What to tell school: Auditory defensive
My 5 year displayed some pretty intense symptoms with regard to the auditory defensiveness earlier in life and it made life pretty difficult for him and for me to, mostly because for a while I just could not understand why he was miserable and screaming and crying and retreating all the time.
Once I identified the problem as did someone at the pediatrician's office, I just adapted life to fit his ways. I never got him formally evaluated because just the thought of taking him into an office building/hospital, seemed like unnecessary torture for him. There were times when the people at the pediatrician would actually come outside to the courtyard to take my son's temp. and listen to his breathing and only make him come in at the last second, it was that bad. (the lights were also an issue, but much less). Nobody wanted to hear the screaming.
Anyhow, his symptoms were reduced in time. He still had a hard time at preschool/daycare, but some of that was because they were narrow minded and would not do what I suggested and what a psychologist who came to observe also suggested. Their solution was to stick him in time out all the time. I had given them many ideas that would prevent problems and were not difficult. Things that would be great for all young kids. But people get stuck in their ways. He still hears noises that just about nobody else can hear. He gets so annoyed by sounds around us all that most of us are not even registering. The sounds of flushing toilets are scary. Public toilets, freak him out. He often covers his ears. Some common sounds make his body stiffen in shock. He has a rough time at birthday parties and will isolate himself away from the crowd of fun. He just started kindergarten. I am worried.
I have not told the school about this issue. I don't want him stigmatized. I want him to have a chance to just be perfectly normal. Of course, luck would have it that right before school started a major construction project started about 300 feet from his school, right by where his class is. I know the noise is going to be an ongoing issue.
Most people worry about what if their child cannot hear well enough, but here I am with a child who hears too too well. I wonder what the point would be of telling his school.