cloth fabric causes a feeling of horror and disgust to flow through me.

Is there any therapy to deal with this?

Jun 06, 2018
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Finally!
by: Anonymous

Why did I wait so long to look this up. So many relatable symptoms, I felt like I was alone. I would try to tell my folks and they just looked at me like I was the weird one. Lols. Would like to know how to manage this tactile response issue. It's driving me nuts!!!

May 23, 2018
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I can't believe I'm not the only one!
by: Ash

I've only just started exploring this whole sensory thing since my son was diagnosed with adhd and is very sensory...... So reading up about SPD and discovering I have so many of these symptoms..... When I have told anyone I get called a freak lol

I can't stand socks rubbing together socks on carpet... Tracksuit pants on certain materials.... I can't wear tracksuits to bed or socks..... Dirty hands on material! Yuck!

The easiest way to explain what I feel when/if that's gross things happen is... My teeth feel funny almost like they are soft...... I shower at least four times a day because I literally feel a layer of gross on my skin... I can't stand the sound of someone picking there nails I feel like punching them.... I can't stand being tickled in one spot it feels like there's A hole being burnt into my skin..... I can't stand when I drop the soap in the shower and it hits the tip of my toe nail...... I can't stand short jiggered nails and if they touch material grosssssss I can't eat ends of a banana or any bruise....

May 22, 2018
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@Jasmine re: iron tablets
by: Vikki

I'm very interested to know what other vitamins are in that iron tablet you mentioned.. and how have your issues been going since?

May 22, 2018
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Hand washing
by: Anonymous

I have so many issues with the way certain things feel, and sound! I wash my hands so many times a day I quit counting! I can’t handle the way my hands feel so often until I wash them, or in desperate situations just get them wet from the wrists down!

I remember as a child watching the clock in school until the bell would ring so I could wash! My hands get SO DRY, that they literally used to crack and bleed! I could sand furniture with the backs of my hands. I CANNOT stand how lotions or creams feel anywhere on my body, especially my hands! I put it on wash it off, put it on wash it off "ritual" I can’t stand cotton balls, qtips, cardboard, sound or feel! Straws being pulled up and down from soft drink lids! People crunching their ice!

Popsicle sticks, I have to wrap a piece of plastic around these, also sucker sticks the same! Rubbing paper through my fingers like turning a page in a book, can’t stand the sound when other people do it either! I feel like the chalkboard fingernail thing! I have to wear nail tips because I can’t stand the feel of my fingers touching anything if my fingernails are cut too low!

Velvet sucks, certain cleaning solutions, can’t stand anything sticky! I cannot tolerate my body feeling sweaty and sticky like humidity even! I have to shower several times a day when I feel any sweat! But I still haven’t found and lotion or creams that I don’t have to immediately wash off!

I HATE ALL HAND SANITIZERS! I describe my sensory issues like someone is blowing a referee whistle in my ear and won’t stop! Hand washing and showering are the only way to relieve the anxiety of this! I have been prescribed so many types of medications, and therapies, nothing has ever helped!

I’m now 56 years old and still haven’t accepted that this is my life so deal with it! Oh I have to have my clothes color coordinated and on hangers that match the color of the clothing too! I basically have so many hang ups it’s impossible to name them all!

It’s definitely somewhat genetic because, my Dad had some of these issues too, along with cousins and Aunts! I call it cold chills to everything! Yeah I’m a crazy lunatic!

May 20, 2018
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Water
by: Maddy

I have this weird quirk I guess you’d call it with water. It "grosses me out" so much when it touches me. I love to drink it but not for it to touch me. i had this instance yesterday where I washed my hands and almost immediately my fingernails got soft (like when you’ve been swimming for a while) and I physically cringed so much and started gagging and getting light headed. I feel crazy when I tell people that. I just hate when my hands get pruny, my fingernails get soft etc. from water.

Also the materials some of the comment were saying. I HATE T-shirt’s on chalkboard like material ( like you’d see in an old classroom) or against drywall. I could not have my back against a drywall wall without it having a glossy paint over top because the feeling of my shirt against it.

May 11, 2018
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@ Janice
by: Corals Beta

Janice my teeth too! It's so weird. I've been having liver and stomach issues so I wonder if that is why?

May 10, 2018
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This is what worked for me.
by: Jasmine

Okay so i have been dealing with this same thing for the past week, its been one of the most frustrating thing i have ever dealt with, went to see a neurologist, I literally broke down and cried when they didnt know how to help me.

i couldnt walk well, wear socks in my room, swipe well on my phone or touch certain clothes.. my teeth was sensitive but so was my hand and and legs and whole body, very bad sensation that made me feel like i was going crazy.

So apparently i am iron deficient, dont know if that was what caused all the issues but i started taking iron supplement. In particular ( sorbifer durulus) has some other vitamins in it as well.. and now the sensation has reduced.. fingers crossed it doesnt come back. I think you all should try it.

Apr 25, 2018
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Oh yeah, I forgot about dirt/dust.
by: Corals Beta

I can't stand dirt on my barefeet or hands. Especially if it's dusty. Don't even get me going on it under my toenails or fingernails, omg! I also am easily irritated by noises and certain smells, I can't stand the neighbors squeaky, high-pitched dogs constant barking, sometimes people whistling, yelling sends me on sensory overload, horn honking in the neighborhood, kids screaming and I'm sorry to say babies crying. :*( Loud noises really get to me.

Oh yeah, smacking your lips while eating or talking, crunching your food (tortilla chips at a Mexican restaurant, oh lord...I want to yell shut your mouth when you chew!). LOL, wow....I am really that bad?

Apr 25, 2018
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Me too, mostly chalk.
by: Anonymous

I can't stand toucing chalk, wood boards scraping on sidewaks/cement, also right now something about my nails is bothering me and my palms and feet like they feel chalky and it's bothering me and I have to scrape them on stiff fabric like denim or the bed spring mattress rough cover to try to get the smooth chalky feeling to go away.

I used a foot emery board to scrape my feet bottoms because they felt to smooth, I needed them to feel rougher? But if I even watch a show on tv where they are using chalk on a chalk board, I have to change the channel! WTheck?

Apr 24, 2018
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Wow
by: snapplecider

In all honesty, I'm completely freaked out right now reading this! This is the second time in the last few years that I've stumbled onto something and felt complete "omg this is other people too" shock.

Immediately my thought after reading this my thought was that science/medicine doesn't yet know this exists because all of us with this issue assumed we were crazy or high maintenance, or whatever. But thanks to the internet and it's anonymity, enough of us are speaking up and connecting with each other, so hopefully the right people take notice and look into it.

If anyone is familiar with misophonia, it was only given a name and acknowledged as a 'theory' in 2001, and science is just now proving it actually exists via brain scans in 2017.

My second thought, after thinking of how I found out my weird sound thing had a name a few years back, was Holy s*** I must definitely have a sensory processing disorder.

Apr 12, 2018
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forgot about cotton
by: Anonymous

Yes, cotton rolls in the mouth at the dentist drive me crazy! The dryness of it! Me too.

Apr 12, 2018
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I am not alone!
by: Emily

I have the same issue with dry hands and feet. It was really bad as a child.

I couldn't stand touching paper in school and certain things made me cringe.

I also can't handle cotton in my mouth when at the dentist. I was just wondering if anyone else experienced this.

Apr 04, 2018
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me too!!
by: Anonymous

i am exactly the same and have been looking for others for years lol! everyone thinks i’m joking, i can’t touch carpet and i have to sleep with my socks on, and certain fabrics and trousers and CURTAINS omg if someone rubs them it makes me want to scream and cry!

and it’s weird i have seen afew people on the internet with this over the years but never the same as me like you are, it’s much worse when my hands/feet are dry too when my hands are really dry i can’t even touch some towels but as soon as i moisturize them it’s fine?

but still wouldn’t be able to run my hand along the carpet i think it’s the friction that scares me, makes me feel sick talking about it i think it started for me as a child when people used to rub their hands on the carpet in school when we had to sit on the floor, i can still picture people doing it and i know it never caused an issue then.

but developed as i was a teenager and go much worse. so strange

Mar 21, 2018
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reply to is it a phobia
by: Anonymous

Hello, I am exactly the same way! I posted here a while ago. Each time I wake during the night, I must put lotion on my feet and hands, and pulling your sock off, that dry feeling until you get the lotion on, gives me the shivers! I don't have 'dry' skin, just better how it feels when you just put lotion on.

I don't think it's a phobia, just a texture issue. I feel the same.

Mar 20, 2018
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Sugar
by: Anonymous

I cant stand the feeling of sugar on my hands..it feels so weird and makes my hands feel funny and I almost have an anxiety attack. So when I have a cinnamon donut I have to eat it using the bag.

Anyone else have this weird feeling?

Mar 20, 2018
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Is it a phobia ?
by: Anonymous

I can not believe it isn’t only me. When I step out of the shower I HAVE to moisturise my hands and feet before touching any towel and I have to do the same before I get into bed.

Also, my feet cannot be dry whilst in socks or touching carpets. Is it a phobia?

Mar 18, 2018
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Me too!!
by: IcePenguin19

I have problems with touching towels or jeans...? I don't quite understand why but just the thought of it gives me the chills and makes me feel weird... I can't explain it... Especially when my hands are wet oh my god I cannot STAND the thought of my wet hands touching a pair of jeans. Gross.

I alsp just don't like my hands being wet which is problematic because I've got OCD and constantly feel the need to wash them. Then they get dry which I HATE.... Buuuuuut I also don't like the feeling of lotion on my hands.

I feel less alone after reading these comments.

Any tips?

Mar 14, 2018
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I feel like a weirdo
by: Amanda Southern

I will literally stand all day because the thought of other people's fabrics touching me literally grosses me out. It is to the point I need to shower and wash everything I have on and everything those clothes have come in contact. I must wash these clothes before I shower because I can't risk contaminating myself with said clothes after I shower.

I will start to feel itchy and develop a rash because I am scratching at whatever I think has rubbed off on me and the rash only solidifies that there was disgusting something on the fabrics.

Mar 13, 2018
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Deficiencies
by: Anonymous

I frequently complain of chalky/ dry feeling hands and feet. Not too serious. Mostly i can put up with it. Just frustrating i cant stop it.

I suggest to mention it to the dr and ask for full blood tests to be done.. you MAY have a vitamin deficiency.. mine thinks so. Currently waiting for results.

I blame the water. There are so many minerals in the water. No wonder so many of us have sensitivities these days. Everyone is different.

Make changes when and where you can.

Mar 06, 2018
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is this a phobia
by: Anonymous

i always quiver or having goosebumps whenever a slimy or cold object touches my skin.

when i put on my liquid foundation

when i put on facial mud mask

or even a thought of lathering honey in my skin makes me quiver

even when having may hair done with spraynets and other hairsprays that touches my shoulder or nape makes me feel sick

it’s a yucky feeling for me and all my body hair will stand up

am i abnormal? lol

Feb 14, 2018
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Can't stand short nails, dry skin, carpet, denim...
by: Anonymous

For as long as I can remember, I've had all kinds of sensory issues. The biggest one is the feeling of having dry skin. Like, not necessarily dehydrated, just simply dry. I'm constantly applying lotion to my hands and feet. I can't stand the feeling of walking on carpet with bare feet, and when I have to, I immediately have to put lotion on my feet to get rid of that terrible dry feeling. Soft, fuzzy rugs are my best friend, and it helps to arrange a few rugs around my living area so I can just step from rug to rug without touching the carpet.

I also can't stand the feeling of certain fabrics. I have to sleep with a queen-sized soft, fuzzy blanket folded over, so I'm in between the folds like a sleeping bag, so my skin doesn't touch the sheets on my bed. I hate the feeling of denim. I used to make myself wear jeans because it was more fashionable, and sweatpants make me feel like I look lazy. It's gotten to the point where I've stopped wearing jeans completely and I wear nothing but soft sweatpants everywhere, not caring how it looks, because before I was just so focused on how horrible the denim felt against my legs. I feel so free now, lol.

I haven't really seen anyone mention this yet, but I also can't stand the feeling of my nails being too short, seeing other people with short nails, or even hearing the sound of nail clippers. If my nail breaks and it's too short, and if anything touches that little bit of skin on my fingertip that is usually blocked by my nail, it's like the worst feeling in the world to me. I'll spend all week avoiding using that finger so I won't touch anything and feel that again.

Jan 17, 2018
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Same Here
by: Anonymous

I have the exact same issue! I've had it since I was little and I've always been fussy about cotton, like athletic socks, washcloths, a certain set of sheets (uuuugh!) and knitted material.

Not sure what my parents think about it (probably that it's a way to get out of laundry) but if I use lotion the sensation is more mild.

Cotton socks are the worst. I think it's because of the little nubby things on the inside: when those brush against my fingers or I watch someone else fold them it makes my fingers tingle, almost like very limited mirror-touch for a small subset of sensations. The socks are OKish on my feet, but I can't hold them very long.

Nice to know I'm not the only one!

Jan 09, 2018
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Anxiety
by: Cha Cha

I don't like wet stuff on my fingers!!! I don't like the feeling of someone's breath or saliva on my EAR! I don't like to feel saliva on my body at all.

I work at OG part time and I cringe the thought of touching someone's dirty dishes. I know I have to do it, to get the money but I ALWAYS wash my hands! Most servers just put the food on the dish washers table and go on with their lives. I have to wash my hands and it just dries my hands so much!

I am only 30 and I DON'T like bananas because it is mushy and I don't like how it feels on my tongue. I take meds for OCD and anxiety so I am sure that helps me a lot. I don't mind carpet but I don't like it because I think of the dust mites that can be in there but I try not to think about that so much.

Dec 15, 2017
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Me too!
by: Nikki

Walking with bare feet on a deck in the summer, folding laundry (especially towels) kills Me! I get this super tingling sensation in my hands/feet. I keep lotion by my bedside because I can't stand having my hands dry. Even dry hands rubbing on a sweater...ugh!

Also I don't know if this is related, but if someone whispers in my ear, all the way down my hip tingles? Weird, but who knows. Glad I'm not alone. Even thinking of these things gives me painful tingles in my hands and feet.

Nov 05, 2017
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Started today
by: Anonymous

For some reason all of a sudden today I couldn't touch anything that has fabric or walk on the carpet. It's a horrible cringey feeling! I have never had sensory issues. The only thing I don't like is when my hands are wrinkly right after a shower. I can't touch anything when that happens but it always goes away. This time my hands are wrinkly and it's not going away!

Also, my mouth feels very weird. It's like I have too much saliva. I couldn't fold my clothes because it felt so weird and I would get the chills. HELP! I am hoping when I wake up tomorrow it will be gone.

Has anyone ever randomly developed this problem?

Oct 26, 2017
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Me too
by: Anonymous

Me too! My mouth gets watery my lips get dry, i have to put on lotion. Like I can't ever stand the thought of showering without putting copious amounts of lotion on after.

Paper products and cotton seem to trigger it the most. Or when my clothes brush up against something. It's the worst. Also the thought of people chewing on their clothing sends me over the edge

Oct 20, 2017
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Me too
by: Denise

I cannot stand to touch dish towels, dry or wet, the same with washcloth's and bath towels. I much prefer handy wipes, facial wipes, Clorox wipes, etc.

It seems the older I get ( now 57) the worse it is. I also have issues with raw meat, oatmeal, syrup .

Oct 08, 2017
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Textures
by: Anonymous

I hate the way cotton balls are so weird to touch and I'm especially not a fan of pulling apart the cotton balls. It makes me feel very strange on the inside. I think that it's s the worst feeling because of how dry it is. I don't know why, but it's not my favorite.

Oct 04, 2017
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Yay, I'm not alone!
by: Anonymous

I have been like this since as long as I can remember. I just can't touch anything it seems like. It has even effected my eating, I can my eat certain things because of the texture of it, you could get a world famous chef to cook me a piece of chicken and I wouldn't like the texture.

It feels like my life just revolves around the fact that I can't touch things, anything that I want to wear I have to make sure that's I'm fine with the texture, I can't go to trampoline parks because the texture of trampolines bother me. People always joke about it and do it deliberately but they dont understand the physical pain it causes me, it literally makes me want to curl up into a ball.

Is there any cure for things like this? Is there any medication I can take? I'm so desperate I will do almost anything.

It feels so great to know that I'm not alone though!

Oct 04, 2017
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I get made fun of for this
by: Anonymous

I don't like certain fabrics, papers, trash bags, and magazines tear me up too. It's so bad sometimes I can't stand for anything to touch my hands or feet. I walk around with flip flops even in my own house.

I'm so glad to read everyone's comments. I thought I was alone.

Oct 04, 2017
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Dry hands & feet-cant breathe
by: Anonymous

I'm really glad to read some people have the same issue as me. Everyone always tells me its all in your head or something is wrong with you, you're weird, but my whole life i've have had to deal with this miserable issue.

Every night before bed i put lotion on and after every shower or bath i lather up with lotion. I literally feel like i cant breathe if my feet or hands are dry. I have always had to have lotion by my side and if i don't have it sometimes i have to even spit on my hands for desperation! Its almost like a panic attack until i get lotion on my hands and i cannot touch anything.

I wonder what this disorder could be called? Sometimes i want to just walk around all day with rubber socks and gloves filled with lotion ha!!!! Maybe that's why i love the water so much because then i don't have to deal with the problem.

Oh well hopefully there is a cure someday. Good luck everyone!

Sep 24, 2017
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Touch sensation
by: Anonymous

I've had this touch sensation for many years. I'm 57 years old and this is the first time I googled on this topic. What took me so long.

I get like this even when I scroll on my smart phone. It makes my nose stuffy and makes me gasp for air like there's something in my throat. The second I rub cream on my hands all the symptoms go away until the cream wears off. Same thing for my feet.

Has anyone ever been cured of this? A cure would be the best thing in the world for me

Sep 22, 2017
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I'm not alone!
by: TiffanyTX

Since I was a little girl, I've had this problem. I was never able to enjoy using construction paper because the way it felt on my hands and finger nails would send me into fits. I felt like I couldn't get it off. It makes my skin crawl, gives me goosebumps and makes my teeth hurt.

Felt, wool sweaters/coats, several upholstery fabrics as well as the scratchy carpet material they use on the walls of office cubicles. I can't stand cardboard boxes or the sound they makes when you fold them.

People always think it's funny to mess with me (even as an adult) when they realize it bothers me. They don't realize how excruciating and unnerving it really is. I've NEVER been able to get a diagnosis for it, so I've always just had to try to work around it. I don't understand it myself, so how do I make others understand.

Now nearing 40, I still don't have answers, but stumbling across this page lets me know that I am not alone.

Sep 10, 2017
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Same.
by: Anonymous

I get this with paper and certain fabrics.

I have had to put a different piece of paper between my hand and a handout in class so I could write because it grossed me out so much.

Velvet is an absolutely repulsive material for me. It doesn't matter what situation, I will always find velvet disgusting, and will take lengths to avoid it.

Aug 27, 2017
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I HATE ALL MATERIALS
by: Anonymous

as soon as any material rubs with another I get automatically sick!!! My saliva starts to go watery, my stomach cramps up and I get goosebumps all at the same time. I remember as a child it starting off with the feel of wooly jumpers doing this to me and the sound of material ripping in a fabric store as my nen used to sew alot and now it's much worse... I don't know who can help me? Who can I go see? It's starting to effect my life daily

Aug 19, 2017
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by: Anonymous

I absolutely 100 percent can't stand holographic material. It physically hurts me to touch it or if someone else touches it. The texture and the sound and even just the thought of it hurts me. I have no idea why. My family makes fun of me for it, but I've always been this way.

Aug 16, 2017
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Towels certain fabrics
by: Anonymous

The sound of someone folding towels makes me cringe, and my teeth hurt so bad I can't stand it. This is crazy so many people have this problem. Everytime I tell someone about it they act like I'm crazy or stupid.. it feels good to know there are people out there who understands what I go through 💯

Aug 14, 2017
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Is there a cure?!
by: Anonymous

I'm SO relieved I stumbled across this forum.

For a while it was just like cotton balls they put in your mouth at the dentist... but now it's gotten much worse.

I work at a bar and our bar has a wood finish and where the clear coat has come up and it's just exposed wood. When I wipe it down with a towel at night the feeling of the two makes me cringe. Also microfiber towels. Scrubbing stains out of carpet. Anything that doesn't go together smoothly is what gets me the most.

Is there anything that can help? Or am I just gonna keep discovering more awful things I have to deal with throughout the day? 😓

Aug 06, 2017
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I think I have this too! Creams, foams and Play Doh
by: Anonymous

I was watching that show Tanked with my boyfriend just now and they were making a rock and they had these things called skins that create the texture of the rock and it looked soooo gross. And I told my boyfriend that I don't like certain textures and he told me 'Yet again another weird quirk you have.'

Actually I had made up my own word 'texture sickness' for this and diagnosed myself lol. And my boyfriend was like that is not a term. So I got curious and I googled it and I found this and I am so happy that I am not alone!

I hate really can't stand certain creams or lotions that have certain smells. If it does not smell pleasant and purfumey to me I absolutely cannot touch it and want it as far away from me and feel extreme nausea just from looking at it and smelling it. I also fell nauseated when I touch foamy soaps, if they smell good its a little better but still don't like the feeling of foamy soaps, especially if it smells medicated. I feel extremely nauseated when I smell Play Doh!!

It smells soooo bad to me.. Don't even try to get me to touch it. I can't stand the thought of the smell and feel combined. I'm the same with Mayonnaise, cottage cheese etc.

I always want any material that touches my skin to be soft. When I shop for sheets, towels and clothes I want them to be as soft as possible. I especially don't like hard or flannel sheets.


Jul 07, 2017
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Being Wet
by: Anonymous

I have this issue where ever since I can remember, I absolutely hate getting my clothes wet. It's the strangest thing and I've never met anyone with the same issue. It could be just the littlest amount of water that will get on me and it will put me in an extremely bad mood and cause me to instantly become upset until I change clothes.

I can remember this one time when I was in the 6th grade and I was headed to the end of my driveway to wait for the bus and just one drop of water landed on my pants and I had to go back to my house and change and ended up missing the bus. I just thought it was me and never really paid much attention to it up until just recently.

I've been doing research and it's not the aqua-phobia because I love swimming, enjoy showers, and don't mind getting my face or hair wet. I read somewhere it may be OCD but I'm not 100% sure.

I'm not sure if this helps with anything but I'm an extremely picky eater, have sensitivity to light, sounds, and many other things due to me having migraines every single day since the age of 4. I've been to many doctors and specialist but none can find a cause from it.

I also have sleeping issues where I just fall asleep any and everywhere anytime of day. It's almost uncontrollable. I'm constantly eating but only certain things and I get very agitated, upset, irritated over the craziest things. I've had depression many of times.

As I've gotten older my water issue has gotten a little better and I've tried to ignore when I get wet to try and help the problem. As long as I can't feel it then I'm usually ok but as soon as it touches me I can't handle it.

May 28, 2017
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Fabric and such
by: Anonymous

I have so many quirks. I can't stand the feeling of cotton balls. If I touch them I feel nauseous. I also hate doing laundry because if the clothing is even just the smallest bit damp and I touch it I will scream.

I work in an office and deal with paperwork all day long and I have to get up and wash my hands all day because I can't stand the feeling of paper. I also can't rip paper because of the noise it makes.

Styrofoam is my #1 enemy. I can't even think about it. Cardboard is a close second. I can't stand when people make markers or pencils squeak. It feel like my ears are bleeding when I hear it.

I feel so crazy sometimes and I wonder what it is like to be normal and not have these issues.

May 07, 2017
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Wet sponge and scouring pad
by: Anonymous

I just had such a strong reaction to a sponge while washing my dishes, I had to stop using it because my teeth and finger nails were bothering me. That's never happened over sponges and I've been using the same kind for 20 years. I cringe over some wet fabrics and hate microfibre, but I've never been this bothered before, typing this is even irritating me. I have to throw the sponge away. So weird.

May 04, 2017
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This is a nightmare!
by: Anonymous

This is totally me! I cannot believe how many people have this issue! If is getting so bad for me that I can't even go through papers at work without putting the rubber covers on all my fingers. Lotion seem to help a little but sometimes it doesn't. I even got so bad one day that I couldn't touch the toilet paper! One day I just stood there in the bathtub crying so hard because just the thought of touching the towel to dry myself was making my fingers and hands hurt and shiver. Is there any hope?

Apr 28, 2017
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Don't forget hotel towels
by: Ben

Ditto!!! Unconditioned towels in hotels freak me right out, I can feel the towels sucking all the moisture out my fingers and God I can't stand it....(shivers) it really makes me loose my mind.

That as well as wolly jumpers and such forth. My niece and sister suffer with this too. Bizzare

Apr 14, 2017
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Me too!
by: Kim

As far bacK as I can remember I have problems touching a lot of fabrics. If I touch I actually have to scrape my fingers on a rough surface to get that feeling away. The odd thing is my sister's are the same. Baby blankets are the worst, I have to carry them with my arms, people laugh at me about it, but wow I never knew so many people have the same problem.

Apr 06, 2017
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Carpet
by: Anonymous

Thank god it's not just me!

I'm currently at my friends house and I've had to get out of bed because I didn't like the feel of my skin against the sheets. I had my pyjamas tucked into my socks, my jumper rolled up to rest my face on! I'm now sitting in her front room at 2:30am wishing I didn't have to go back to bed.

Also carpets are a huge issue for me, I wear shoes as often as possible. Even wearing socks on carpet can make me feel strange.

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Apr 04, 2017
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Problem
by: Anonymous

I have the same problem I just use lotion and keep my socks on

Mar 10, 2017
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I completely get it
by: Anonymous

I am sorry to say that it only gets worse over the years. Right now i have soft lotion infused tissues wrapped around those plastic tabs that sit on the bridge of you glasses. I cannot stand any tags inside my clothing and have very limited tolerance for many fabrics and bedding. I must slather on globs of hand lotion before opening a cardboard box... they are the worst! I buy lotion and lip balm in bulk.

I cannot stand to watch people eat Popsicles or lollipops because I just know they will get too close to the stick.

Don't even get me started on how much time I spend trying to find socks that won't drive me mad with discomfort. It has gone far beyond texture for me. I can no longer tolerate clothing that is tight in any way either. The minute I walk in the door, i have to change into soft and loose clothing and remove my makeup.

I cannot eat with cheap silverware, as it makes my teeth hurt. I live in the Northeast where a coat is required for a good part of the year, but i cannot tolerate the texture of wool, and nylon makes my thin hair get static, which also drives me crazy as another person mentioned.

I cannot stand other people rubbing things together either. My 70 year old mother has a habit of repeatedly rubbing her hand on her pant leg, even though I have told her numerous times how i cannot tolerate it. I want to stop my car and push her out the door whenever she does it.

Mar 08, 2017
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Me too!!!!
by: Anonymous

For as far back as I can remember I have had a huge issue with certain textures in both feeling and sound. Dry sand, chalk, chalkboard, staticky hair, silk and a huge variety of other fabrics.

When I feel these things or hear certain materials rubbed together I cringe and shudder inside, sometimes even watching somebody else touch certain textures or materials I can't even look.

One time my boyfriend was tickling me and wrestling me and my hair got staticky and I wanted to go wet it so badly that I started to panic - when he finally let me go I had to put Vaseline in it. I have found that wet or oily substances help me. I try to stick to cotton or flannel materials because its all I can stomach. I never realized that other people go through this too!

Mar 07, 2017
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by: Anonymous

mine has gotten progressively worse these past few months the sound of any type of fabric rubbing together or hands on a napkin or the upholstery on a car makes me cringe.it makes my teeth hurt and i feel like I'm going to be sick. i thought i was the only person going through this nobody understands they thinks funny or that I'm making it up. good to know its an actual thing!

Feb 21, 2017
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scratchy icky hands on fabric
by: Anonymous

I have a similar problem. My husband has extremely dry hands from his job and when he touches my shoulder-(especially with certain fabrics) and the scratchy hands make a icky scraping noise and sensation--It is like nails on a chalk board. He gets insulted when I ask him to stop. But--it is killing me when he does that. It seems weird --but I cant help it


Feb 17, 2017
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So glad I found this discussion
by: Anonymous

Oh my gosh I thought I was the only one! I too can not stand the feeling of carpet on my feet and I have to have very loose clothes and I agree the bra is the worst! They are way to tight and binding but I need some type of support as I am getting older and cannot stand the feeling either of my breast starting to lie against my skin.

I absolutely despise the take out drink holders they give you at fast food places and no matter what will figure out away to balance all the drinks some how then touch that nasty holder! It makes my skin crawl thinking about it.

I also have to wear my socks inside out because I can't handle feeling the seams. I too feel like I have hair constantly stuck in my shirt tickling me and am constantly trying to remove it and itch at it.

Can't stand the feeling of towels or paper towels either and I am starting to be sensitive to noises as well especially the ticking of a timer that my mom has been using and her scraping her silver ware on her plate when she eats.

What can be done? I'm going absolutely nuts!

Feb 15, 2017
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I know EXACTLY what you're talking about
by: Karlee

I'm currently searching the internet myself for this same exact issue I first noticed when I was a child. I'm now 24 and randomly decided I was curious to see if I'm the only one and I decided to search it. I never have before bc it kind of just became a normal part of life for me. To see if mine is as similar to your problem, I'll explain mine a little more.

So firstly, I can't care the thought or handle to see someone rubbing their hands or feet on carpet or any rougher material for that matter. This is the absolute worst for me after my hands get wet and become dry. I actually have to hold them tightly clenched until I'm able to put lotion on then to get that sweaty feeling your describing.

After they are wet and become dry, and before lotion, I absolutely cannot touch anything. It sends some sort of visceral response and I can't bare it. I also don't tell people about it much become the few times I have they completely don't understand and just think it's weird. My feet are the same as my hands just not quite as bad. If I get out of the shower and immediately put socks on, they're usually okay as long as my feet aren't rubbing on the ground with out socks.

Jan 22, 2017
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yes, me too
by: Anonymous

I read your post about sitting on dirty fabric. When i saw the dirty, ripped, lawn cushions at a friends, I didn't want to sit on it. I tried to pull my skirt lower so none of it touched my legs. Yes, I feel the same way.

Jan 22, 2017
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Is it just me?
by: Anonymous

Does anyone have the fear of coming in contact with dirty fabric. Like for example if I go over to someone's house and their couch has stains or the seats in their car are stained. Sitting down on stuff like this makes my skin absolutely crawl. Is it just me? When I tell people about it I usually get a polite laugh. My worst fear is being forced against my will to sit on a filthy deep stained couch with crumbs, garbage, trash, pretty much anything disgusting on it.

Jan 14, 2017
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Textured
by: Anonymous

Does anyone have the problem where you to touch a certain texture that bothers you so therefore you must touch something different to get rid of that feeling?

Jan 12, 2017
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Dry hands
by: Anonymous

I can usually not tolerate the feeling of velour or crushed velvet when the air is dry. I also gasp for air if my hands are dry, I heard from an older sister that my grandmother had the same reactions.

Jan 04, 2017
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Looking for answers
by: Anonymous

I thought I was the only one with a problem altho I see everyone having an issue with touching certain types of fabric.. my problem is not being able to touch certain types of silverware and they have to be a certain way for me to even touch them. My question is what is it? Is it ocd? Is it a sensory problem? What? It makes me feel so stupid because it's silverware and it's the dumbest thing ever and wish I could just get over it...

Jan 01, 2017
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Barefoot Blues!
by: Anonymous

I'm so glad I looked into this! I absolutely CAN NOT stand walking in anyone's house barefoot. I can't handle things getting on my feet! Anything! I'm 39 years old and hadnt noticed this being a problem until the last few years. I have to have on slippers when I am in the house...period! I keep a very clean house, but even when I freshly mop and vacuum, I still can't stand it!

Nov 28, 2016
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So glad I'm not alone
by: Anonymous

Oh my gosh. I am so glad to read these comments. I can't stand the feeling of clothes I have to have the loose and the worst is a bra as it is tight and binding. I can't stand the feeling of carpet on my bare feet have to have socks on, tried those hospital socks with the anti grip on them but the feeling of the rubber on them drives me nuts. Also I am going absolutely nuts over loose hair getting in my shirt and bra and touching my skin. And the absolute worst is I can't stand to touch cardboard and takeout drink holders they give you at fast food drive thru. It is just getting worse. What can be done.

Nov 16, 2016
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Towels, socks, and finger-nails
by: Anonymous

I can't touch certain towels and socks. If I do, I have to wet my hand, and I usually stick it into my mouth. The same goes for certain socks. The worst thing, is when my finger-nails rub against some fabrics especially, you guessed it, when it touches towels and socks. It feels like, ugg, I can't explain it. It's just death. Today, actually somthing else is killing me. The feeling of my socks against the inside of my shoes. So, yeah, those are my sensory "triggers".

Nov 14, 2016
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Paper
by: Anonymous

I think this is the reason I can't touch paper with the palm of my right hand. When I was in middle school other kids would sneak up to me and make me touch it to see what would happen and I just feel so repulsed by paper that I would cry or scream when it happened. This paper thing has been happening for as long as I could remember and I want to fix it.

Sep 27, 2016
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Feet touch
by: Anonymous

I think this maybe a little crazy,but I cant stand for my feet to touch each other while I'm sleeping, it started when I was a teen,then for years later it wasn't so bad as it is now as an adult, I put pillows to separate them but it doesn't work, wearing socks help a little but I'm still tossing and turning at night trying to avoid them touching.I even tried to diagnose myself as having restless leg syndrome, but I am not feeling pain or sensations,it's something psychological and keeping me up

Aug 24, 2016
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by: copper

I can't stand certain things, like the feel of a soft-bristled brush on my scalp or teeth, and I often (like right now in fact) have this sensation on my hands and the skin around my mouth like they're blanketed in fine dust and the skin's tight. I can't even touch my dreadlocks because the roughness of them makes me feel irritated and grossed out. Sometimes it makes me feel so angry that I choke and want to cry, actually.

I end up washing my hands constantly trying to get rid of that sensation, which often does not work.

Funny, I thought I was the only person I know, outside of autistic persons like my best friend, who had issues like this.


Aug 20, 2016
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by: Cindy C

I also have some sensory sensitivity just as far as people touching certain parts on my body....face, neck, etc i derive a ton of panic and anxiety from just a simple thing like that, or sudden noises, alarms, loud phones, dogs. Even my own child crying causes excessive anxiety or even more subtle but repetitive noises, like neighbors stereos or loud car stereos. Its horrible. Wish i had better ways to deal with it.

Aug 20, 2016
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I love that i found this site.
by: Cindy C

I can relate to some of the other people here! I feel like i have a bit of a.d.d, ocd and ptsd, as well as anxiety and social disorder, just for some background. Im also 39.

Anyways, i wash my hands alot and go through alot of lotion on my hands, and feet now too. Ive gotten into the habit of rinsing my feet in the tub a few times a day,at least.

I mean, i have a small child, so i need things to be or feel clean, but theres more to it than that.

I can relate to the previous poster saying they had to wash things after others touch you. Im curious with them, is that something you do eith everyone or just certain people?

Jun 29, 2016
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My obsessions with washing hands and feet
by: Anonymous

Am 39. Been a bit weird is what i felt all life. Never seen others this way so i find myself weird. I cant tolerate my hands n feet dirty. Nevertheless something or the other keeps sticking on to my feet n i have to wash my feet again n again. Am glad i dont have carpets around here. Can't tolerate them. I hate to touch socks. Seams of socks aaaahhhrrr.. as a kid found it very irritating at the very touch of petticoat seams.

I have to put my clothes for wash even i i have worn it just once. If someone touches me. I wash my hands or the touched part.. if its touched my bag. I put my bag for wash. Its hopeless living like this doing a lot of washing all day..
like am obsessed with water..

Can't even imagine i used to have 2 dogs n one of them used to cuddle in my rug.. oh yes he had a wash his feet n nose routine after his walks..he was a clean doggie.. i keep wonderig that i am wasting too much of water. Can i ever get over this.. many a times i feel if i go and walk over sand or mud i might get healed.. have tried it vouple of times. N guess i did feel better. The slimy feel underneath my feet did stop.. maybe got to do it too often..but not to forget i do want my legs throughly once home..

Is something wrong with me. What could be a possible solution to what am facing. Bcos i live with people who have complefely messy behaviours n cant even fight witht them.. want a solution..

Nov 18, 2015
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I have found my people!
by: Laura

I walk dogs for a living and I often get sweaty going in and out of houses especially when it is the heating season. I googled people who hate feeling wet, and I found this page. I absolugely despise feeling wet clothes. Tags on shirts, tight clothing, anything scratchy drives me insane! Of course if I am feeling any of these (and several hundred more), I totally fixate and obsess on it as if nothing else in the world matters until I can fix or remove it. I'm so glad I'm not alone. Anyone else suffer from migraines? I think it's somehow related.

Sep 23, 2015
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This is me
by: Abby

I cannot stand to touch carpet, I have to wear socks at all times and I cant stand the feel of bed sheets or Vera Bradley products. Anything with that type of material makes me cringe. I can't touch these things with any part of my body, especially my feet and hands. It's awful and I've been like this since I can remember and I'm only 17.

Jun 13, 2015
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sensitive skin
by: Marcia Richardson

I thought I was weird when I realize that carpets and certain kind of fabric bothers my feet. If I am watching tv and put my feet on the rug when I go to bed at night I have to put my feet up on a pillow because they hurt so much I can't let anything touches my feet. I have a set of couches made from fabric if I sit on them I have to spread a sheet before sitting down on them. I have to be very specific with the kind of clothes I wear, I can't sleep on any linen that is less than 600 thread, I can't use certain towels I really thought I was lone

Jun 03, 2015
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who knew?
by: Sparklenshineee

Wow. I'm 23 and this is all making sense. I remember as a kid having to buy special socks because the seam by the toe would drive me crazy. I can't sleep in my sheets because they get wrinkled and awkward and the feeling is awful. I just can't do it. I have to get certain types of pillow cases because they need to be silky feeling against my face. The more I think about it, the more things I find that fit in with this. I hadn't had a problem with the socks in year, but this morning I had a fit. It's 60 degrees outside and I'm wearing flip flops because after trying 4 pairs of socks, I just couldn't do it.

May 17, 2015
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Does anyone else feel
by: Anonymous

Like your shirt collar or necklesses make you feel like your being choked or that you can not stand wearing socks and shoes even when feet get cold I feel trapped I hate when my feet get wrapped in blanket like if I can't get my feet out I start worrying am I crazy the only shoes I wear are flipflops or crocs and I hate when my feet get dirty.

Apr 14, 2015
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Me too!
by: Anonymous

I have always had problems with fabrics, seams, carpets, and sounds. The sound that a washcloth makes when wiping a vinyl table cloth, the crinkling of candy wrappers, food noises and breathing noises of others. I feel so bad saying, "Do you have to make that noise when you breath?" It seems so petty but it drives me crazy. Lately I've been having sensitivity on my feet when walking on carpet and I have increased sensitivity on my finger tips. It seems to be getting worse, I thought maybe a medication might be causing it.

Mar 02, 2015
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This is pretty much describing me
by: Anonymous

I cannot stand the feeling of notebook paper on my hands, other paper such as construction paper isn't as bad because it doesn't feel as dry. I've always hated my feet and hands to feel chalky or dry and as a kid I had to use the chalk with the plastic holder if I were to use chalk, I even once hit my cousin for rubbing chalk powder on me when she knew how much it freaked me out. I also cannot Stand my toes touching the fronts of my shoes or touching anything really, and clipping my toe nails hurts and freaks me out beyond belief.

I always have to wear long sleeves when writing on paper to ensure that my hands won't touch it which gets quite hot and hard to breathe, loud noises and scraping noises get to me really badly. I absolutely loathe the existence of mechanical pencils and chalk boards and food textures and smells absolutely drive me nuts.

Nov 18, 2014
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always had issues
by: Anonymous

I'm a teacher of autistic children and every time I think about sensory difficulties they may face I just think of me!

I have so many tactile issues and always have! I started to put them all together but everyone just said I was only thinking because of my job.

I can't wear tight fitting clothes - huge phobia of tights\leggings, cant wear long sleeves, skinny jeans etc. Cant cut\file finger nails never have been able too. Feel really hot and claustrophobia in certain clothes, bedding etc. Cant regulate temperature. I actually physically feel these things hurt me.

Food textures are a problem. Hate splashing water. Can't be touched\kissed around my neck. I feel this is all tactile issues??? Could I be right?

Aug 02, 2014
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hate going barefoot in sandals
by: Anonymous

I'm so glad to read some of these posts. I've always hated bare feet in sandals, in people's homes, and my own home due to 2 cats and bits of litter that gets tracked, grosses me out!

If I must wear sandals (socks and shoes look so stupid with a skirt), first thing I do when getting home is wash feet, dry, and cream and socks.

I hate summer as I won't wear shorts, I hate sitting on certain fabrics, even in waiting rooms I will put magazines on the armrests so my skin won't touch it; a hard chair is fine, vinyl is fine, but woven fabric, looks dirty, itchy! I'd rather stand. If my cats paws touch my skin in wearing shorts in the house, I have to wash and wear long pants and hate it!

I have a leather sofa only so I can wipe it clean (cats) BUT, realized I can't sit on it, seams...gross me out, even if I clean it, the texture of a seam and in clothes drives me nuts, just looking at the sofa in shorts creeps me out, so I cover it with a blanket to sit on. I put lotion on hands and feet all the time. NOT OCD, just hate the dry feeling and did this when young.

I had my dad carry me out of the water and right on my towel, cream on feet. It limits where I go, what I do. I call it my 'ick' factor and it's getting worse.

Sep 30, 2012
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I'm always HOT
by: Ponch

I'm 62 and my issues are getting worse. I'm always HOT. I hate tags on clothing, hate getting my hands dirty and after washing them, have to put hand lotion on. Can't wear tight clothing. Disorder drives me nuts, although I am messy. My father hated new clothes. I have 3 nephews with this issue also and read that it is often inherited. It is getting worse and my doctor doesn't know of a cure or anything to lessen the severity of it, especially the heat issue. I took the test online and was about an 8 out of 10. Anyone done anything that works?

Aug 14, 2012
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screamin willies!
by: Anonymous

I have noticed that as I am getting older, my skin is getting more and more sensitive. It always feels like bugs are crawling on me, I can't tolerate being touched half the time, and even my husband touching me drives me up the wall. I have a more heightened sensitivity to noise, and cringe when alarms go off. I literally feel like I am coming unhinged. As far as materials are concerned, the softer, the better, food isn't an issue, but animal fur, and my own hair will irritate me. Don't even try to give me a massage, the feeling is unbearable. Even right now my skin is going nuts, and with the air blowing, it is not helping matters.

Jul 21, 2012
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Does my girlfriend suffer from Tactile Defensiveness
by: S.R.

This sounds similar to what my girlfriend experiences on a daily basis. First she can not stand the feel of certain fabrics, she can not use certain types of bedding. She can not stand socks and hates when her socks rub against other fabrics.

She has completely stopped wearing jeans and anything with a collar because she says she feels "trapped." She has to use lotion on her hands constantly because they always feel dry and she can not touch anything at all when they feel this way. She will wake up in the middle of the night to apply more lotion.

She also hates when things are disorganized. The blankets can not be touching her feet when she sleeps but she must wrap the rest of her body like a cocoon. When she does find something that she likes the feel of she must rub it constantly, she has a pillow that has been around for twenty some years that she has literally rubbed holes in.

I was wondering if she could be suffering for tactile defensiveness and what we could do to help ease the symptoms.

Mar 17, 2012
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by: Pinkgina74

I have not been diagnosed with tactile defensiveness but after reading this, I think this is describing me! I have always struggled with low-motivation and had trouble focusing in school. I am an adult now (38) but it seems to have gotten worse as I have gotten older.

I can't stand my hands to be dirty...I must wash them about 50 times a day but then have to put lotion on them afterwards...dry hands will drive me up the wall.

I don't EVER walk around barefoot, can't stand my feet getting dirty and when things stick to my feet-I feel like screaming.

I am super-sensitive to smells (I am an educator so you know that is interesting) and can barely tolerate my husband touching me or even getting close enough to breathe on me (that irks me too-I also don't like air blowing on my face).

I am so glad I am not alone! I am easily distracted by noises and get very agitated by them. For years, I have struggled with anxiety and depression, I am wondering if tactile defensiveness is why???

Thanks for posting this.

Nov 03, 2011
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Totally the same
by: Anonymous

S in the UK, I'm just like you. I HATE getting my hands wet, and the only thing worse than wet is dirty, slimy, sticky or worst of all, greasy. So as soon as they are dirty, I have to wash them. I can't stand dirty feet and wear socks all the time. I can't understand how anyone could walk around inside a house without socks on. What about all those little bits of dirt and crumbs?

I only wear loose fitting clothes nowadays. I used to have a job where I would occasionally have to dress up for client visits. I would have terrible, nearly incapcitating stomach pains every time. I thought the panty hose were too tight, so I kept getting bigger and bigger panty hose till they were so big they would be hanging down around my knees practically by the end of the day. And it didn't solve the problem. Now I feel like life is too short for pants that don't have spandex in them. :)

I have three kids, so I totally get the mom who is struggling with the messes. I really try not to flip out when I see a mess, knowing I'll have to get messy and then wet cleaning it up. But by the end of the day, I'm more strung out than the average parent, I'm convinced. All the sudden loud noises that you can't control, the messes, the touching that is all wrong, like when they come up behind you and surprise you buy touching you. I'm just hoping for answers, but I suspect it is "learn to cope by getting time away" or something. If I can lay in bed with the heavy covers over me for even 15 minutes, it helps.

Do any of you keep yourselves thin because you can't stand to have a roll of skin touching yourself? I never knew any of this was tactile defensiveness until I had two kids with pretty difficult clothing issues. My daughter currently will refuse to get dressed and will wear only underwear (thank goodness I found some that will work). If she consents to clothes, it's only a short sleeve-shorts combo that won't work this winter. Not sure what will happen with that when it gets colder!

Oct 20, 2011
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wow..
by: Anonymous

I'm 24 years old and never actually thought that maybe I have this disorder.. When I was a little girl I can remember every Sunday fighting with my mom and dad about having to wear socks with my Sunday dress shoes because of the seam in the sock.. I HATE SEAMS.. I couldn't stand to be dirty.. still can't of course.. if I spill something or if my kids spill something on me.. I have to change my clothes..

Also.. I can't stand to eat Hot Dogs unless they are burnt.. the texture kills me.. I can't push a cart at walmart because it vibrates my arms and its pure torture..

I HATE for ppl to try to make eye contact with me.. it freaks me out and I have to leave the room.. If I get anything like ketchup, mustard.. ANYTHING.. I have to wash my hands immediately.. this is very difficult to deal with.. I have 2 small kids that make horrible messes daily lol.. and to me it really is like a million spiders you can't get off of you or nails on a chalk board.. which just thinking about kills me.. lol...

Nice to know I'm not alone.. :)

Oct 05, 2011
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by: Anonymous

OMG! im so happy ive found a possible answer. ok so. im 14 years old and ive always thought i had ocd. but recently i heard about this. my problem is lotioning my hands. i feel like theyre dry and if i dont lotion them ill die. i literally CANT touch ANYTHTING when my hands feel like this. ill curl my hands up in a ball until i get lotion. alos, touching clothes, especially jeans or socks bother me. its like it hurts my teeth or something. oh i also have this problem with my feet and sometimes my lips. but its not as severe. when the dry hands are the worst is usually in the morning and after i wash my hands. ive even avoided washing my hands at school after i go to the bathroom. (i know its gross but i cant focus if i dont have lotion) please please please reply if you have any tips!!!!!!! PLEASE. MY EMAIL IS boballace3@yahoo.com. thanks. :)

Oct 05, 2011
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handsy
by: Anonymous

OMG! im so happy ive found a possible answer. ok so. im 14 years old and ive always thought i had ocd. but recently i heard about this. my problem is lotioning my hands. i feel like they're dry and if i dont lotion them ill die. i literally CANT touch ANYTHING when my hands feel like this. ill curl my hands up in a ball until i get lotion.

also, touching clothes, especially jeans or socks bother me. its like it hurts my teeth or something. oh i also have this problem with my feet and sometimes my lips. but its not as severe. when the dry hands are the worst is usually in the morning and after i wash my hands. ive even avoided washing my hands at school after i go to the bathroom. (i know its gross but i cant focus if i dont have lotion) please please please reply if you have any tips!!!!!!! PLEASE. MY EMAIL IS boballace3@yahoo.com. thanks. :)

Mar 02, 2010
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I'm not alone!
by: Anonymous

For years I haven't been able to touch a newspaper, catalog pages or pottery. It feels worse than hearing nails on a chalkboard - doing so causes me to literally want to crawl out of my body. My 10-year-old daughter expressed to my one day in secret that she couldn't help her brother deliver newspapers because she couldn't stand to touch them.

Today at work I had to do coverage in the ceramics shop and confided in the staff that I couldn't bare to touch the pottery. She told me about tactile defensiveness. I would very much like to learn more about this. It is good to know, finally, that there is a name for it and that my daughter and I aren't the only one's who have this!

Mar 22, 2009
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sensitivity to air on my body
by: Anonymous

I have a problem when I blow air on my body, specifically my arms, hands , and especially as I am a guy who in the summer has his shirt off, my right NIPPLE is very sensitive to having it touched with air, when I am outside and wind hits it, it really doesn't bother me at all, but when I am inside and blow on it, it drives me absolutely crazy!! I can't lean back in a lounge chair because of the air hitting right on my nipple, it is very horrible, I can't sit sleeveless much at all, I wish I had known of SPD before I was 28 yrs old!!

Feb 18, 2009
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Carpet feet
by: Anonymous

My daughter has always had a repulsion to her feet on the carpet too.... so you don't sound weird at all..... she also doesn't like certain food textures - like marshmallows! and others.

She is now 27 and even though I do not consider her having SPD, certain things have bothered her through the years - and she was always tender-headed to a hair brush and wouldn't let me brush her hair when little... tags in her clothes, etc. bother her...... I wish I'd have know about SPD 25 years ago, b/c I may have checked into it for her. Sue (IL)

Jul 10, 2018
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I’m glad I’m not crazy!
by: Anonymous

I’m not sure if this is the same thing but whenever I touch the bottom of porcelain plates, mugs, etc. I get chills. It’s the weirdest thing. I also hate touching blankets or cloth when my hands or feet are dry. Scratching glass cups or bowls makes my teeth hurt and I sometimes even get the chills. I’m not sure if it’s the same thing but whenever I try to explain it to people they never understand.

Jul 08, 2014
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Maybe not my problem after all.
by: H-jAnder

After reading some information on this disorder, I thought maybe it was my problem. I was brought up by parents who could not bear noise (strange since I was the youngest of 10 kids), but we were all made to consider others & not make anymore noise than was absolute necessary for any particular thing. I have always HATED loud thumping & banging music, especially over the years with the latest stereos which make it even worse & then there are the despicably selfish people who seem to think that everybody HAS to hear their music.

I have also for the past more than 11 & half years, been subjected to harassment, intimidation & vindictiveness from a household in the street where I have lived for almost 18 years. Right from when the older kids were young, to now, with the younger 2 boys, running amuck & yelling & screaming & deliberately trying to get the ball onto my property as they still think that is an excuse to trespass & get the ball back. These kids have NEVER been taught to be quiet & respect other people, or our properties. They have had so many parties over the years where the music is SO LOUD that they can be heard blocks away. They have also had the music in whatever vehicles they have & still own, thumping & banging loud, especially the 21 year old, can be heard when he enters the road out from this one & all the way along it, because of the huge speaker he has taking up the whole back of the 4WD.

The people next door who have lived there for over 2 years, for most of that time played their music LOUD, in the family room with the sliding door open, at the side of the house, so that it came into my side windows (2 big loungeroom windows, big bedroom window & bathroom window not much smaller) & on top of that, have always left their dog outside to bark & bark & bark, for most of the day & night. So, after reading info on this subject on other sites, I don't know that I have this problem, I just think it is to do with our very selfish & arrogant society we live in these days & that I am subjected to the noise that people think they are allowed to make with no thought for other people's peace, comfort & privacy. Well maybe I have a little bit of this problem, but nowhere near as bad as other people.

Jan 13, 2011
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So glad l'm not alone!
by: S in the U.K

Hi, and thanks to all of you posting your stories, it seems the U.S is ahead of the U.K with SPD and Tactile defensiveness.

I was initially looking into these issues for my son and realised that l had a majority of them myself. I can't stand to touch carpet it is worse to me than nails on a chalk board, l get goose bumps and just tense up crindging from it.

Many materials do this to me, l'm very picky about my bath towels as the sensation seems to be heightened after a shower. l can't stand baths either. I hate dressing up and always feel scruffy because l have to dress comfortably, anything tight or restrictive in any way just drives me to distraction.

My doctor has dismissed my suggestion of another condition and just thinks l'm depressed but l think something has caused it. I am always hot and irritable and jump if someone coughs or makes a louder than comfortable noise. So many things even back in childhood(I'm 33 now)l hated being tickled (still do). I used to faint if l got hurt as a child but l craved a thrill like riding my bike fast down hill.

I have always felt different and had relationship problems. I am at a loss what to do really, everyone says you grow out of these things, l haven't & am frustrated. S.

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