Im Freaking out, losing my temper and can't cope with the worry

Ok so my 2.5 dd will not play alone at all but will play with other children, she gives eye contact but only when spoken to when she speaks to me she will not give eye contact, I'm at my wits end as all day every day I have to entertain her or she will just walk around doing nothing, she loves tv and watching the iPad and games, she does share with us at home and friends she knows, she does not do anything for more then a few minutes if that such as draw with pens unless we do it together she won't sit still at the table for meals and keeps getting up and having to be coaxed into eating and sitting still I'm getting angry loosing patience and smacking shouting, she seems very bright and independent and wants to help or be involved in everything! I'm so worried and feel so low having all of this I don't know what to do!!!

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May 28, 2013
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Day by Day!!!
by: Anonymous

I have 3 girls 14 12 and 9. My 9 year old was failure to thrive as a baby. When ahe was 2yrs old she weighed 20 lbs. This was the least of my problems. Her behaivor was out of control. Ive been told by many people that i spoiled her. This is why she doesnt listen. I was raising her the same as my other 2, they listened. They sat at the table until they are done eating. They dont have tempertantrums because I asked them to pick up their socks. What was I doing wrong? I WAS raising her the same as the other 2 who DO NOT have sensory issues!! Everyone picks their cloths out at night before bed, the difference is for my 9 year old those cloths look good and feel good the night before but not in the morning! She pulls at them, they dont fit right. They are not tight enough or they dont match or this sock doesnt go on right. I was at my wits end. Im happy and sad I found this website. Happy there is an answer out there, Sad that so many kids are going thru this. So I say to you.Start by taking day by day if that doesnt work then start hour by hour. My daughter is more frustrated with herself, because she doesnt understand why she is "DIFFERENT", that I have to take deep breaths (a lot of them)to help both of us get thru each and every problem. Some times we yell sometimes we cry and sometimes we laugh. But after each time we learned that we can get thru this together without crushing her self-esteem. Good Luck!!!

Jun 04, 2012
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learning to play by herself
by: Janice

I think this might be an issue with SPD kids...they want either constant attention, from their mom anyway (my situation), or they don't want to hear what you have to say or want to be touched - goes back and forth. Also my son has hyperfocus when it comes to TV, video or computer games, but them I find he is so wound up he can't function going places or going through a transition, like getting ready for another activity. If I have to get something done I am trying to have him play with his clay...he loves molding it and I think that might work for your daughter. Crayola makes a dry-over-night clay - he likes it better than play dough. The thing about TV and computer games is that it makes him more active...so afterward we offset it by jumping on a mini trampoline (they have them for your daughter's age with a bar) - she also might like kids yoga on a DVD - anything that will get her large muscle moving...this may help her stop needing your constant attention - attention seeking is big with SPD. She will become an amazing calm child someday, and be exceptional at whatever she pursues...she just needs some support...but you need the support to, and time away from her to recharge.
Good luck...your the best. Janice

Jun 03, 2012
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RE:Freaking out
by: Lyn

Hello. I am a mother from the Philippines. I know and how it feels to be helpless. My son is turning two and has autism.Very difficult coping with behavior issues. Hang in there. Good luck. Hope we all get through this. A mother has so much to do.
Our kids are lucky to have us.

Jun 03, 2012
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Hang in there
by: Anonymous

I have a daughter who is 4 years old and she seems very much like yours. I would strongly urge you to practice as much love and patience as you can with your girl. It can be tough at times, but you're the adult and her guide. What actions you take will show her what is acceptable behaviour (hitting and yelling as opposed to patience and loving support). If you are really concerned about her behaviour, bring her to your family doctor and talk about your options. Don't ignore the issues and think it will go away. Do something NOW and get some support for yourself as well. Being a parent isn't easy at the best of times, but if you have a more "unique" kid, its a lot more work.

Take care. Good luck. Keep your chin up.

:)

Jun 03, 2012
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wits end
by: jane

all i can say is i hear you!! my son is 6.5 and i have been experiencing this same thing since always. he will not play alone - CAN NOT self initiate play. It is so hard! Your daughter is still young and might grow out of it? I guess you can try a play therapist? we never did and that might have been a mistake.

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