Not sure if my 4 yr old daughter has this?

by Heather
(Alba, Tx United States)

My daughter is 4 yrs old and she has some of these symptoms. I'm not sure if i should really bring this up with her doctor or not though. She has major tantrum outburst, she refuses to look at us when she's getting in trouble for something or when we ask her to tell us an honest answer, she has this noise she makes (like a grunting sound like she has something hung in her throat), she'll just be sitting there and all the sudden just do it and either stop herself or keep doing it like she can't stop herself. She can not stand her top mattress to stay on her bottom one nor can she stand to have any pillows or blankets left on the bed or our futone bed/couch. She takes away toys, sippy cup or anything her little brother has or gets.

When she does get mad at her father and I she pinches herself to avoid us or grinds her teeth and looks away rolling her eyes at us. The attention has to be on her, she can't stand for her little brother to be getting played with and not her or her new baby sister to be getting held when she needs something.

She will not go potty by herself and flat out refuses to poop in the potty, and at bed time just does not get up to go potty so she peepees in her panties all night but sometimes refuses to change when she wakes up. She's pretty picky about who touches her to. There's a lot of things in her behavior that I can not figure out what to do or how to handle it. I need help with this, any suggestions please?