i have been trying to figure out how to help my 3 yr old son for quite some time now. his biggest issues are getting dressed. he won't wear certain clothes but it's not always consistent. for ex:he wants to wear jeans all the time or he wants to wear sweatpants "comfy pants" all the time. it's rare to mix it up. when it comes to what he wears to bed though he doesn't mind putting on pajamas and taking the jeans off.
also, when he has his shoes on (which he doesn't like to take off and at one point wouldn't but we've gotten through that to the point where he usually doesn't wear shoes in the house) he gets major anxiety and says "something isn't right fix it!" he wants his pants pulled down as far as possibly over his shoes a certain way. and when he sits and notices they slide up it bothers him like crazy.
he doesn't like things tight around his neck like a pull over hoodie or a dress up cape strap. when we are getting ready to leave the house, even if it is somewhere he wants to go, he gets major anxiety because of the getting dressed part. he would wear the same shirt every day if he could but that's not practical. i don't think it;s him just being stubborn though i feel like it's because he likes the way it feels on him. i really feel like he has a sensory processing problem of some sort because it's like a switch is flipped and his anxiety goes through the roof and he can't handle it.
i find myself getting very frustrated because he just goes into what some would see as a "tantrum mode" kicking and screaming and crying but i remind myself that i don;t think he can help some of it. what can i do to help him cope with these issues that doesn;t result in him wearing the same clothes all the time or being uncomfortable?