Sensitivity to whistling

by April
(rural Nebraska)

While in counseling for our middle son's (13 years old) anger problems, his sensitivity to whistling keeps coming up. He goes to instant angry when one of his brothers whistles. I am bothered that our middle just can't ignore it. Our youngest (11 years old) enjoys whistling. Our therapist suggested that it just might be SPD. The middle ALWAYS reacts. The therapist suggested that if he were faking being bothered, he would forget sometimes to react....so maybe he truly is bothered by whistling. I would love to hear your thoughts about this.

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Nov 30, 2016
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Am I the only one? Might be a male issue
by: Anonymous

Whistling has driven my nuts since I was young..both my Dad and brother did it all the time but they also teased me on a regular basis, in general. So I wonder if I made an association with hating the sound because it came from them..the feeling of torment.

HOWEVER, there are other sounds that bother me..there are many women who have a certain high pitch in their voice that drives me nuts. Like some sharps sounds when they talk.. There are women I would love to have dated, great qualities, awesome people, but the voice...can't do it. And of course, these women seem to talk non-stop! They are at my office, on the bus, on the plane, even doing those commercials on tv, radio..super sharp, irritating voice. It almost sounds fake.

Whispering sounds also annoy me.

Nov 19, 2016
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love it
by: scott

i whistle also and enjoy it. i here someone else whistle and then seconds later i start to whistle. christmas.....i cant stop whistleing the christmas songs.. my son and wife get mad at me and tell me "stop". that realy pissed me off. they cant whistle at all..my little girl doesnt tell me to stop...she try's to whistle. i think most of all those who get mad (in family) are folks that cant whistle. i can whistle high & low. if i whistled realy soft so it wont hurt your ear.....100% they will say "stop"!
if you can whistle...great job to you but keep in mind where your at. at home whistleing...let it rock!! i even do sound with my voice for metallica beats.

Nov 17, 2016
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Power
by: Anonymous

The whole "get over it" really bugs me. It's not just a noise issue, it can turn into a power game. The mother with two sons- one who whistles non stop and one who has been taken to therapy and doesn't believe her son is sensitive to whistling? I know which position I would prefer to be in. Theres no talk of compromise in the house, and the son knows how to trigger his brother and knows he will get away with it.


Nov 16, 2016
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To sum it up
by: Buyayeng

Whistlers,
People who don't care about others, the same way someone plays loud music or has a noisy vehicle.
Yes, we understand that you need it to keep you from getting bored,overloaded with your work. That is why you need to get headphones instead of everyone else having to get headphones because of you. It's like farting. You don't ask everyone else to get over it and bring a mask. No, you excuse yourself and go to the restroom and do it there.
"GET OVER IT"
How would you feel if someone brought a radio to work and played "Name a genre you don't like"
And if you don't like it. cover your ears?

Perhaps someone can smoke inside the office and you also should get over it?

Outside my room there's a construction worker *painter,. wearing headphones and whistling to his music.. How fair is that? He doesn't even hear his own whistling.


But we know that no matter what other people say, you folks will keep whistling because that's the kind of person you are. Inconsiderate, annoying, selfish.

Nov 15, 2016
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by: Anonymous

I think I have the opposite problem. kind of obsessed with whistling and I cant help it. anyone know what to do on that?

Nov 15, 2016
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Feel sick when someone whistles
by: albo2002

It's an incredibly anti social thing to do.. why would you want anyone else to hear your stupid, unpleasant noise? I certainly have a problem with it cos now everytime I hear whistling I feel nauseous, sometimes enraged too.. I hate violence but I have v little sympathy for someone getting hit if they've been whistling.. they should treat it as a lesson to think about other people

Nov 04, 2016
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annoying whistling neighbor
by: Anonymous

I am in a condo high rise..thin walls and all. My neighbor whistles high pitched and loud for hours at a time. Sometimes at 1:00 or 2:00 am and you can hear it throughout the entire floor. I think he is crazy. I think it is obvious that he is trying to annoy everyone. Should I put a note under his door or what? I hate this guy now.

Oct 08, 2016
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Duh
by: Anonymous

As someone who suffers with this disorder, it annoys me to no end when I hear someone say "doy, maybe they aren't faking it." Why would we fake something as stupid as hating a specific sound? And why would you allow your other kid to go around whistling? Literally everyone I know, who doesn't have the disorder, still think it's annoying and rude when other dimwits walk around whistling, like they think everyone has the same taste in music? In short, don't be an inconsiderate idiot.

Sep 22, 2016
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I dont even know where to begin
by: Sol

I came upon this site and boy do i have stuff to say. On the one hand, im glad im not alone on this, on the other, im only growing angrier at people who whistle.

I myself was a whistler as a kid but as i grew older i started hating whistling with a passion.
My story is a bit long, so ill keep it short by saying my sensitivity for whistling has had on and off effects with me since i came down with tinnitus and hyperacusis in 2015.

In july, it started getting really bad. Not only was i getting agitated when people whistled, but half the noises out there had whistling after effects with me. Then the annoyance subsided for a while, but got really bad the last few weeks.

Then it happened at concert in a bathroom over the weekend. An older fellow in the next stall was whistling. To say i felt like my body being stabbed very painfully by him would be a gross understatement. Same thing happened the next day when i was the only passenger on a citybus in which the driver was whistling. I havent been normal since.

Now, 90% of sounds i hear half a whistling after effect. Whats gonna sound unusual is that harder and sharper sounds bother me much LESS than the soft whistling. Words cant say how soft whistling drives me insane.

What are you people doing to treat this?
Any help would be appreciated.
Thanx in advance.

Sep 20, 2016
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About to quit my job over whistling
by: Anonymous

Aversion to whistling is a very real disorder. My boss of 20 years has always whistled occasionally, but in the past year his whistling has gone to almost non-stop. I believe it is his way of coping with stress or diverting his brain from other thoughts, but it has gotten unbearable for me. I don't really know how to explain to him how deeply it effects me, and have started to contemplate leaving my position.

My greatest fear is that I would end up in a new job with more whistlers! So for anyone reading this thread, if you can't understand, at least try to be empathetic to those of us who really do have extreme difficulty being around whistlers. It is almost disabling.

Sep 17, 2016
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by: Anonymous

My problem is like the opposite

Sep 10, 2016
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Get over your lack of empthay
by: Anonymous

Life is full of "get over it" people. People with Misophonia are constantly told to get over it. "Well whistling doesn't bother me so you should learn how to deal with it and see a therapist" needs to be answered with "well I understand that not everyone sees the world the same so you should get over your lack of empathy, maybe there's medication for that you should see a doctor."

Sep 03, 2016
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Thank you for sharing this place
by: Anonymous

I am 46 years old woman, I am Mexican, I was 9 or 10 when I heard my little brother whistling and I realized that it bothered because he was looking at me like he was upset. My Daddy used to whistle all the time, but ever since, I couldn't stand it anymore, I feel the same that all of you: Pain in my soul, it makes me dizzy, it distracts me, I get extremely angry. I am a doctor specialist in anesthesia, I am an educated person, respectful and I don't understand why if someone finds out that it bothers me, they do it on purpose.

Why don't just respect at least the closed areas like work, libraries, churches, restaurants, please respect. I know whistling is like breathing, and I have been working really hard to get over it, if someone finds the way to tolerate whistles, please share it, and thank you, this is the first time in my life that I don't feel alone THANK YOU VERY MUCH!

Aug 24, 2016
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RE: I whistle get over it
by: AKM

Hello (I whistle get over it)

You are quite wrong. The absolute pure rage for people with disorder is very real. It is called Misophonia and is a relatively misunderstood neurological and psychological treatment to which there is no cure.

Go here to see a video clip from the Today Show about it..
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dupNQ0pr5HE

Go here fro info on the condition...
http://www.misophonia-uk.org/

Go to suffers, and then activation scale. I am a level 9. Just read it and try to imagine what I go through every time I here someone whistle.

There are other Misophnia triggers as well, it does not have to be whistling, but whistling is my worst trigger. I suffer so much that I cannot even explain it.



Aug 23, 2016
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Territoriality
by: Lochtiss

While I don't get bothered by the actual sound of whistling, it does annoy me when people do it. Men seem to do it much more than women, and it often feels as if many whistlers do it to announce their presence when entering a room, public restroom, or other space where other people might be. Whistling is offensive because it's a deliberate invasion of and disregard for everyone's sonic space - kind of like loud motorcycles - and demonstrates a selfish effort to stake out territory or assert dominance. The fact that there are so many comments on this topic suggests that this is not simply my whiny, insecure opinion.

Aug 18, 2016
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I whistle, get over it
by: Anonymous

It's the whistlers fault? You people are insane to blame anyone other than yourselves. Go and get treatment. Whistling has been a part of our society for ages and ages. More people aren't sensitive to it, so why should we not whistle because you don't like it? I enjoy whistling and if I know someone is intolerant to it, I don't, it's a simple as that. I once had a women put a cigarette out on me because I whistled.seems what she does was way more offensive than whistling, so grow up,get some earplugs and stop with the insanity. Okay thanks

Aug 11, 2016
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Increased whistling at the Olympics
by: Anonymous

I have never been a fan of high-pitched whistling at sporting events. In fact, I always take earphones and a radio to 1: listen to the game and 2: to attempt to drown out others who which to drone on with their high-pitched finger whistling. But one thing I have noticed, and it is quite prevalent on the NBC broadcast of the Olympics, it not only are people whistling at the events, but they are trying to be cute with the cadence of the whistling, but it seems to be a competition between others to see how cute they can get with the uniqueness of their whistling. I have had to turn the volume down because it is absolutely painful.

Aug 10, 2016
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non understanding whistlers
by: Anonymous

hi this is my second comment on whistling. I have read all the comments from so many different people who have suffered with noise. my husband and I thought it was us with the problem for being too sensitive. But when you look at the people who suffer with this sound, I now feel it's not us with the problem.ITS THE WHISTLERS.

the reason I have put in capital letters is because it's not us normal individuals it's the ones who inflict the noise that we cannot tolerate. it's just not fair. They need to step up and read our comments and understand they are hurting us all who suffer because of being sensitive to noise . we don't choose to be like this so please dont choose and whistle your tunes just think about spare a thought what you are doing.

if a person asks you please don't whistle ,then maybe you should ask yourself why we have asked you to stop in the first place. I hope and wish the people who do whistle, tap fingers, and strum senseless tuned realised they maybe hurting and annoying their family. friends, love ones,and neighbours. please be considerate to others and think that it's not socially acceptable to do Whistling and drive normal people to dis-pare because of your lack of understanding .

I do feel strongly about this because we had to give up our home because of a selfish whistler. not just us but six others neighbors. also I feel the whistlers also need therapy and help also . To get them to stop this annoying habit.

Aug 10, 2016
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whistling
by: Anonymous

MY husband and I both dislike whistling . my ears will not tolerate the sharp noise. I have never liked whistlers and have found as I got into my fifties it's got worse . in 2013 my husband and I bought a bungalow and after living in it for 3 months we found we had to sell mainly due to the neighbor two doors down who constantly whistled .

when challenged i was told I hv whistled all my life. I explained it was unbearable on my ears as well as my husband . only to discovers her own husband cant stand her whistling . he works away during the week and only comes home at weekend because her whistling drives him mad.

shes had several complaints from surrounding neighbours. the neighbour next door to her sold their bungalow also and the new people moved in to find the whistling became unbearable sitting in garden was impossible because of her whistling. so they sold the bungalow again .

what I found with this selfish woman was she had a habit with whistling and did it without even realising she was doing it. but it does drive you to distraction. So we had to sell our bungalow to get away and three other people also sold theirs too. mainly due to the fact she wouldn't stop and wouldn't move.

it was the only way to get away from this annoying woman and her whistling for all of us

Aug 09, 2016
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Why won't they just stop?!
by: Lucy

I have developed a sensitivity to whistling over the past decade, it didn't seem to be a problem when I was a child or a teenager. I've looked at the Misophionia scale (thanks to person here who posted that link) and I would say I'm a Level 4. I don't go into a rage with whistlers and it doesn't stop me going outdoors, etc. I had no idea there were people who got that way with trigger noises, I feel terrible for them, I hope they can find some coping mechanisms.

For me I will walk the other way if I'm coming up on someone whistling if possible. If it's at work (there is a persistent offender in the building) I'll start a conversation with the person to stop them whistling or surreptitiously cover my ears to avoid it. Some people might say it's a bit OCD to be freaked out by whistling, but I say it's the whistlers who are displaying compulsive behaviour.

I can't understand why anyone could not see that it's rude and annoying to keep on whistling in the presence of others, would they bang a saucepan or beat a drum or clap their hands incessantly in public or at work or at the shops and think that was OK?! Don't see why whistling should be any different.

Aug 04, 2016
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Sensitivity to whistling
by: Anonymous

I've always had sensitivity to whistling. Even the softest whistle sends stabbing pains through my ears and my eyes instantly well up with tears. I've never been able to explain it, it just hurts.

Jul 29, 2016
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Deep Breath every time i hear whistling
by: Anonymous

Oh so good to read that other folks are also driven crazy by this. I get really anxious, angry, and a little panicked at the office lately because we have ended up with a pair of very loud whistlers. It seems downright rude to me, like if I decided to play the drums or a damn harmonica all day.

I'm not sure what to do because I sound like a crazy person when I try to explain that I literally would rather hear nails on a chalkboard than these two guys whistling as loud as possible.

Jun 29, 2016
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Only Certain Whistling Bothers Me
by: Ryan Capital Hill

Interesting comments on this page, lots of perspectives. I am not annoyed at *all* whistling, all of the time. But I do get particularly annoyed if I'm in a quiet office environment, for example. Like, hey - people are trying to think over here could you give us a little space?

However, I know others might not even notice the whistling. If you are what is known as "highly sensitive" this could be what's triggering you, because you notice things others don't.

For me, I would just like to request to all whistlers everywhere at all times - I am not in an elevator, so please spare me your "sliding" up and down the scales elevator music whistling. Or come up with a catchy tune, at least. Come on, people! ;)

Jun 25, 2016
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re:Whistlers
by: Anonymous

I echo a lot of what others have already said..if it was a few seconds or even low..it's not bad..it's the
A holes who whistle as loud as possible for 20-30 minutes as if they
are giving the environment they are in a freaking concert! Annoying to no
end..selfishness with no consideration for anyone else but themselves.

May 11, 2016
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Dear whistlers: F*ck you
by: Anonymous

If you whistle you deserve to be sterilized and de-lipped so that you become incapable of contaminating your environment with the filth you constantly spew from your mouth.

Apr 02, 2016
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Im having trouble leaving my house
by: Anonymously

The caretaker of the building where I live, whistling all the time. As I have social phobia it took me four months and that while he was traveling to take courage and complain to the landlady of the building for him to stop whistling because of my fears and to leave him at least stop whistling next to my room. The landlady spoke to him and he continued whistling a few days after the alleged notice but in other parts of the house. And I had to take extreme courage and after hearing a song that encouraged me to talk to him and had a long conversation. He said he would stop.

Well, after a few days confined indoors, and left as soon as I passed him, a few seconds later he whistled loud humming again. The next time I talked to him complained again. I know him as a baggy bum will not stop, so I decided to stop leaving the house or only go out at night which is when he is no longer at the gate. My parents dont help me with this problem. He should at lest get fired for disobey the landlady but they are friends so of course the vagabond will not. Seriously in the whole street that bastard is the only one who keeps whistling all day.


Guys, I do not know why but every time I hear a whistle I lose my breath, extreme fear and I want to kill the whistler because I suffer a lot, the sound triggers an uncontrollable rage in me. That's the reason I stopped frequenting public places(only like two to five times a month). It's crazy right? Now 28 years old and my only luck is that my parents are rich. I've left several times libraries (yes guys who have whistle in libraries) and public buses when faced me with Whistlers.


If you who are reading this is a whistler understand that habit can be somewhat annoying, nobody is forced to hear his shrill whistle just because you can not find another way to express happiness or kill boredom. Not rent the others heard their bums, there is little that can be done against whistling noises. They have a sound frequency that hinders them into the house of others even if they are with the windows closed. Smoke a cigarette, read a book if you are bored but not whistle, this is a tremendous lack of education and good sense.



Mar 25, 2016
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I hate whistling too
by: Anonymous

I'm on the same boat too. I also have a serious sensitivity to whistling probably from having Asperger's. When I'm at work and a certain song plays over the speakers that I happen to like, one of my older co-workers likes to whistle loudly like a bird. When I hear that whistling from that co-worker, it makes me deeply frustrated to the bottom of my heart to the point that I get angry. that I want to either whistle hard at them or shout back at them. I try to relieve that problem by playing that same song without whistling during my free time.

Feb 23, 2016
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Why would you not be annoyed by whistling
by: Anonymous

My chronically depressed husband has whistled the same tune over and over and over for the last 20 years. When he stops taking his anti-depressant medication it gets worse, he whistles it faster and faster.

I disagree that you have a syndrome if it irritates you, it is people who obsessively whistle and fidget and cannot be still who have some sort of psychological problem. Their minds cannot relax and be calm, and they have no sensitivity to how they make people around them feel, which mature, adult people do.

Feb 02, 2016
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Oh thank god I'm not the only one ...
by: Anonymous

I really want to slap somebody when I hear them whistle. I think it may be a pitch issue, but even some humming does bother me. Also tapping sounds (ie someone tapping their foot or fingers). What gets me just as much as those are when someone shakes their foot. Even just a little bit. Even if I occasionally do it. The incessant, compulsive behavior is unbearable at times and I have to look away and/or have earbuds in ... which is difficult, given that I work in a news room.

Part of me thinks that it's a bit of OCD coming into play, but there's also very much a correlation with a couple of people in my past (both played the same role - mom's abusive boyfriend) with which there was a huge negative association. So, it could be a form of inadvertent PTSD or just negative association ingrained from a young age.

Jan 31, 2016
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Elevator whistling
by: Anonymous

You think just listening to whistling is bad, try riding an elevator and a whistler gets on with you and starts whistling, I got so angry from his whistling in a close confinement, I turn around and told him to stop it. He stopped. He continued after he got off of the elevator.

Jan 08, 2016
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whistling
by: Anonymous

I hate whistling also. I explain it to people like taking a fork and scraping it inside a wine glass.i hate it

Dec 27, 2015
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he is straight up legit
by: Anonymous

yes it is legitimate!! makes me angry immediately. that and humming, where you want to hurt them but you don't...

Dec 17, 2015
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Workplace
by: Davionymous again

Forgot to mention, I worked in an open "collaborative" environment at work, which meant it's a long hall full of people in desks. And the constant whistling -- if it wasn't one idiot, it's another.

I've stood up and yelled in pure psycho-mode, "WHO THE HELL IS WHISTLING!?!" and just lost it.

Yeah. I hate whistling.

Dec 17, 2015
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Stop The Effin Whistling
by: Davi--anonymous--Davionymous

Whistling seems to be a guy habit. I have never heard a woman whistle in my life.

Guys love to whistle in the bathroom, especially when peeing. I always feel like grabbing their heads and slamming it into the wall.

This one time this dude started whistling while peeing and before I could say or do anything, someone yelled "HEY!!!" from a stall.

That point on, I knew I wasn't alone.

Dec 14, 2015
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Whistling Rage
by: Jan

Since I was a child very young I hated whistling. Even then it drove me into a rage that all I wanted to do was punch the person in the mouth over and over.

It is really horrible for me. Someone at work was sitting at their desk and started whistling until I could stand it no longer and I told them to stop. I told them I had an inner ear problem and that whistling hurt my ears.

I cannot stand it!

Oct 11, 2015
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My latest response
by: AKM

Hello Anonymous Oct 11. 2015,

YOU have Misophonia (doesn't anyone read my posts?)Please tell your fiend that you have a Neurological and Psychological issue with sounds and you cannot listen to whistling. The tapping, i also have an issue with. that is part of the same, but instead of sound it is physical movement.


ONCE AGAIN GO TO:http://www.misophonia-uk.org/the-misophonia-activation-scale.html

to see where you are.
Good Luck

Oct 11, 2015
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He says I'm to sensitive...ugh !
by: Anonymous

I just had a very good friend over for playing some cards. He just left and I'm at peace now. When we were playing cards, he was whistling and also taping his fingers on the table!!! This was going on for 4 hrs !!!!! It happens all the time and he tells me I'm too sensitive!

Sometimes I don't even want to go anywhere with him in the car because he taps his foot on the gas pedal at a stop light or whistles again or taps his fingers on the dash board while he is waiting for the light to change ! What can I do ! It drives me nuts !

Oct 02, 2015
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Oh my god
by: Jeff

I can't believe there are this many people who have the same experience with whistling. I've had similar reactions to other sounds over the years, but whistling is far and away the most extreme.

Even worse, the sound gets stuck in my head, so even after they've stopped, it's all I hear. I've yet to snap on anyone, but come very close constantly.

The only coping mechanism I have is to play a song with whistling in it on my headphones. For whatever reason, that doesn't bother me, and it gets rid of the sound of the other person whistling. If I didn't have that, there's no way I would be able to function in society.


Sep 08, 2015
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by: Anonymous

For the past three years or so, I've grown to have a similar problem. My father (whom, I might add, I don't have a stable relationship with) whistles non-stop and has for as long as I can remember. It started small, I acquired a reflex of bringing my head and shoulder together and shuddering my neck until it became a completely uncontrollable action. More recently, maybe in the past year, it's gotten so bad that continuous whistling sends me into an emotional breakdown because it literally drives me mad. No matter where I go, it feels like I can't escape it until it stops. I'm starting to have the original neck shudder response to music and singing. I'm going crazy.

Sep 04, 2015
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Misophonia
by: AKM

Please, once again if you enraged by the sound of whistling, and you clench your fists and feet. If
you have a fight or flight reaction, and your heart is pounding, and all you can think of is PLEASE MAKE IT STOP, then you have Misophonia.
http://www.misophonia-uk.org

The above site will help you to understand it,also there is a Today Show episode clip on YouTube at
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dupNQ0pr5HE

It is only 5 minutes long.

Sep 04, 2015
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Married a whistler/singer
by: Anonymous

I have a whistling husband who began whistling non stop several months ago. I am extremely annoyed by it and just now he came in the room with a bag of Cheetos. I said "the only good thing about you eating those Cheetos is that you can't whistle while you're eating!" He said "I haven't been whistling".....totally denied that for the past hour he had whistled me into madness. I am a hearing aid wearer......would that cause my sensitivity to whistling? I have music anhedonia (sp?) also, meaning dislike of music. PS: He sings a lot, too! He's also a Lawrence Welk fan and records the old shows and plays them really loud. I just retire to my room. Married 61 years and I haven't killed him yet.

Aug 30, 2015
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whistling
by: sue

I have always hated whistling. I have never been able to understand why. If it is a sensory disorder then that makes sense. I also can't stand the sound of chewing or gum smacking. It's not as bad as it used to be for me and I have attributed to age and my hearing is diminishing. Glad to hear I am not alone

Aug 25, 2015
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whistling
by: Anonymous

I thought I was going mad. Ever since my menopause I have been over sensitive to whistling, I now have panic attacks if I am in a room with whistling. My husband thinks I am being negative and he is only being happy, he doesn't realise what torment it is for me. I am now sitting upstairs whilst he is whistling along to Pink Floyd. Ahhhhh. am I going mad. It's been like this for about a year now and not getting any better.

Aug 20, 2015
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Maybe I am normal after all
by: Brandi

I thought I was the only one that despises whistling. It gets me to the point where I wanna bash someone in the face with a brick because I figure they will no longer have the ability to whistle. I try to be considerate of others and not make a bunch of noise, etc., so it is beyond me why inconsiderate people have such a sense of entitlement that they think they should walk around and whistle all day. Then I hear a lot of people say "Well happy people whistle"..NO...ANNOYING people whistle. I definitely do not think the middle child is faking it and if the brothers keep it up they will end up setting the youngster off.

Aug 16, 2015
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And a reflection
by: Chuckodee

In most cases I believe that people who whistle just do it spontaniously without even reflecting. However, if a person can't stand whistling, that shows, and some people WILL for whatever reason use it against you to position themself and get the upper hand. However, I do not think these people REALLY know how much they're hurting the person that can't stand the whistling. If they did perhaps they'd be a lite more considerate, but I'm not completely sure.

Aug 16, 2015
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Finally
by: Chuckodee

Many many thanks for all who have posted in this thread, I feel better too. For a while I thought I was the only one suffering from this but obviously I'm far from alone, which at least is a start. Whistling has definitely diminished my life as I am a much more socially withdrawn person since I got sensitive to whistling. I can go shop and such but I certainly don't like it, I do it because I have too. In my younger days I really enjoyed eating out and walking around town, going to concerts etc. But I don't anymore because of whistling, which of course also goes on at work and it's a real pain.

Aug 10, 2015
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Whistlers Lack Courtesy
by: Anonymous

I stumbled upon this website and love it! I'm not alone-finally!! It is a bother when people around me whistle and they think it's cute. It's NOT cute! It's annoying!! This particular whistler is a family member who thinks that it shouldn't bother me, but it's just as dumb to say that a person falling out of a building shouldn't bother you. It does! I don't like hearing sticky bare feet on my wood floors. I don't like hearing people chew with their mouth open. I don't like when this family member talks with food in his mouth and then chokes! I don't like when he has restless legs when he should be still. He jiggles the furniture and it is annoying! Yesterday, the guy who sat behind me in church kept banging his foot on my chair. How rude! He did it multiple times throughout the serve. These people are completely unaware how they are coming across, but worse, they don't care. They still whistle, jiggle the furniture, and talk with food in their mouth even when they know you don't like it. They ought to go read some information about COURTESY and how courtesy shows the maturity level of a person. These people who walk around whistling are plain rude.

Jun 27, 2015
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Anti-Whistling Strategies
by: William

The whistler may or may not be whistling with malicious intent, but that doesn't matter to the whistling victim. His suffering is real and his misery should be considered a valid response. Would you expect him to "just ignore it" or "just deal with it" if his brother were poking him with a pin? I have found sound-masking to be a helpful strategy against whistling. Try the higher-pitched water trickling on http://freewhitenoise.com. There are several other good websites with free white noise. I know this strategy may not be useful for the middle son. But it might be worth having him try sound masking via a portable music player with headphones. The whistling-sibling issue will eventually resolve itself, but the middle son's sound sensitivity will remain an issue. He needs to find ways to help himself deal with unwanted noise. Silicone earplugs can be very useful at times. Sound-masking is another tool. The most important thing is for the parent to understand how very real and painful sound sensitivity can be. My dad used to play opera CDs at high volume and sing along while I was trying to study. He scoffed at my complaints, saying that everyone has the ability to filter out unwelcome noise. No, everyone does not. A parent has to be able to empathize. Your middle son needs you to get this.

Jun 17, 2015
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Are you being serious?
by: Chopin

You question whether your son is pretending to be annoyed by whistling? I question whether you're pretending not to understand that whistling is annoying. It can be seriously, seriously annoying.

Jun 11, 2015
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Hallway whistler
by: Anonymous

I have a new neighbor who whistles in the hallway on our floor. She does it when she takes her dog in and out a thousand times a day. She does it when she takes out the garbage or just passing through. I left a polite note in the hallways stating that with apartment living, we need to be aware of others and the noise that leaves with us from our apartments echoes loudly in the hallway and can be heard by others. for example, singing, whistling, door slamming. I heard her tear the note down on the morning and she continues which leads me to agree with another posters comments that whistlers tend to be of poor character. Does she really think we all want to hear her whistling?

I have made numerous complaints to management to no avail. Its a public area. Playing music in the hallways certainly wouldnt be tolerated. How is whistling different? When I hear her, I seriously want to smash furniture. Id like to go out in the hallway and scream at her and smash her. I just feel rage. If someone was to complain about noise I made, Id feel really bad and try to quiet down. Not this selfish excuse for a human being.

I am seriously thinking about moving after living peacefully here for 10 years.

Mar 25, 2015
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Misophonia
by: AKM

As I have said before; Misophonia. If these noises make you angry to the point of rage, then that is what it is. If it makes you want to kick the persons teeth in, then that's what it is. It is a horrible condition to have, and there is no known cure.
http://www.misophonia-uk.org/

I am not advocating the above web site, but it has helped me to better understand it. It is a Neurological and then Psychological condition. It effects the way we perceive sound.It is autonomic, and cannot be wished away; I wish it could be, as it has greatly affected my quality of life, unfortunately along with many other issues.

Mar 25, 2015
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Constant whistling-not aware he's doing it
by: Anonymous

My husband whistles the same line of a tune or hymn beautifully but it is driving me crazy. He does this while he is reading the newspaper or a book. He does not know when he is doing it. I have asked him what tune he was whistling and he didn't know he was doing it. This has been going on over the years but the last two days it makes me feel like I am going crazy hearing the same thing over and over. I cannot have a thought of my own. I can hear him throughout the house. So today I started closing the door just to clear my head. I have brought it up repeatedly but he still does it. Today he said we will stop at Walgreens and buy ear plugs. Wish I had an answer to cure it.

Feb 06, 2015
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Misophonia
by: AKM

It is Misophonia; a rare but very real condition.
http://www.misophonia-uk.org/

I am a level 9 for whistling and bird chirping. Also the sound of bass in loud unwanted music.

Jan 20, 2015
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My husband
by: Anonymous

My husband has this annoying habit. He knows it bothers me. The noise kills my ears and he thinks it is funny. He does it just to see how long I can stand it before I start screaming at him.

Jan 08, 2015
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Solution
by: Anonymous

i get it im more than annoyed by whistling sounds even more the beeping reverse sound of certain types of commercial vehicles, unfortunately we all have the same annoyance, i need a solution what can be done about it....

Jan 05, 2015
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whistlers
by: Hazel

Hi i have read your comments , i too have a problem with the random senseless whistling but i can control my anger by counting to 10 in my head whilst reminding my self it is not directed at me, but they are (sad bastards )or by striking an equally random conversion with the person and again if they carry on blowing .Work colleague are a different matter. At first i try the talking method but sometimes i confess my hang up to which the stupid people whistle ha ha funny ! Others are polite and stop ! Which i follow up with a look if they slip up .Having opened up i have a problem with the stupid people they continue to torture me to which i have to go away an calm down because i feel like committing GBH .later i explain its like fear of flying or even fear of snakes or nails on a blackboard it sometimes works .Hope this helps

Dec 21, 2014
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Grrrr!
by: ms727231@yahoocom

Yes as a kid certain sounds drove me crazy and it was emotionally draining. As an adult, it is no better! Its whistling, bass noise, or omg! My grandmothers obessive sniffing habit, no cold, but she sniffs 365 days a year!!! And i have thought really bad thoughts too! Lol So i sympathize with all of you! Bless you!

Dec 12, 2014
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Glad I'm not the only one
by: Anonymous

I am so glad to see that I am not the only one who feels this way about people who whistle. I just can't stand it.

It annoys me most when I am listening to a song that is playing at my work and somebody walks by and starts to whistle to it. How rude, right?
Not only that, but I also hate being in public and having to listen to somebody's phone go off. They just let it ring while they are looking at who it could be that's calling them. Okay, first, turn off your ringer! Second, I put my phone on vibrate in public because I am considerate, unlike these people. Third, at least turn your ringer down!

Another one that bothers me: people who have the nerve to play music on their phone and walk around public places. Really? Where are your manners? They do sell headphones for a reason. Buy some.

And last but not least, I also hate when people feel the need to rev up their engine over and over again. Okay, we get it. Your vehicle is loud and sounds like crap. Congratulations. While on the topic of vehicles, let's not forget the ones who feel the need to blare their music in their car so that everyone driving around them hears nothing but the BOOM BOOM of the bass. Seriously... and not only hearing the annoying noise, but actually feeling the vibration. Is your hearing really that bad? If not, it will be!

I should also add that some singers make me want to cut my ears off. If they strain their voice or sound whiny or high pitched, it has the same effect on me as what I listed above.

Sorry for the book...I just had to get this all out with people who can understand me. :)

Dec 11, 2014
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Workplace Horror
by: Anonymous

Not only does my boss whistle a little tune of death, but my coworker cracks her knuckles. It's a symphony made for a nightmare in my brain.

I totally agree with the previous poster about proving how happy they are by whistling without any care of the people around them. Has no one in their life told them how annoying the sound can be to others?

My cringe and grimace let my coworker know my dislike for knuckle-cracking, but she thinks I don't hear every time she does it. Note: she's 15 feet away.

Then, at home, my constant "Chew with your mouth closed!" falls on deaf ears. I wish everyone heard what I hear so they could be more sympathetic to those around them.

Nov 04, 2014
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Thank you!
by: Anonymous

So glad to know it's not just me that's driven insane by whistling! It sets my teeth on edge - why do people feel the need to do it in public places (like supermarkets)?

Nov 02, 2014
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Whistling In Commercials
by: Nabil Gowdey

Whistling in general is annoying- what's worse is this ubiqutous and insidious trend to include whistling in EVERY damn commercial! Is there a top-secret marketing study that determined whistling increases attention to message? - I'm curious...

Oct 02, 2014
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whistling through his teeth
by: steve

It's the ones that do it through their teeth. Just a constant indescribable annoying whistle. And the person I'm talking about has extremely bad perio disease (halitosis) to go with it. It takes all the self control I have to not say something to him but I feel like it would be offensive to him because we are friends and we work together.

Sep 12, 2014
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Depends
by: Anonymous

For me it makes a big difference on how the person whistles, I'm actually a whistler myself but only when I think I'm alone and listening to music. The only person that drives me the absolute edge within seconds is my dad, his whistling is obnoxiously loud and plain bad. I can't "just" ignore it, it is the same as if someone scratches their nail over a chalkboard for a really long period of time.
When whistling has a clear melody and is not too loud it doesn't bother me.

Jul 07, 2014
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It's annoying
by: Anonymous

I agree. I actually confronted a whistler who was whistling in Starbucks. When he saw it annoyed me, he got all bright eyed and amused and whistled further. His red neck wife cheered him on.

People who tend to whistle, in my experience, tend to be on the low end of the social order, usually uneducated and of poor character. They don't care about invading the auditory space of other people. Try asking someone to stop whistling and check the reaction. A decent person would quiet down. Whistlers want to impose their whistling on others...

Having said that, I am also annoyed by other sounds like newspaper shuffling, particularly how readers shake the newspaper to read it, then fold and stream their fingers along the folds, and open it again, and furiously rustle.

Sugar packs also drive me insane...particularly the way people furiously shake the sugar packs or bang them on the table like a child banging pots in order to get the sugar to drop to the bottom. It makes so much noise. Strangely intelligent people know how to gentley hold sugar at the top of the packet and hold it so the sugar granules fall to the bottom....Idiots shake the packets like there is no tomorrow...they are almost as annoying as the idiot whistlers.

Jun 28, 2014
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errrrrrr!
by: Anonymous

I am bipolar and hate whistling. I get the urge to bitch slap them and tape their pucker lips with duct tape. When in an agitated state, I really think I could punch a chronic whistler. Now Flo from Progressive has a sickening whistle thing going on. On top of whistling, I can't tolerate booming bass or a Sonic Care toothbrush. My shrink thinks it's funny. My family thinks I'm nuts (I guess I am but they are being mean.) Just saying. I have been sensitive to this all my life, but summertime is here, bloody heck. Bring on the noise. Maybe I'll go live in the woods in a tent. Far away from the noise. I just keep getting angrier, but I guess it is getting rampant on TV. FML


Jun 24, 2014
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mikej1592 is right on
by: Old Timey

Thanks Mike. There needs to be a public campaign against whistling that pushes whistling to the very fringes of society. Similar to very restricted smoking areas, offering a small, soundproof box located strategically in a business where uncontrollable whistlers can discharge their vile noise could be a viable alternative.

Jun 20, 2014
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Eek! High pitch whistling is the WORST!
by: Maria

My husband has a habit of doing this and although I have tried to explain how it affects me, he acts annoyed/offended every time I ask him to stop.He also likes to listen to jazz music that has high pitched instruments, but at least he waits until he thinks I am out of hearing shot of the jazz.

May 29, 2014
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never trust a whistler
by: mikej1592

An old dude I used to work with always used to say they didn't hire a canary. He also said never trust a whistler, they have either done something suspicious or they are about to.

I agree to an extent, I absolutely hate the sound of whistling, not because I cannot, I can and have whistled in the past but now it just drives me apeshit to hear someone do it, especially at work when I am trying to concentrate.

They are attention whores that want to show off how happy they are or whatever, either way they are invading my personal auditory space. Even ringtones with whistling in it irritate me to no end.

Please stop the insanity and teach people that there is a time and place for doing it, in public around strangers or people you know it bothers is NOT the right place.

Apr 14, 2014
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Your 11 year old has the problem
by: Anonymous

Instead of assuming that your 13 year old has a hearing problem because he doesn't like whistling, why don't you check up on your 11 year old's obsessive compulsive whistling disorder?

Mar 07, 2014
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The Real Problem
by: Old Timey

I blame the older and younger brothers. The middle child that hates whistlers sounds very well adjusted. Whistlers are despicable violators of my auditory peace and should be shunned to the highest extent in a civilized society.

Feb 10, 2014
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Whistling
by: Anonymous

People whistle for the same reason little kids bang pots and pans together and scream: they're bored and want attention. I hear all the time that people whistle because they're ever so happy and cheerful and wonderful. I wish I could stuff a looping tape in their head of nonstop whistling. Let's see how they like it after hearing it for 24 hours straight.

Jan 23, 2014
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Whistling
by: Ruba

Reading this article has confirmed that I am not going mad. I hate whistlers, finger tappers, etc. Not only because I do think I have some sort of hypersensitive hearing problem but it is also the idea that the whistlers and the tappers think that when the room is quiet they feel the need to fill the space with noise. I have even been visiting friends and we were all watching telly and one of the group thought it OK to whistle whilst the film was on. We were all have a bit of a natter after the film and this person still whistled whilst other people were talking. Just plain rude. Perhaps we don't have a problem after all and perhaps the whistlers and the finger tappers need to have a little more consideration for the people around them. And worst of all, sitting in the doctors' waiting room next to a humming finger tapper when you don't feel well...

Jul 21, 2013
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Whistling wierdness!
by: Anonymous

I totally sympathise with your sons situation and his reaction to whistling.

As a fellow sufferer, I can tell you without any doubt that he is not in control of his reaction to the noise stimulus and no amount of willpower alone will reduce its effect on him.
It is most certainly a fight or flight response from which he will feel tremendously angry, with a wish to physically stop the person making the noise and he will feel an overwhelming desire to move away and out of range of the noise.
He will have feelings of dreading the noise starting up, often hours before coming into a situation where he is exposed to it,and this will have an overall negative effect on his general mood and demeanour, even when the noise is not being made.

My apologies if this seems a negative summary of the situation, but these are the facts. No matter what spin we put on this situation, the fact remains that millions of people around the world are suffering in silence from this condition and I cannot find much in the way of action or advice on how to deal with the problem from medical or therapeutic organisations.

I personally try to deal with this noise sensitivity by remaining as relaxed as possible, using steady breathing techniques and by using silicone earplugs whenever this is practical. I also try not to get into a situation where I'll be exposed to the noise, but I understand that this is not always practical, especially in the family surroundings.

In summary, I would ask you to be as patient and understanding as you possibly can and understand that this is a very real and debilitating condition for your son, which he will struggle to manage and will have a very real effect on him.
I would also encourage him to talk about his feelings and how he honestly feels about his situation and his reactions to the noise stimulus as this will help him to feel less isolated and encourage him to feel better understood and accepted. It is also helpful to discuss any paranoia that comes with this, e.g. feelings that the person making the noise is doing this on purpose to annoy him. In fact, they probably aren't even fully aware of the effect they are having on the sufferer and it is not being done out of spite or disrespect, it is just the way it is. a non-confrontational discussion between the sound maker and the sufferer could also be very useful, if properly managed, which would allow both parties to understand each others position a little better and possibly reduce the antagonism that may exacerbate reaction to the noise.
Hope this information is useful to you and I hope I have not come across as patronising or not recognising the work that you will already be doing to help your son.

The very best of luck to you and your family and I sincerely hope that some form of help/treatment will become available in the very near future to help us all with this debilitating and frustrating condition.

Apr 09, 2013
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Thanks
by: Anonymous

Wow, thanks for the Misophonia information. It is great to see articles about the sound sensitivity.

Apr 08, 2013
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Google Misophonia, You have it!
by: OMGCarol

Once people realize that they have Misophonia or 4S- Soft Sound Sensitivity Syndrome, life is better simply by realizing people are not purposely "hurting" you.

Feb 26, 2013
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"Why he just ignore it?"
by: Anonymous

As someone who despises whistling, it's laughable, almost rude to ask him to just "ignore it."

For someone who hates whistling, it's about as easy to ignore as a jackhammer at full blast. It's piercing, shrieking, and irritating and makes my head feel like it's caught in a vicegrip.

Let's see you work or sleep next to a construction site and see how easy it is to ignore sounds you can't stand.


Aug 19, 2012
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want to help myself with my whistling husband
by: Beth

Try living 20 mother loving years with a constant whistler; that's 24/7 annoying...high-pitched; not even good whistling. About to file for divorce based on excessive whistling...can't take another second..i am a good person.

Jun 23, 2012
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Sensivity to whistling
by: Anonymous

well personally i enjoy the call of birds or so i think it doesn't make me angry anyways. I almost find it refreshing they are adept whistlers even for year old birds. But it's like any other skill either you envy the persons talent or despise the sounds they are making while struggling to do it properly.

Jun 23, 2012
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Amateur whistlers are the worst
by: Redrock

I've listened to professional whistlers, and i enjoyed it. if not overdone it can sound great over music. Theme songs even have music with whistling that is largely recognized. But being a light sleeper i get pissed off easily about being kept up. And when someone habitually makes it a point to whistle out of tune while i'm trying to get to bed not even a song just random notes. you better believe that i want to smash whatever is nearest to me. Not to mention the fact that said person in question doesn't whistle when i'm not sleeping only when i'm in bed. I suppose it's a matter of apathy in his case. What gets to you is Sort of the possibility he is conspiring against you and doing it out of spite. Maybe this is just a way of justifying my irrationality but i think it'd be reasonable if someone took their whistling elsewhere when someone is sleeping. Well all that aside if i do suffer from SPD think it's a little to late to treat that now. But better to identify the problem at an early age.

Apr 09, 2012
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whistling
by: Anonymous

i wanna kill my self when i hear my dad whistling he does it constantly.
even when i sleep he just cant stop it i said him a couple of times that it bothers me in the past but he simply ignored it.
when i sleep and he wakes me with whistling i throw shoes at the door he stops for 2 minuets and then he starts again.

Jan 16, 2012
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Whistling
by: Skittle

I hate it when my mom does it... makes me mad automatically with a tantrum

Aug 07, 2011
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whistling drives me nuts
by: Anonymous

I am 52 yr old woman that wants to rip someones head off when I hear them whistle. I can only compare the annoyance to a faucet dripping in the middle of the night...one that you have no control over shutting off!! I have actually had to put my hands over my ears in public places so I don't start mouthing off to the whistler. Every muscle in my body tightens, and I actually can feel my stomach start turning! Don't know how, when or why I started feeling like this, but I wish I could at least tolerate it!!

Jun 19, 2011
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Sensitivity to whistling
by: Michele B

I am not sure how to describe my sensitivity but I can agree with one posting it is fight or flight that occurs when I come in contact with that particular noise.

I am thinking it may be the pitch or the frequency of the sound that is heard above all other sounds.

When this happens to me, I get very agitated that I just have to have it stop or I have to remove myself from the area.

Not all sounds bother me so I have to think it has something to do with the pitch and my hearing ability.

I guess it is somewhat like a dog that hears a high frequency noise and is effected by the sound.


Jun 19, 2011
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sounds sensitive to me...
by: Anonymous

I know I have had SPD most of my life!! Certain types of whistling drive me INSANE!!! it is the fight or flight trigger that makes him instantly angry! Maybe you can find a way to convince your other child to limit it to outside or when your sensitive son is not around. My son's OT suggested that I wear headphones and listen to music during the day to help filter the noises that make me crazy. the only problem with that is that I need to hear everything that my 6 yr old SPD/ adhd/ OD etc boy is into! :) I have figured out almost every possible sound in the house, so i know when he is into mischief!
good luck!

Jun 18, 2011
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for Michelle
by: Anonymous

Michelle, can you explain to me what it feels like that you can't handle the whistling? Or is it just something that you can't explain? When I was explaining to our oldest son (15 years old who was away at camp so he missed the discussion at counseling) about the possible SPD, he said that the middle doesn't even like the birds chirping. He doesn't get instantly angry with them, but he does get annoyed by them. I am just curious what it feels like.

Jun 18, 2011
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Sensitivity to whistling
by: Michele B

I do not know if this will help you but I can relate to that also.

I am a 58yr old female and my husband use to whistle to annoy me because he knew it would drive me crazy.

I would like to mention something else, if we went to a movie and someone would be eating out of a bag of chips we would have to move because I could not take the sound.

Hope this can shed some light on your situation.

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