Should I tell my sister that I think her son has autism?

by Michelle
(Cypress, TX)

My nephew is 6 years old and has atypical behavior. He doesn't look people in the eyes. When you hug him, he doesn't hug back. He just stands there very stiff. He doesn't understand pretend play. Everything is literal to him. He doesn't have any friends, because he has trouble relating to other children. Transitioning from one activity to the next is a struggle for him. He is clumsy too.


Right now his sister plays with him, but I worry about when he becomes a teenager. Kids can be so mean at that age. I have told her my concerns before, but my sister can be very passive about stuff. I know it is hard to hear that your child has a developmental disorder because my 3 year old has SPD. Should I bring it up again or just drop it.

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Nov 25, 2009
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ABSOLUTELY.....
by: kim

My sister (who i don't get to see, except every couple years) knew my son had autism.
I asked 4 different Peds, what they thought and they all poopooed me. "He'll grow out of it"
Then he had a vaccine and he was gone for about 10 months. Lost. nothing....

But he was already rocking incessantly from when he could sit up,...... which was why i kept asking pediatricians if i should be concerned.

Well i got to see my sister finally, who had worked with autistic children. I was so happy to be with my family.
I noticed ( and clearly remember) her watching my son, as he rocked constantly and at that time,....... was gone...
I thought she was watching him because he looked so much like her son....
AFTER i got a diagnosis, i started to put ALOT of things together, and realized, SHE KNEW, but didn't tell me!!!
I guess she didn't want to be the bearer of bad news, BUT, I was still hurt that she didn't tell me.
I asked her.."you knew, didnt you?"
And she confessed, "didnt want to make a big deal", and she has ALOT on HER plate.

My point is, TELL HER!!
Print out info and just tell her to read it!!!
Thats what my cousin did for me, and to this day, i owe her big time,.... because of her telling me to read stuff, (she didnt actually tell me), she wanted me to realize it on my own,......... cool way to handle it!
Because of her, my son got into early intervention at 2.............
What a difference it has made in our lives.
He is now 5 and a half, still has alot of isues, BUT, i CANT IMAGINE, what he would be like now without all the help he got! He has aspergers and SPD. God love him!!!
I love the person that he is, i wouldn't change him, except for the things that cause him pain and anxiety.
BUT,... because of someone telling me, pointing me in the right direction, life will be ok!!!
Good luck, and God Bless you and your whole family, Kim

Nov 23, 2009
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JUST BE THERE
by: Anonymous

TRY AND GET THE MOM TO PUT THE CHILD IN EARLY INTERVENTION PRESCHOOL TYPE PROGRAMS ,AND MAYBE GO TO DR APPOINTMENTS AND SEE IF THE DR IS SEEING SOME STUFF. GOOD LUCK AND GOOD SIS FOR WATCHING

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