My 4 year old son was just diagnosed with SPD
by Melissa Copestake
For the past three years I have had a very hard time understanding why my son does some of the things that he does. The daycare he attends has been wanting me to get help for him for the past few years.
As a mother, I had a very hard time accepting the fact that maybe something was wrong and was just in denial. I regret that, because i wish i could have gotten him help sooner. I feel like we just keep getting pushed to the next person and that is even more frustrating.
My son is very intelligent and started speaking very well at a young age. My son is very hyper, aggressive and angry for no reason. He is touchy, constantly touching everything and everyone.
Everything I try to do for him is extremely hard whether it is making sure he eats, bathing him, brushing his teeth and especially bed time. He gets frustrated very easily and acts out in anyway he can.
I don't think he realizes how strong he is but at least once a day he is in the office at the daycare for getting physical with another child. He doesn't sit still for long and prefers rough play almost all the time. He even tends to try to hurt himself whether it is throwing himself into someone or smacking himself in the face. In the past month, he started putting everything in his mouth, eats his shirt and tends to lick everything that he can.
I think he understands something is not right. He tells me his brain is stupid and says sometimes that he can not control himself. He sometimes get depressed for no reason and will begin crying out of nowhere and sometimes he will begin to laugh for no apparent reason.
He tends to be very loud and will scream or shout out things at inappropriate
times for no apparent reason.
He is a very loving child and enjoys playing with other kids but sometimes, well most of the time kids have a hard time being around him because of the way he acts and they can not understand that.
He now hates to go to school and begs me everyday not to send him. He thinks about it all the time by asking me over and over again "Do I have school tomorrow?" to the point where it makes him very anxious. I have been with this center for over 11 years with my older son and I know his teachers and they care a lot about my child. He just doesn't want to be there anymore.
His teachers tell me even though he is very intelligent, he will have a hard time because he will not sit still for story time or learning time and he is constantly getting into things.
I just want to get help for my son but unfortunately is seems like everywhere I go I am getting sent somewhere else. I took him to ELWYN for an evaluation where he was diagnosed with SPD they sent me to SPIN (Special People in the Northeast) where they send an occupational therapist to the daycare for 40 mins once a week. My son needs more than this.
Tomorrow night I have a appt. with a therapist at the Growth Opportunity Center but this has been ongoing for the past year and i don't seem to be getting anywhere.
My biggest fear is next year he will go to kindergarten and will be "labeled" by both teachers and peers and I only want the best for my son. If i can get him help now, maybe the struggle won't be so bad.
If anyone has any information that can help me - my e-mail address is firstname.lastname@example.org.
Thanks so much.