Not sure if my 4 yr old daughter has this?

by Heather
(Alba, Tx United States)

My daughter is 4 yrs old and she has some of these symptoms. I'm not sure if i should really bring this up with her doctor or not though. She has major tantrum outburst, she refuses to look at us when she's getting in trouble for something or when we ask her to tell us an honest answer, she has this noise she makes (like a grunting sound like she has something hung in her throat), she'll just be sitting there and all the sudden just do it and either stop herself or keep doing it like she can't stop herself. She can not stand her top mattress to stay on her bottom one nor can she stand to have any pillows or blankets left on the bed or our futone bed/couch. She takes away toys, sippy cup or anything her little brother has or gets.


When she does get mad at her father and I she pinches herself to avoid us or grinds her teeth and looks away rolling her eyes at us. The attention has to be on her, she can't stand for her little brother to be getting played with and not her or her new baby sister to be getting held when she needs something.

She will not go potty by herself and flat out refuses to poop in the potty, and at bed time just does not get up to go potty so she peepees in her panties all night but sometimes refuses to change when she wakes up. She's pretty picky about who touches her to. There's a lot of things in her behavior that I can not figure out what to do or how to handle it. I need help with this, any suggestions please?

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Mar 15, 2011
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Thank you
by: Anonymous

Thank for the helpful advice. I do try to show her as much attention as she needs but there's always room for more I believe. So i'll do just that, give her lots of love and the attention she needs plus more. I will call her doctor to and see if I can't get her in so I can discuss this with him. Once again thank you for the advice.

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tanks
by: Anonymous

Mr Steve Faherty many thanks for your presence on this site for advice. Because we feel supported. Many times the developmental disorders are confused with psychological problems, causing delays in diagnosis. greetings

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by: Steve Faherty

bring it up with your doctor and get a referral for an Applied Behavioral Analyst to work with you and her in your home.

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by: Anonymous

Your little girl may or may not have SPD. I would like to address the rest of the issues. From what you say it is very clear to me, this little girl is having severe sibling rivalry. The only cure I know would be to show her how important she is, how much she is loved. The old adage "Children Need Love Especially When They Don't Deserve It" comes to mind.

This little girl needs a lot of love and affection. You must discuss with her and find out WHY she does not go potty? what are her fears, does she feel icky. Pee pee in the bed shows she MAY BE afraid of one parent or a teacher.

You can put the little girl in the right path with love and attention and time given to her. Everybody understands that having a younger child takes up your time and attention but the older child is still a child and needs her cuddles and mummy time. Try this - I know it'll work wonders.

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