3 year old hypersensitive to touch
Hi, since my son was a baby he always had some hypersensitive to get messy with food, paint, clay or any kind of sticky stuff. He never avoid people holding him, he is very social and as soon as he see kids playing around he will be there with no problem at all, no problem with people touching him, sometimes he will wipe off kisses but not all the time. Also, he is sensitive to loud sounds, he would hear an ambulance, a motorcycle or a police siren inside the house with many other noises going on, he speaks very well and had no pronunciation problem, my sister is a Speech Language Pathologist but we haven't seen her since he was 1 1/2 years old, she said that I was the problem because I never let him play with food or with pudding, jello, etc when he was an infant.
Now, I'm trying to get him to get messy but is really hard, I bought an easel and tried very many times to play with him but as soon as he gets a little bit of paint on him he'll run for a wipe to clean up.
Please help me, I need to help him, even though when he eats a PB&Jelly sandwich and her fingers get a little sticky he'll be with his hands up and open complaining big time, "Mom clean my hands please", I always say "finish, and when you are done you can wash your hands and you'll be clean again" but he insists until he gets a wipe and wipe his hands off, after that he would ask me to give
him the sandwich in his mouth so he would not touch it. He'll feel a little broken nail ans ask me to cut it, he is OK with me cutting his nails no problem at all, No sensitivity to clothing or socks, jackets, long pants, etc. A little sensitive to lotion or sunblock, he doesn't like it but he gets it without crying, he just feels uncomfortable with it, he can't "relax" when I'm putting it.
We sometimes play with shaving foam in the bath tub, he'll get it on his hands but right away he puts his hands on the water to clean them, he did OK this summer at the beach we were there 3 times and he was playing but not a lot with the sand, he would be with his hands in an upright position "not being relaxed", I hope you can understand me.
Please I don't want my son to be "delicate" please I need some help, maybe it was all my fault and I feel really bad for it. He will start preschool for the first time by the end of this month, I'm hoping that it will help him, he is very very social and in the need of other kids, I'm a stay at home mom and I don't have many friends here, my husband and I moved from Peru 9 years ago and worked very hard until my son was born and I decided to stay at home with him. I know I'm a very protective mom, I hope you can give me some advice on how to handle this so we can help him.
Thank you very much.